Månad: februari 2020

How to judge yourself less

”What is love? Love is the absence of judgment.” No one in this world is pure and perfect, not even mother nature. If you constantly judge yourself for your wrong-doings, past mistakes and things not working out the way you hoped for you’ve misinterpreted what life’s all about. Life is about evolving, and learning. It’s about challenging oneself, and staying true to the things closest to our hearts. It’s about not giving up, although the road is foggy and you can’t see clearly. One step at a time. One breath at a time. Don’t judge yourself for not knowing what your future will bring. Instead, promise yourself this moment. One sunrise at a time. I’ve been writing about being less judgmental in a former blog post – click the link to read it; Be less judgmental. However, in this post I want to put focus on being less judgmental towards ourselves. ”Darling, it’s your life; choose to focus on how you want to live your life.” I believe a lot of the judgment we have towards ourselves stems from the fact that we …

How to set healthy boundaries

Silly darling, stop craving her attention if you can’t handle her love.”   In order to build your own personal and emotional space you need to know how to set and communicate healthy boundaries. It’s essential to establish and communicate personal boundaries for our mental and emotional wellbeing, and sometimes even our safety. But why can communicating boundaries be so darn difficult at times? And how do we set compassionate boundaries within our relationships? To begin with I would like to mention that I’m far from perfect when it comes to setting and communicating boundaries. However, I’ve learned a lot the past years by being in challenging relationships. And while I may not have understood how to set boundaries then, I now know better, and can see things (the past) with much brighter eyes. We learn by going through different life experiences, since they are here to teach us, not to punish us. And I guess some things require plenty of trial and error before we can finally say – I think I know better now. I believe …

Cultivating change

”Darling, you’re never fully completed;you’re a work of art.”   When we go about our day to day life, doing the same mundane things on repeat, it’s easy to fall into the belief that we haven’t accomplished much. You might believe that there haven’t been any changes in your life the past couple of years. However, when you take a closer look at yourself, and the things you’ve done the past months, or even years, you realize that there have actually been some major changes going on. Changes that just happened, without you being aware. Like all of a sudden you realize that things are really different now. ”We have our eyes on things, we don’t yet possess, when instead we should embrace all the things we already have.” The thing is, when you’re caught up in the spinning wheel, it’s common to not stop and reflect, but to just keep on pushing further. Striving for more of this and that, everything you don’t yet have. We have our eyes on things we don’t yet possess, …

Find your happy

”It’s on the other side of doubt that I wish to dance.” Whatever you do, be sure it makes you happy. One simple yet profound rule of life. In other words – do more of the things that set your soul on fire. Whether it’s painting, feeding the poor, singing, writing, teaching children, managing a multi-billion dollar business or practicing mindfulness. Maybe you haven’t figured out what makes your soul spark – that’s totally fine. Don’t overthink. Don’t force things to come to you. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow. Below you’ll find some of the things I will do more of this spring, whether it’s writing, painting, travelling or just simply being in the moment. Nevertheless, these are the things that make my soul dance. Learn – Study Psychology I’m always eager to learn new things, and educate myself. I strongly believe that one can’t have too much knowledge wisdom. I guess it’s my curiosity that makes me want to continue studying. That deep longing for answers to questions I can’t …

The importance of trusting oneself

”More faith than fear.” A key ingredient in this beautiful, yet unpredictable life is trusting oneself. As soon as you begin to trust yourself you’ll learn how to dance through life, while developing into a courageous and compassionate human being. Wherever you choose to go, begin to cultivate all these wonderful things that you are. When you start to put complete trust in yourself you’ll automatically become more confident in your own skin. What determines your worth? Think about it for a minute. Is it your looks? The amount of friends you have? Your income? Your job title? Where you were born? Your skin color? Or do you depend on other people, to make you feel valuable? Start by questioning your belief systems. Why do you have them, and where do they steam from? Be clear, and completely honest with yourself when answering these questions. Writing your thoughts down might make it easier to understand yourself as you read your words out loud. The goal is not to judge yourself, but to better yourself, and …