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How to become the best version of yourself

I went through some old blog posts from 2019, and found this one – one which the readers clicked on the most.

”Be the sort of person you would admire.”

You are a different person to different people. Annoying to some. Talented to another. Kind to a few. Unknown to a lot. But who are you, to you? What does the best version of yourself look like? Being the best version of yourself needs to start with you, it needs to come from within. Other people will always have expectations from you, however, only you decide who you truly are. 

1. Take your power back


To change your life, you have to change yourself. To change yourself, you have to change your mindset. It all begins and ends in your mind. What you give power to, has power over you – if you allow it. Trust that you have what it takes, the power is found within you.

You won’t become powerful through another person, getting a promotion or having excess money in your bank account. While these things might make you feel powerful, they won’t make you powerful. Cultivating self-confidence, as well as a deep trust within yourself while embracing a positive mindset, that my dear, will make you powerful. And don’t forget to sprinkle plenty of kindness and compassion on top of it all, and you’re good to go.


2. Strive for progression


Get comfortable with feeling challenged, cause it means you’re growing. Humans need to be challenged in order to not become stagnant. We’ve all been beginners at some point in our lives, but if you choose to constantly advance and move forward you’ll, after some time, notice remarkable improvements. It won’t happen over night, but giving up is not an option. I remember when I decided to start writing my blog in English, it made me feel a bit hesitant at first. However, after several months of writing I’ve noticed big improvements in my writing skills. Of course there’re still advancements to be made, but I’m making progress each and every day.

As humans we are never fully completed. I think if we come to terms with that statement life will become less intimidating. Less heavy, and more lighthearted. We don’t have to have all the answers, as long as we have that intense yearning to know more about ourselves, others and life. In plain English – a deep desire to experience life. You’re an evolving human being; constantly travelling through phases, through seasons, just so you can rise in full bloom.


3. Show kindness

”Be kind. It feels better.”

As humans we can choose to be a lot of different things. Nonetheless, the more I think about it I feel that one of the traits I consider as one of the most valuable is being kind. Other people will unquestionably remember if you’ve treated them well or not. How we choose to treat others says a lot about ourselves. Be someone people look up to. Give to others and help them be the best version of themselves too. At times it might be clever to be a bit selfish (don’t let yourself be manipulated by fools), however, you don’t have to be obnoxious to be successful. Be kind, always.


4. Follow your intuition


Listen to your inner voice. Quiet down the mental chatter, and start to observe. Your life needs to be your vision and no one else’s. It’s easy to get caught up in other people’s lives, and comparing oneself to other people’s success. You might listen too much to what your parents, friends and loved ones think you should do, or can do. This is usually detrimental to your own progression. Start focusing on what you have to offer to the world; what are your unique talents? How do you wish to live your life?

Don’t let the outside noise distract you – take time to pause, and to reflect. Trust yourself, and know, that the answers you’re seeking is found within. You’re more powerful than you might think. You have a powerful inner voice; learn to listen to it. Embrace your intuition, your heart. That inner wisdom of yours is forceful; learn to use it to your advantage.


5. Learn from your mistakes


Mistakes shouldn’t be regarded as merely mistakes. Instead they should be considered as obstacles making us become better, enhancing as human beings. They’re barriers, helping us grow and improve ourselves. Without mistakes you wouldn’t grow. Nevertheless, this means you need to become self-aware. You need to be self-conscious, and realize when you’ve made a mistake; otherwise you’ll never grow. You’ll keep on making the same mistake, over and over again, until you grasp the meaning behind it. Self-awareness = power.



Self-care December

”We can never run out of love. It’s in the air we are breathing.”

For most of us Christmas is a time of fellowship, joy and happiness. It’s a time when family get-togethers are more frequent, gifts and laughter are shared among loved ones, and eating a bit too much is part of the festivity. However, for a growing number of people the situation is completely different. 

”It’s Christmas time, there’s no need to be afraid. At Christmas time we let in light and we banish shade.”

