Let’s talk about happiness. Although, I prefer to call it contentment. While happiness is often just a fleeting moment, contentment feels more like a stable, lasting state—a mindset not affected by external events.

So, how can we become more content or ”happier”? I like to see it as a choice. Every morning when we wake up, we have the power to decide how we want to feel. However, we sometimes give that power away, by letting others’ actions or external circumstances dictate our mood. We allow outside things to ruin our day, forgetting that we hold the control.

Ultimately, it’s about taking responsibility for your mood. Realising that you’re the one in control also means that you need to take action; maybe you need to change things in your life that you’re not satisfied with, and that requires effort. So, it’s easier to stay in the comfort zone, and let things remain as they always have been. Breaking out of it and choosing a different mindset takes courage, but that’s where true growth and contentment begin.

Another way to be happier is to be happy for other people. Celebrate other people’s wins just as they would be your own. Just because another person is succeeding in life doesn’t mean that there is less for you. Everyone has the opportunity to follow their dreams. Jealousy teaches you were your true desires lie. Who are you jealous of? What is it that they have that you wish to have? Be inspired by others; let their success be a sign that it’s possible even for you.

Focus on your own life and your own evolution. When we are too caught up in other people’s lives we drift away from ourselves. Use others as a form of inspiration, and as a driving force for you to keep striving for your own dreams. And of course – care for your friends and family. But, when you’re too involved in the lives of people you don’t even know, when you judge people that you haven’t even met, you’re leaking energy. Rather, be so busy building your own life that you don’t have time for other people’s drama. Your energy is sacred; don’t let just anyone have access to it.

Self-recognition. When you no longer seek external validation, but instead realise that self-recognition is the foundation of success, true contentment arises. Before waiting for others to notice you, notice yourself. Before asking for permission, say yes to yourself. Before asking am I good enough, know that you are. Before chasing, be still – attract.

With this being said, the way to a happy life is a life uniquely crafted by you. If you’re in a phase right now in life where you feel dissatisfied and discontent, start with asking yourself what can I do right now that would make me feel a little lighter? Maybe it’s something small such as taking a walk in nature, calling a trusted friend, cooking your favorite healthy meal, or maybe it’s updating your CV, booking that trip you’ve been longing for, moving cities. Whatever it is, the answer is found within you. Don’t run away from the discomfort; learn to sit with it, and notice how it little by little will dissolve by you choosing to look at it, rather than you choosing to turn away from it.

We all deserve to be happy. We all deserve to wake up to a life that feels exciting and meaningful. And only you know how that life looks like for you.