All posts tagged: self-improvement

Dear April…

… take my hand, inhale my breath. We won’t die, as long as we don’t fall in love. ”April dear, I breathe you in like air.”   Time standing still. The warm, golden light, burning through our windows, caressing our cheeks, awakening our hearts. Dreaming of doing everything in life, and nothing on rainy Sundays. Watching captivating sunsets, and counting countless numbers of stars. Happily having you, blooming in my arms. Speak with no words, undress me with your eyes. Whatever you do, I swear, you got my feelings playing butterflies.  April is for getting lost in translation. Being curious and bold. Breathing in lust, breathing out fear. Breathe me in like air. It’s about a new earth, hope, and letting go. Soft raindrops against the window, purifying dark winter souls. Touch me with your words, with your eyes. As long as you touch me, I know we’ll be just fine. April is for being affectionate, playful and passionate. Confident, happy and alive. Stop looking for it on the outside, when it’s already resting within, …

Spring clean your thoughts

”… and gradually they all returned to being, human again.” First day of spring finally arrived here in the Northern Hemisphere, as we celebrated the Spring Equinox yesterday. With lighter days, comes a lighter mind. As we’re faced with challenging times we need to remind ourselves that it’s always darkest before the dawn. Use this early spring month to not only clean up your surroundings, but your thoughts as well. Lovingly let yourself be guided by your inner voice, let it steer you home. Mother Nature said enough, time to rest. Time to return to being. Listen to the lyrics, the tone, the message. Dear human, quiet down the mental chatter, create space and learn how to effortlessly move, and surrender, to the beat. Spring is a beautiful time to rearrange and revamp yourself. After a long, and more peaceful winter it’s time to take action. Many of us may find ourselves in situations which makes it a little more demanding to get things done; we may not have the possibilities, as many of us are …

How to find peace amidst of it all

”Everything will be okay in the end, and if it’s not okay, it’s not the end.” To embrace peace in moments of distress and chaos may not be the easiest thing to do. However, in times like these it’s more important than ever that we take that deep breath, and let go of feelings such as anxiety and fear. When our bodies are stressed they are more receptive to diseases. Therefore, it’s of utmost importance that we act from wisdom and rationality, rather than from fear and panic.  With that being said, what can we do right now, in order to diminish distress and worry? I’ve listed significant steps and habits to adopt that can be helpful in reducing stress in our lives. To find balance between being aware of what’s going on, but at the same time – don’t let it consume our inner state of being in a way that may become fatal. It’s a difficult time for all of us, as a great amount of people will suffer not only physically and mentally, …

Flow with the current

”Don’t fight the moment – embrace it.” Life is a series of natural, and spontaneous changes. If you’re looking for permanent peace and happiness learn to be comfortable with everything that’s unfolding; circumstances taking place, feelings and emotions running through your body, as well as people dancing in and out of your life. Change is the nature of life. It’s the nature of your being. The only rational thing to do is to embrace every aspect of life – the good and the bad, the highs and the lows, the love and the fear – whatever it may present us with, diving right in, trying our best in line with the moment we’re in. Or as Michael A. Singer puts it: ”You’re sitting on a planet spinning around in the middle of absolutely nowhere. Go ahead, take a look at reality. You’re are floating in empty space in a universe that goes on forever. If you have to be here, at least be happy and enjoy the experience. You’re going to die anyway. Things are …

Dear March…

… give me a winter to wake up, and deserve you. ”I just want to breathe in the ocean for a little while, forever, with you.” – returning home I hear spring whisper softly in the garden. Her warm wind, melting frozen hearts. Time to be bold, take the leap, and know, on cloudy days the sun is still there, underneath. Darling, I believe we’ll become dearest of friends. I wish to see you laugh. I hope you make me laugh. Oh how you melt my heart – come, dance with me. Darling, spin with me. And before I fall asleep, remember, gently kiss me on my cheek, and know, you’ll always be the one I seek.  March is for the sun so boldly shining. Coming alive. Quietly crying for the moon, and the stars. Time standing still, frozen, for us. Snow will be falling, flowers start blooming. A precious mix when nature can’t decide. 4 am, and my mind intense, the breath calm. Smelling hope, kissing the soft morning rain, moving with the waves. They …

