”Comparison is the thief of joy.”
Have you ever compared yourself to a person that you don’t even know? If so, why? I’ve done it myself many times, without even questioning why I actually would waste my time doing such a dumb thing.
It’s actually rather funny when you think about it. Let’s take an example. You’re scrolling through your Instagram feed, and all of a sudden you stumble upon a beautiful picture. Immediately you assume that the person, who you don’t even know, has a wonderful life and that they most probably have everything in life figured out. You look at the pictures and all you see is a person that is more successful than you; more abundant, more popular, more at peace. More perfect. More everything that you’re not. All this you have figured out after scrolling through someone’s feed for 30 seconds. Great job!
However, 30 more seconds pass by, and hopefully your brain has gone back to a healthier state-of-being. We have no idea how other people are doing or feeling, and especially if we don’t even know them. And although we’re friends with someone it still might be the case that we have no idea how they are actually doing. You can’t compare yourself to an illusion in your mind. It’s ridiculous; it’s the thief of joy. And this is also a reason why you should always treat everyone with compassion as well as respect – you have no idea what people are struggling with, what pain or fear they have to deal with, day in and day out. Therefore, be kind. Always be kind.
All this time we’re wasting on social media, comparing our ”boring” lives to other people’s perfect moments, is precious time we should be focusing on ourselves. It’s nothing wrong with social media, Instagram and all these other wonderful apps, it’s how we choose to use them that should be our biggest concern. I love scrolling through Instagram, looking for inspiration and motivation. However, as soon as I notice myself becoming uneasy, and a little depressed after looking at certain pictures I stop. I choose to follow accounts that inspire me, motivate me and that challenge my way of thinking. I want to feel good after spending time on there, I don’t want it to make me feel bad about myself. You have the power to choose who you want to follow. Maybe you’ve noticed that you follow a bunch of accounts that make you feel negative, then please; unfollow. Find new, more inspiring accounts. Accounts that lift you up.
Or why not take a break from all things social media. It’s extremely healthy to go offline from time to time, especially if you’re one of those that spends most of your waking hours in front of a screen of some sort. Go out in nature, and forget your phone at home. Concentrate on yourself. Try to always do your best from the place you’re in. And remember, your best will fluctuate; it will vary from one day to another. Journal. Sit by the ocean and watch the waves come and go. Just like life itself. Start to enjoy the simplest of things. There are tremendous, little moments just passing us by every single day, and we choose to keep our eyes connected to a screen? Connect to nature. Connect to yourself. Go outside and stand in the rain.
I mentioned earlier that I choose to follow inspiring accounts, since I wish to be motivated and challenged. However, I’ve noticed that during moments when I lack inspiration and creativity the best thing I can do is to log off, and go within. To simply just sit with myself. No distraction. Usually at first my mind is occupied by thoughts not guiding me anywhere. Nevertheless, after a while in stillness, the mind shuts up; and other, more creative thoughts are able to enter. Some days I enter a peaceful state-of-mind almost immediately, other days I’m not even able to get rid of distracting thoughts however long I would sit. Whatever the case, I try not to judge the thoughts too much, just allow them to silently pass through me.
With this being said, if you’ve noticed that you’ve been feeling a little down lately, unmotivated or bored; try to stay off your phone for a day, three days, a week.. Whatever suitable for you. Hopefully it might assist you, and help you come back to yourself again.
– negative thoughts
– worrying about the future
– dwelling in the past
– clean thoughts
– being fully present