”As long as you’re breathing it’s never too late to change your story.”
Change is inevitable, growth is optional. Whether or not it’s good change, bad change – change we create ourselves or change that we don’t have control over – both natural and spontaneous changes will happen throughout life. The aim is to not resist change, since that only creates sadness and struggle, rather, to learn to flow with the current.
Letting things flow naturally is, however, easier said than done. It requires a great deal of patience and an eagerness to reclaim the power that might have been lost along the way. Last but not least, you should always remember not to be too hard on yourself. You’re only human after all.
”It’s not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.”
– Charles Darwin
With this being said, below you’ll find a few life perspectives that hopefully can assist you when you find yourself stuck in the middle of a life changing situation.
Trust the timing of your life. I like to believe that everything happens for a reason, whether the reason is for us to grow, and to be open for new opportunities…
… or maybe the change is simply a well needed wake-up-call.
Trust that everything is working out for your good. Although it might not seem like it at the moment, a change is usually a start of something even better – a new beginning. In a way change is both painful and beautiful at the same time; do not fight it, instead use it to your advantage.
Even though the change is hard, try to grasp the reason behind it. When you finally get to the other side of change you will understand why it was so necessary, why it had to take place. Sometimes we get so stuck at where we are that we completely lose focus, and our ability to move forward. Usually, at times like that, change will happen, whether we like it or not. After a while you can see more clearly, and finally understand why it was doomed to happen. Since you weren’t able to make the change happen, it had to happen with or without your consent.
Find the humour
This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t take life seriously; change can be extremely hard, in fact it can be really, really tough. However, the human experience should be all about balance, meaning when you take a step back and begin to look at things with humour you take a bit of the heaviness off.
By all means, you’re allowed to grief; it’s necessary in order to heal, but you should also remember to find humour in every day life, as to lighten yourself up.
Focus on solutions
There’s a solution to every problem, therefore, always focus on the solutions, not the problems. If you’re boiling over with deeply strong emotions try using them to create something. In other words, take advantage of your feelings. Channel your emotions through writing, painting, exercising – anything that takes the pressure off, and makes you feel more as yourself again. Most often the most unique creations can come out of sadness, grief, loneliness and pain.
Whatever you might be feeling, use those feelings to heal. Take it day by day and move forward in your own pace. Eventually you’ll blossom again. Oftentimes hard change lead to breakthroughs, and when you choose to stay open you might discover things about yourself you otherwise never would have noticed.
Face your fears
”The fears we don’t face become our limits.”
When you accept your fears, and start facing them, they will lose their power over you. To be in the middle of a big life change can be very daunting, at least if you’re a little bit of a control freak, however, the best thing you can do is surrender, and simply let things unfold naturally. Keep in mind that some things you just can’t control, and the more you try to, the messier it gets. The best thing you can do, is to let go, and go with the flow.
Not knowing what the future will hold can of course be real nerve-wracking, nevertheless, remember that with a little bit of faith, plenty of curiosity and an excess amount of resilience everything will, eventually, work out for your best. Don’t let the fear of what could happen make nothing happen. Trust that everything will come to you in the right time – do your best to work on yourself, strive for progression each and every day. The tiniest progress is better than no progress at all.
Darling, don’t fear change, rather, let it build you into a more powerful, resilient and confident human being.