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Friday Feeling – Self Care

”Please ask yourself daily;What would I do if I weren’t so bloody afraid? And then just do it.”

 

Take the utmost best care of yourself

I’m introducing a new theme here on the blog – Friday Feeling. A positive feeling or mental habit that we could all benefit from by incorporating it into our daily lives. And what better way to kick it off than with the habit of SELF CARE.

It doesn’t mean you’re selfish when you do things for yourself, or when you make time for the things that make you feel good about yourself. Self care helps you build trust within yourself. You don’t need another person to come and save you; you make yourself happy by being true to yourself and by living by your heart.

When you feel good about yourself you automatically become a happier person. And that happy person will have plenty of love, kindness and energy to give to other people. You’re not the only one who will benefit from taking care of yourself, the people around you will most certainly enjoy your most vibrant self. When you’re kinder to yourself your kindness contaminates the world.

 

Make a list of things that make you happy.

Make a list of things you do every day.

Compare the lists.

Adjust accordingly.

 

At the moment my self care mantra goes a bit like this:  ”A handful of curiosity, plenty of creativity and massive confidence fill my heart each and every day.”

For me self care is enjoying a long, hot bath, writing poetry, taking a long walk in nature sipping on an expensive latte, enjoying the sea, curling my hair, eating a green smoothie and enjoying a cinnamon bun at the same time, spending time doing nothing if that’s what I feel like in the moment, it’s doing yoga, respecting my body and all that it’s capable of, reading books and embracing everything I’m feeling. It’s loving life, and knowing that life loves me back.

 

Self care reminders;

  1. Never apologize for how you feel.
  2. Give yourself permission to be where you are, and to still be loved for it.
  3. The way you speak to yourself matters. Be impeccable with your words.
  4. You can’t pour from an empty cup. Take care of yourself first.
  5. Let your soul glow.
  6. Fall in love with taking care of yourself – Body, mind & soul.
  7. Know that you deserve the best, and nothing less.
  8. Every once and a while take a break from your own thoughts.
  9. Life is a gift wrapped up in red ribbons. Remember that every day you wake up. The biggest gifts of them all. Take care of it. Use it wisely.
  10. Stop saying yes to shit you hate. Life is too short.

 

 

you carry so much love in your heart.

give some. to yourself.

– r.z.

 

Linda

Killing time

”…and he knew she was much more than a sentence. she was the entire storyline. the unwritten ending.”

 

Looking for a way to kill time? Write.

”Write hard and clear about what hurts.” – Ernest Hemingway

Or just write whatever comes to your mind. Do whatever floats your boat; spend your precious time wisely. Focus on what makes you happy. Focus on being brave. Recognize the little voice in your head that says you can’t do it. Get rid of self-doubt. Dear human, you can do anything. Have faith in yourself. Be confident. You might feel scared. Alone. That’s totally fine. You’re human. But remember, you’re never alone with a sky full of stars. Fall deeply, madly in love with yourself. With your life. And the world will fall deeply, madly in love with you.

Some things you better not ever forget. 

 

 

in every one of his dreams

she exists

and with the sun

she disappears

 

 

she laughs

and he knows

the world needs

more of her

 

 

their goodbye became

the most beautiful hello

 

 

Paint Your Words

”Meet me at midnight underneath the stars. I’ll bring my books and you’ll bring your heart.”

 

 

she loves too deep

in a shallow world

 

 

the midnight sky

turned her into

a wildly creative

masterpiece

just as her smile

turned him into

a dangerously naive

human

 

 

her smile may be sweet

her gaze may be innocent

her acts may be the kindest

the world ever experienced

she may be the face

you can’t forget

but that soul

that soul is nothing but

pure lust

deep within

lies a dark, deep

intense desire

how dare you

neglect 

a flaming fire

 

 

come closer.

pay attention,

and you’ll notice

the tears in her eyes

are actual stars.

 

 

some call it love

others call it pain

he calls it her

 

 

time stands still

in moments

your heart dies

 

 

from all of the chaos

a flower started to blossom

 

 

dreaming of her

is his great escape

 

 

with her

he is his most powerful self

 

 

/L.M.V

 

Motivational Mantras

 

She possesses a peaceful confidence that screams power. She is humble, but fierce. She is stable, with a rebellious soul. She is loving, but far from naive. She chooses her struggles wisely, cause she always knew what she wanted. Dangerously intelligent she’s prepared to fight. And when that time comes;fight she does.

 

I haven’t yet written down any actual goals for 2018. At least not any clear and precise ones. But what I’ve done is that I’ve written down how I want to feel 2018. I think that is as important as setting goals; If you know how you want to feel when you travel through life the things you want, need and long for the most will come to you more effortlessly.

Why do you want to achieve certain things? Why are they important to you? Is it just because you want to impress others, or do you want to impress yourself, improve yourself?