– Do they know it’s Christmas, Band Aid -84

The number of people, who live in poverty, suffer from addiction or loneliness, are increasing world-wide. A problem we simply cannot ignore, since its transparency in our society is getting more and more evident. The question remains – what can we do about it? How should, and can we address these problems? The answers might vary, of course, but I believe that each and every one of us have a responsibility – and that first tiny step you need to take is to start with yourself. Is there anything you can do, right now, to make another person’s life a little more pleasant? And what can you do to make your own life a little more liveable?

I read somewhere (can’t remember where) that besides every country having their own flag, human beings should have a combined earth flag, since, we’re all in this together.

If you have the means to help people less fortunate, use them. Use them, to their advantage. How small of a task it might seem to you, it might end up being a tremendous support for a person in need.


”By giving others a helping hand, you’re helping yourself. And by healing yourself, you’re healing others.”

Everything in life is connected. You, me, the trees, the stars, our thoughts, our actions, life-death-life; the circle of life wouldn’t be complete without any of it. We need the darkness, in order to experience the light. We need the hardships, to truly be thankful for the security. Yin and yang. The Sun, and the Moon. The summer, and the winter. We need all of it.

One way to begin is to start by giving more than what you expect in return. Give, without expecting anything in return. Just give, out of pure sincerity, out of pure love.

It all starts with you. You start by giving to yourself – you take care of yourself, you take care of your ”home”, your inner sanctuary. You feed and nurture yourself, daily, with love and care. You know that you’re worthy of being here, of having a voice. When you start to see your own beauty, when you stop judging yourself, that is when you start to see the beauty within others, without judging them.

It might feel difficult at first, but still – face your shit. Face your demons, face your pain. If I’ve ever said something hurtful to another person (yet, I don’t think of myself as a person walking around spreading pain, but still I’m human, we all have our days…) it has usually stemmed from me not facing my own share of discomfort, and therefore, lashing out at an innocent human. This is normal, this is part of being human. However, being in pain doesn’t give you the right to treat others in a dreadful manner. Thus, the importance of always glancing within.

Choose love over fear

”The outside distress is a reflection of the distress happening within.”

This vast universe is our playground. How do you wish to perform, to show up? Do you wish to live with fear and doubt, or with love and openness? Your choice. There are plenty of misery in this world, you just have to put on the news or take a few steps down your street, depending on where you live on this planet, to recognize that it’s not all sunshine and butterflies. Nevertheless, there are also plenty of hopefulness, plenty of love, but somehow those things don’t attract the news producers that often.

We need to aim at these difficulties from the right angle.

You can’t fight the fear, by being fearful. You can’t fight the darkness, by feeding it more darkness. You can’t fight ignorance, by being more ignorant. You can’t fight the wars of this planet, by producing more wars. You just can’t.

As I already mentioned, we need to start with ourselves. Don’t you dare blame anyone else if you haven’t taken a good look at yourself in the mirror. Just don’t. And by this I don’t mean that you need to be so hard on yourself; just embrace who you are – the good and the bad. None of us is perfect, and none of us will ever be perfect.

But, when we begin to open ourselves up to the different ways of experiencing life – by being more humble, receiving new insights and by being less judgmental – I truly believe we can start to create a little more peaceful home, for all of us. The outside distress is a reflection of the distress happening within, and vice versa. Remember, it’s all connected.

However, slowly but surely we can try to change the outside world. It all stems from within. You fight the fear by being more loving. You fight the darkness, by being the light. You fight the ignorance, by practising your inner wisdom. You fight the wars, by being at peace. Within.

Self-care December might start with you, but wait and see, it might have a forceful impact on the world around you as well.

Let it spread like wildfire.


Surrendering into the arms of the wild

”The courage of letting go. Surrendering into the arms of the wild.”

As Eckhart Tolle so neatly puts it: ”Sometimes surrender means giving up from trying to understand, and becoming comfortable with not knowing.”

Life is about finding the balance between what you can control, and what you cannot. Sometimes surrendering is the breakthrough you need.

Let me tell you about a dream I had a couple of nights ago. 