How to judge yourself less

”What is love? Love is the absence of judgment.” No one in this world is pure and perfect, not even mother nature. If you constantly judge yourself for your wrong-doings, past mistakes and things not working out the way you hoped for you’ve misinterpreted what life’s all about. Life is about evolving, and learning. It’s about challenging oneself, and staying true to the things closest to our hearts. It’s about not giving up, although the road is foggy and you can’t see clearly. One step at a time. One breath at a time. Don’t judge yourself for not knowing what your future will bring. Instead, promise yourself this moment. One sunrise at a time. I’ve been writing about being less judgmental in a former blog post – click the link to read it; Be less judgmental. However, in this post I want to put focus on being less judgmental towards ourselves. ”Darling, it’s your life; choose to focus on how you want to live your life.” I believe a lot of the judgment we have towards ourselves stems from the fact that we …

How to set healthy boundaries

Silly darling, stop craving her attention if you can’t handle her love.”   In order to build your own personal and emotional space you need to know how to set and communicate healthy boundaries. It’s essential to establish and communicate personal boundaries for our mental and emotional wellbeing, and sometimes even our safety. But why can communicating boundaries be so darn difficult at times? And how do we set compassionate boundaries within our relationships? To begin with I would like to mention that I’m far from perfect when it comes to setting and communicating boundaries. However, I’ve learned a lot the past years by being in challenging relationships. And while I may not have understood how to set boundaries then, I now know better, and can see things (the past) with much brighter eyes. We learn by going through different life experiences, since they are here to teach us, not to punish us. And I guess some things require plenty of trial and error before we can finally say – I think I know better now. I believe …

Cultivating change

”Darling, you’re never fully completed;you’re a work of art.”   When we go about our day to day life, doing the same mundane things on repeat, it’s easy to fall into the belief that we haven’t accomplished much. You might believe that there haven’t been any changes in your life the past couple of years. However, when you take a closer look at yourself, and the things you’ve done the past months, or even years, you realize that there have actually been some major changes going on. Changes that just happened, without you being aware. Like all of a sudden you realize that things are really different now. ”We have our eyes on things, we don’t yet possess, when instead we should embrace all the things we already have.” The thing is, when you’re caught up in the spinning wheel, it’s common to not stop and reflect, but to just keep on pushing further. Striving for more of this and that, everything you don’t yet have. We have our eyes on things we don’t yet possess, …

Find your happy

”It’s on the other side of doubt that I wish to dance.” Whatever you do, be sure it makes you happy. One simple yet profound rule of life. In other words – do more of the things that set your soul on fire. Whether it’s painting, feeding the poor, singing, writing, teaching children, managing a multi-billion dollar business or practicing mindfulness. Maybe you haven’t figured out what makes your soul spark – that’s totally fine. Don’t overthink. Don’t force things to come to you. Sometimes you just have to go with the flow. Below you’ll find some of the things I will do more of this spring, whether it’s writing, painting, travelling or just simply being in the moment. Nevertheless, these are the things that make my soul dance. Learn – Study Psychology I’m always eager to learn new things, and educate myself. I strongly believe that one can’t have too much knowledge wisdom. I guess it’s my curiosity that makes me want to continue studying. That deep longing for answers to questions I can’t …

The importance of trusting oneself

”More faith than fear.” A key ingredient in this beautiful, yet unpredictable life is trusting oneself. As soon as you begin to trust yourself you’ll learn how to dance through life, while developing into a courageous and compassionate human being. Wherever you choose to go, begin to cultivate all these wonderful things that you are. When you start to put complete trust in yourself you’ll automatically become more confident in your own skin. What determines your worth? Think about it for a minute. Is it your looks? The amount of friends you have? Your income? Your job title? Where you were born? Your skin color? Or do you depend on other people, to make you feel valuable? Start by questioning your belief systems. Why do you have them, and where do they steam from? Be clear, and completely honest with yourself when answering these questions. Writing your thoughts down might make it easier to understand yourself as you read your words out loud. The goal is not to judge yourself, but to better yourself, and …