I’ve written down 9 life mantras that I will strive to live by this year. I’ve already been incorporating these thoughts during the past months, but I feel I need to take them more seriously – and what better way to start than writing them down.

Motivational Mantras

 

  1. ”Life doesn’t happen to me, it happens for me.”
    Everything that happens to you happens for a reason. You can either see every setback as something negative or you can choose to see it as a chance to grow, and to get to know yourself better. To be grateful for everything you’ve been through, cause it has made you who you are. Sometimes a negative situation happens cause it’s the universe’s way of giving you the wake-up call you so desperately need. If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.
  2. ”I’m right where I need to be in order to get to where I want to go.”
    Trust the process. Trust that you’re exactly where you need to be. Be patient, and know that you can’t rush something you want to last forever.
  3. ”Life is a playground, and shouldn’t be taken too seriously. Enjoy the ride!”
    Life is meant to be enjoyed. Don’t waste your life feeling sorry for yourself. Life is amazing and you’re part of it. Take every chance you get to do the things that make you come alive. It doesn’t have to be anything huge; if you like to play the piano – play the piano, if you like to feed the poor – feed the poor, if you like to write – write. Don’t complicate things. And remember to smile. To laugh. Life should be enjoyed with pure bliss.
  4. ”Kill them with kindness.”
    Kindness is power. There’s too much hatred, jealousy and negativity floating around already, we don’t need more of that. The world needs more kindness. Be kind to people although they might treat you bad – they have their own struggles. And remember, nothing a person says or do is because of you, it’s always because of them. A person that is happy and content with life doesn’t speak badly about another person. Show love to the people who treat you bad, they are probably the ones that need it the most. Remember, it requires a very strong human to be kind in every situation. Being kind doesn’t mean you’re weak; You’re above the insecurity, the hate, the jealousy. When you’re sure about yourself, confident within yourself, kindness will easily shine through you.
  5. ”I can achieve anything I set my mind to.”
    If you want something bad enough you make sure you’ll get it, one way or the other. You fight for it. You work hard, and you don’t give up when it gets tough. Because baby, it will. It will most likely get tough as hell.
  6. ”The now is wow.”
    The present moment is all you got. Stop complaining about your past, the negative things that happened to you. They don’t define you. When you learn to appreciate the present moment you’ll start to live life to its fullest. Know that there’s hope in the future. All these wonderful things that will come to you. You just have to be open to receiving them.
  7. ”The secret of getting ahead is getting started.”
    Sometimes when I think about the things I’d like to achieve the feeling of powerlessness comes over me. It feels that the dreams are too far away. In those situation the best thing to do is to take it step by step. Every small step counts. Sometimes you just have to start and see where it will take you.
  8. ”Don’t be like the rest of them, darling.”
    Comparing yourself to others is the quickest way to hell. You’ll never feel satisfied if you practise comparison. Instead think about your unique traits. How can you improve your strengths? How can you become even better at what you’re doing? You might have to gain more knowledge, to work harder. Practise the things you’d like to get better at.
  9. ”Life happens outside of my comfort zone.”
    I’ve decided to take my gym and training philosophy outside the gym. Meaning that when I think I can’t do anymore, when I think I’ve had enough that’s when the growth will come. That’s when the magic starts to happen. You won’t grow if you train the same day after day, lift the same weights, do the same reps. You’ve to challenge yourself. It’s through the challenges you grow, both mentally and physically.

Goodbye 2017

”The best view comes after the hardest climb.”

 

Every day you should learn something new. Every year you should grow. I’ve never considered New Years Eve like a time to start over, however, this year I see it as the most perfect day to leave everything that do not serve me behind, and believe that everything do happen for a reason. It’s not what happens to us that defines us, it’s our response to what happens. And response is something we can choose.

Everything I’ve been through has made me who I am

2017 has been one of the toughest years ever, nevertheless, I feel I’ve grown tremendously. 2017 was the year I became more aware. I’ve learned to become more mindful, more present. And most importantly, I understand that I can always trust my intuition. I can trust myself, and all I’m capable of. I know I’m unique – we all are. I know I was meant to inspire other humans, I might not know exactly how, but I know that everything will eventually fall into place. It’s through hardship you learn to appreciate life, it’s how you get to know thyself.

I’ve learned a lot about myself this year. I’ve learned how important it is to be grateful. I’ve learned how important is is to show kindness. To forgive. And to forget. I’ve learned to be true to myself, express my emotions and not be afraid to be. To be me.

I know that success is something we all have inside of us. We just have to dig deep, learn to love ourselves, the good and the bad.

I’ve struggled with low self-esteem, compared myself with others. Been listening to my negative thoughts, over and over again. When I woke up this morning I had this strange feeling. I felt at peace. It felt like all the negativity had left my body over night. I felt reborn. I now know I’m perfect, just as I am. I don’t have to be anyone else. I’m perfect – we all are.