♦I had this cute white labrador puppy, but wasn’t he a pain in the butt. It was a complete struggle every time I had to take him out for a walk. It was like he did anything to get out from that leash; he didn’t appreciate to be told what to do, and neither did he wish to be controlled. Every walk was a fight to win. And eventually the leash broke. The thing with which I tried to control my puppy ultimately fell apart.♦

I’m usually not one of those that decipher my dreams, but I felt this one had something to teach me. As I went about my day the dream came back to me, and my inner voice, speaking loud and clear, ”Don’t be such a control freak, you can’t control everything, just allow it to be as it is.”

It’s usually fear about the future, not knowing what will happen, that keeps us holding on to everything there is to hold on to. Let’s take love as an example. You might find yourself in a relationship where you keep your partner ”leashed”, or in other words, you feel a need to control their every moves (or maybe they are the ones doing this to you). For example you/he/she might feel an immediate sense of jealousy when they/you are talking to another person. It’s like you want each other neatly kept in this safe-box, where everything is as it should be, and everything will be as it always been.

Or let’s say you have a dream of becoming a successful business owner, and therefore you’re doing everything it takes to ”make it”, however, nothing seems to go your way. Or not at least the way you prefer it to go.

Maybe it’s time to take a step back, and to look at your situation from an outside perspective – take the blindfolds off, and start looking with new eyes. Usually when we control things too much, it means that we’re afraid of losing them. And while this is completely normal, cause who wants to lose the things they hold dear to their heart, it can also be detrimental to the situation. Ultimately it might lead to everything falling apart.

If we let the ”puppy” run wild and free, and not controlling its every move, the ”puppy” will feel that it has our trust. We understand that if the ”puppy” wants to run, we will have to let it run (because we love the ”puppy” and we want the people/things we love to be as happy as they can be). And as it runs it will blossom, and evolve into the ”dog” it’s meant to become. This running ”phase”, doing its thing, is important for its growth and evolution. Eventually, it will become tired from running, it will have to stop, and take a breather. It will begin to search for its ”Master”, and happily, and more well-lived, he/she returns. Teaching his/her Master something new, challenging each other with their opinions and world views.

And don’t take this literally; I mean if you have a little puppy it’s rather important that you set some boundaries so it doesn’t run out in the woods and gets eaten by the big wolves. But I guess you know what I’m trying to say with this little dream of mine… 

Surrendering, letting go and trusting within a relationship happens both ways. When both partners trust each other enough, they will let the other person go and search for his/her dreams, without being afraid of losing him/her. Being able to grow and evolve together is crucial for a flourishing relationship. And if a relationship do fall apart because of this, just look at it as something that eventually had to happen. Your own growth should always be on top of your priority list. If two people love each other unconditionally they will always find ways to work things through – it’s called compromising.

Surrendering, aka embracing the unknown, is something that can be of use in many areas of your life; this relationship metaphor was just an example.


Tip of the day; write down your dreams – look for the deeper meaning hidden underneath, and see what it’s trying to tell you. If you look close enough I bet you’ll find answers to your questions.

With love,


Dear December…

… I look at you, and indeed a beautiful work of art, I see.

”Get lost, on the path less travelled, and return, a little bit more well-lived.”




Embrace the thought
– Never fully completed –
and your existence might become
a little less intimidating.
More light-hearted, less heavy.
You do not have to have
all the answers.
All the lovers.
All the glimmery, shiny things.
As long as you have
an intense yearning
to listen, understand,
and respond accordingly.
As long as you carry within
a deep desire
to experience all
that’s making you grow,
bold and flow.

Get lost,
on the path less travelled,
and return,
a little bit more well-lived.
With bruises and scars,
but a heart so filled.
smell your roses,
taste your tears,
unlock your laugh.
whenever your voice can’t carry you –
in an honest manner – speak,
however soft, and weak.

It’s a spinning wheel,
or a tranquil deal.
Your choice.
Off-track, on-track,
love and laughter,
fear and disaster.
It is you life,
be that as it may,
always say
thank you,
for this new day.
You do not know
what it has in store for you,
this particular today.


