”Be passionately curious about your own life.”
In a world where we are taught to be more concerned about what other people are doing, or thinking, than focusing on what we ourselves are doing, or thinking, it’s extremely common to compare, to judge, to envy.
But what if, you began to turn your focus inward, instead of outward.
What if you began to take up more space, talk a little louder, laugh a little harder.
What if you finally realised that you are worthy of being here, without having to prove that worth.
You are breathing. You are here.
There’s nowhere else for you to be, but here.
Don’t dim your light, just to make others feel more comfortable. The people that are meant to show up, and stay in your life, won’t find you if you are hiding. They won’t find you if your light is switched off. Guide each other home.
… ”And, as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
– Nelson Mandela
One needs to allow himself to slow down, to listen. When one is constantly bombarding himself with stimuli from outside sources it becomes nearly impossible to hear, or sense anything. How is one able to listen to the whispers of the soul if one is continually caught up in the outside circus? How is it possible to become aware of the song of the heart when the sirens of the external environment is set on full volume?
To have oneself rise above one’s thoughts is, however, the challenge. To know that one isn’t at the mercy of one’s thoughts, but actually the witness of the same. To be able to step outside them – observe them for what they are. Thoughts.
One does just anything to shut them out. However, one does not get rid of the negativity by turning away from it, by numbing out the pain with drugs, alcohol, sex, shopping, social media, or whatever one wishes to turn to. Rather, one turns towards it. One allows it in, accepts it. And in that moment of acceptance one notices that it actually has no power, but one indeed has the power to release it, to let it go.
We cannot expect the outside world to change if we are not willing to change ourselves. We cannot expect everyone else to do the work if we just sit there and do nothing. Start taking responsibility for your life. For your own wellbeing. However, this doesn’t mean that you can’t ask for help. In fact you should, you should ask for help, if help is what you need. You’re not weak or broken; you’re human, you’re simply being human.