I know I want to encourage people to believe in themselves. I want to be able to inspire everyone to dare to dream big. To never lose hope. We’re all perfectly imperfect humans. We all make mistakes, we live and we learn. It’s life, and it’s beautiful, not only when it’s flawless.

I’m grateful for you 2017, although you put me to the test. You thought me how to be a strong human. You made me understand that I’m capable of achieving anything.

I know I’m exactly where I need to be, here, surrounded by love ❤

/Linda

Sweet breakfast porridge

This is a deliciously sweet porridge recipe that satisfies every sweet tooth. Perfect as breakfast on New Years Eve or New Years Day.

I’m a huge fan of nutella and porridge. They marry very well together. Feeding my soul.

A simple recipe, yet extremely tasty. I recommend you to try it out ❤

Creamy steel cut oats with vegan nutella

Ingredients:

1.5 dl gluten free steel cut oats

3 dl unsweetened almond milk

1 tbsp chia seeds

Salt & cinnamon

Topping:

Vegan chocolate hazelnut spread, maple syrup & hemp seeds

Instructions:

  1. Cook the oats in almond milk on low heat until creamy.
  2. Add chia seeds, salt & cinnamon.
  3. Eat with maple syrup, vegan nutella and hemp seeds. 

 

 

Dear 2018

… You are like a newborn relationship. Exciting and deeply treasured.

”Life is uncertain. Life is beautiful. Accept where you are, and be proud. But most of all be kind. Always be kind to yourself, fellow humans, the planet and the animals. You have one body. We have one Earth. Show respect, kindness and courage. Life may be uncertain, but we all got a chance of making something beautiful out of it. Be bold, take the chance.”

Dear 2018, I heart you. I heart you like I heart the beauty of nature. The sound of the ocean, the whispers in the wind, the calmness of the forest. The sky so endless it makes us believe everything is possible. I believe the sun will set every night, I believe the sun will rise every morning. How can there not be magic with a nature so magical?

Welcome! I look forward to getting to know you. Together we can achieve anything, darling friend.

Darling lover, life begins now.

 

never rush something you want to last forever.

 

Excerpt from my ebook “SHE IS BEAUTIFUL, BUT FOR HOW LONG.” 

Buy my ebook here.

 

 

101 Lifetime Goals

”Goals have a finish line. Dreams never have to end.”

 

Don’t confuse your dreams with goals. Dreams are imaginary, goals produce tangible results. Goals usually have a deadline, either in the near future or several years from now. Dreams are simply dreams, if they aren’t turned into goals.

Achieving a goal requires action, and you won’t reach them over night. They usually require hard work, focus and determination. However, if you want them bad enough you won’t give up on them. You shouldn’t give up on your dreams either, but remember that dreaming doesn’t take you anywhere.

It’s important to have both short-term and long-term goals since it brings joy, purpose and meaning into your life. Begin by writing your goals down; it’s an excellent way to make them more specific, more tangible. You can introduce weekly goals, monthly goals, one year goals, five year goals etcetera.

Write a list with several goals you’d like to achieve. Since some goals will take longer to achieve than others it’s good to include short-term goals that are somewhat easier to accomplish. You’ll have more to strive for and more opportunities to check them off your list.

I’ve never been good at writing my goals down. I’ve always been more of a dreamer to be honest. But it’s never too late to change. Although I haven’t been putting them on paper I still have had goals (and still have) and many of them I’ve achieved. But until now they’ve been in my head. However, the past months I’ve become much better at writing them down.

Take some time and think about what goals you want to achieve in your lifetime. You might regard some of them as simply dreams, but if you find yourself dreaming about something every day maybe it’s about time that you take action. Remember; you don’t have to know exactly how you’re going to reach that goal, just be brave and take that first step – every tiny step counts.

I advice you to write all of your goals down, big or small. I read a blog post about 101 goals to achieve in life so I got inspired to write a similar list myself. I haven’t yet finished my list – it’s a work in progress.

My ”101 lifetime goals” list

(The goals I’ve accomplished so far are in bold font.)

Travel

  1. Tokyo, Japan
  2. Paris, France
  3. Australia
  4. London, England
  5. Hiking in the Alps (Austria, Switzerland or Italy)
  6. Cinque Terre
  7. Safari in Africa (Tanzania, Zimbabwe, Namibia or Kenya)
  8. Reykjavik, Iceland
  9. Vienna, Austria
  10. Seychelles Island
  11. New York
  12. Hong Kong
  13. Rio de Janeiro, Brazil
  14. Cuba
  15. Dubai
  16. Thailand

Adventure

  1. Skydive (I’m seriously afraid of heights)
  2. Learn to surf
  3. Learn to snowboard
  4. Visit Nasa
  5. Go on a husky safari
  6. Hiking in the Alps
  7. Watch an opera or ballet
  8. Go on a road trip through Europe
  9. Visit a vineyard in France

…………..