”At least we are breathing the same air – you & I”

”There’s no rainbow without the rain.”

Nurturing Thyself

”We write down made-up stories to tell the truths we wish we could say out loud.”

5 AM. ‘A good night’s sleep? Merely a memory,’ the young boy thought while trying to scratch his upper back. His left hand reached out to the other side of the bed, searching for something that wasn’t there. He grabbed the pillow, pulled it close to his chest, forced himself to awaken old memories, old scents. Regardless of how hard he tried he could not forget that scent. There were people who got caught up in old memories while listening to music. It was the smell, that haunted him.

He dragged himself out of bed to open the balcony door. His feet touched the raw, biting surface. He was paralyzed, and in some miraculous way his broken heart still found a way to beat. The thunderstorm had kept him up all night. He had never…

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Be less judgmental

”It all starts with you.”

No one in this world is pure and perfect, not even Nature. If you avoid people for their shortcomings, you will most certainly be alone in this world. So try to judge less, and love more. Surround yourself with people who understand. People who lift you up. We rise by lifting others. 

People who aren’t quick to judge – those gems, exactly my cup of tea. You can vent to them, and labeling you will be the last thing on their mind. They do not believe rumors because they know there are two sides to every story. They give you a chance before they judge you. They get to know who you really are, then form an opinion.

However, people are usually rather judgmental, towards themselves, others and situations, without even thinking about it.

If you know that you’re a pretty judgemental person, try to challenge yourself to change your mindset. Little by little, watch how being less judgmental will create a more positive outcome; within both your inner and outer world. You will most likely create healthier relationships (with others as well as with yourself), while cultivating curiosity, and by being more open-minded. Others might even regard you as comforting and trustworthy. You never know what might happen 😉

Don’t judge yourself

”What is love? Love is the absence of judgement.”

It all starts with you.

Don’t compare yourself to others, cause how can you? You’re not them, and they are not you. No one is either more or less than you, and you’re not more or less than anyone else. Isn’t that what makes this life so compelling? That we’re a bunch of humans, although somehow so alike, we have our different traits, up-bringings and weird quirks. We have our different struggles, things to heal and to let go of. If we only knew how much there’s to learn from one another, so much wisdom and clarity to gain from each other. Every human you’ve met thus far know that you’ve met them for a reason. Although you’ve let people hurt you in the past, know that it was something you had to go through, in order to find yourself, in order to find your inner strength.

Self-love hasn’t always been a priority in my life, and therefore, I’ve had some hard lessons to learn, in order to finally see my own worth. It’s not narcissistic to love oneself, to take care of oneself. It’s necessary in order to grow and evolve as a human being. And so, stop judging yourself for your wrong-doings, past mistakes and things not working out the way you hoped.

If your wish is to help and inspire other humans, then start by being true to yourself, and not being afraid to show your most authentic self. We help others, by first helping ourselves.

Don’t judge others

”Judging a person doesn’t define who they are, it defines who you are.”

To start with, don’t take things personally.

”Whatever happens around you, don’t take it personally. Nothing other people do is because of you. It’s because of themselves.”
– Don Miguel Ruiz, The Four Agreements

Now when we’ve put that on the table it might be a bit easier not to take everything so personally; we humans are rather occupied by our own defects and shortcomings, and they might surely come forth when using our tongue.

However, this is by no means uncomplicated. It takes a lot of self-love and courage to see things with an open-heart and to be big-hearted and altruistic, no matter what the circumstances are. Of course you need to stand up for yourself, you need to be treated with respect, love and kindness. All people should be treated that way. Unfortunately we don’t live in a pink, candy cotton, butterflies flying everywhere golden wonderland. Life is just life, and well I guess, life is harsh, from time to time. We should begin to treat it with way more dignity and respect. We should treat our fellow humans with way more dignity and respect as well.

And remember, happy and peaceful people don’t walk around destroying other people’s lives. Therefore, be kind to the unkind. You have no idea what shoes they’re walking in.