Personal Achievements

  1. Run a marathon
  2. Run a a half marathon in 1 hour 50 minutes
  3. Write my Master’s thesis
  4. Bachelor’s Degree in Journalism
  5. Start a blog
  6. Write a cook book
  7. Take a nutrition course
  8. Meditate at least 10 minutes every day for 3 months
  9. Publish a book
  10. Walk the Cinque Terre trail
  11. Write a short book with poems (self-published)
  12. Study italian
  13. Study psychology
  14. Buy a big, light apartment (or house) with a nice view
  15. Inspire people
  16. Writing my thesis within branding (brand image) when I studied Hospitality Management
  17. Buy a dog(s) – golden retriever, husky…
  18. Co-operate with a big health brand
  19. Live abroad (Italy)
  20. Follow a plant-based diet
  21. Practise yoga at least 3 times a week
  22. Own a summer cottage near the sea
  23. Work within communications
  24. Have an exhibition (writing is art)
  25. Cut down on coffee (one cup a day)
  26. Co-operate with a food brand
  27. Give a speech (I’m terrified of speaking in public)
  28. Get married in nature
  29. Become near fluent in English
  30. Learn to speak Finnish fluently
  31. Have a library in my home (with a fire place)
  32. Learn how to sing
  33. Publish articles
  34. Create my own wellness brand

Mental Health Goals (to be reminded of every damn day)

  1. Always choose positive thoughts
  2. Stop comparing myself to others
  3. Enjoy the present moment
  4. Believe in myself
  5. Be brave
  6. Surround myself with encouraging, positive and loving people
  7. Don’t take life too seriously
  8. Stop playing small, since we’re all meant for great things

 

What are your goals? Write them down, and take action. Life is meant to be lived.

Linda

 

 

 

Vegan Ginger Bread Sugar Cookies

”Christmas (noun) = The only time of the year one can sit in front of a dead tree and eat candy out of socks.”

 

It was December – the month of early sunsets, soft pillows, big sweaters, warm tea and long talks beside the fire.

Snow flakes were soundlessly falling down from heaven, filling hearts with desire. Magic. No one could hear it, but everyone could feel it. They believed it. Life didn’t have to be perfect to be wonderful. They knew life was for deep kisses, late night conversations, strange adventures, midnight walks, spreading kindness and enjoying the little things like freshly baked cookies. Lights were brighter, snow was whiter, sweaters were bigger, books were thicker, kissing was nicer, hearts were closer, people were softer.

It was December – the month when the nights were crisp, and all they were wishing for was peace. 

 

(Update: Oups, I noticed I forgot to write sugar in the recipe. I used approx. 1.5 dl coconut sugar.)

Linda

How To Have A Mindful Christmas

”Don’t live to please others. Above all please yourself, and the world will be pleased by your genuineness.”

 

With less than one week until Christmas I decided to continue with the Christmas theme.

Christmas is the most magical time of the year. Nevertheless, it’s easily a busy and stressful time. This year, when you’re buried in to-do’s try to remember to be more present, more mindful. A study by Oxford University shows that ‘being mindful not only reduces stress but also gently builds an inner strength so that future stressors have less impact on our happiness and physical well-being.’

So more sitting in front of the Christmas tree sipping on hot chocolate, and less worrying about all the things that needs to be done. Nothing needs to be done, except from spending time with loved ones.

How to have a mindful Christmas

 

  1. First thing in the morning; make yourself a nice cup of coffee and sit in stillness for 15 minutes with the Christmas lights on, preferably in front of the Christmas tree. A calm and peaceful way to start the day.
  2. Put your comfiest clothes on, snuggle up in the coach with ginger bread cookies and your better half. Play a Christmas movie in the background, and share your biggest dreams for 2018.
  3. Which things do you most look forward to during Christmas? Make sure you’re fully present during these favourite moments. Whether it’s baking gingerbread cookies, decorating the Christmas tree or enjoying all the Christmas food – Be present. Don’t let these moments pass by in a blur. Try not to experience them through social media. Put your phone down.
  4. Write thank you notes to friends & family; express gratitude and share the things you love about them. It will most likely be greatly appreciated. And while you’re at it; don’t forget to write thank you notes to yourself ❤
  5. Go for a midnight walk while watching the stars. Enjoying a pitch-black sky with twinkling stars has a gently calming effect on the mood.
  6. Have a sauna (if you’ve the possibility). Sauna has a relaxing effect on the body, mind and soul. It will also help you calm down before bed, making you sleep like a baby.

 

❤ Linda