Don’t judge the moment

”Be curious, not judgmental.”

This is the door to all that is. Celebrate the moment, and awaken to the flashes unfolding.

The present – the only moment there is for us to be alive. Humans are very good at preparing to live, but not very good a living. Habitually dwelling in the past and dreaming of the future, while having difficulties concentrating the mind on the present moment. Wherever you are – know that you are home. Wherever you find yourself; whether you’re stuck in a rut, anxious, or simply lost in the fast spinning outside world – whatever the present moment contains – accept, then act. Always work with life, not against life. Don’t feel like life is controlling you, you are controlling life. And yes, life will hit you (it might even hit you hard), but know that you’ll never grow with the perfect life.

The moment you begin to evaluate and criticize the situation you’re in, the thoughts flowing within your mind, or even the way you’re breathing, the judging perfectionist has arrived. The judging perfectionist that believes that a present moment experience is supposed to be a blissed-out Zen experience filled with peace and light. And let’s face it, it’s not always like that.

Isn’t it our job to find peace amidst of it all?

”Sometimes, the Universe does not allow us to move forward, until we have honored where we are right know.”

But how is it even possible to stay patient and calm in a world that’s constantly changing? To stay satisfied with what is, when the mind is obsessed with living in the past or worrying about the future? It’s like it does anything just to escape the now.

”I don’t want to be here, I need to get to there.” ”When I find that perfect partner, that perfect job, earn loads of money and become successful, then I’ll be happy.” ”I’m not satisfied with where I am, I need to have more, be more; then my life will be fulfilled.”

The ego will never be fulfilled; no matter how much recognition, power or success it receives the ego will always crave more.

The ego doesn’t thrive by being in the present. However, the present moment is all there ever is and ever will be; when something happens, it always happens now. Nothing ever happens in the future, it happens in the moment.

It’s nothing wrong with wanting to achieve goals, or visualizing a life filled with abundance, prosperity, love and happiness. Most likely these wonderful, external things will bring a great deal of joy and happiness into your life, but for the most part it’s a short-lived kind of happiness. After a while the ego eventually gets bored, unsatisfied, and starts craving more of that external success.

In other words, achieving external success isn’t the root to your happiness. Constantly pleasing others, and thereby forgetting about your own wants and needs, isn’t a life well lived. Defining your worth according to how others treat you, isn’t going to make you feel more desirable. People may adore you, or they may dislike you, either way it shouldn’t affect you, since, in the end what you think about yourself is the only thing that matter. Of course it will hurt if you get abandoned, rejected or replaced. Despite the amount of pain you’re feeling, know that none of these circumstances will make you less worthy. Whether you didn’t get that promotion or you were replaced by another lover, you should never let it affect your inner happiness.

It’s easy, and very human, to fall into negative self-talk whenever something bad happens in life. Self-pity parties might feel okay at first, but in the end, feeling sorry for yourself won’t make you feel any better. Adopting a more positive way of thinking is a first step towards a more solid kind of happiness;

When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

Maybe you didn’t get that promotion simply because there’s a much better option waiting for you? Why not trust the unfolding of your life? Why not accept and embrace this moment?

How does one discover an inner, true form of happiness?

By being present.

And by not judging everything as good or bad all the time. Let things be, just as they are. Accept them, just as they are.

What is more, the present moment experience is the most healing state there is. Old emotions stored deep down in the body; whether it’s grief, anger, sadness or pain, need to be released out of our systems. Unprocessed emotions can show up in different forms, such as a disease, judgement towards people we don’t know, or as an addiction. They might even hold us back from evolving, hence keeping us stuck.

And remember; be kind to yourself. You most likely won’t stop judging yourself, others or situations in a blink of an eye. It might take time, however, try to become more aware of how you’re judging other people, or circumstances. How you’re judging yourself. It all starts with you.


Invest in rest

”Your job is to find peace amidst of it all.”

End of fall, beginning of winter, is a tremendous season to unwind, to restore your soul. Just as nature’s slowing down, taking a step back, and allowing the cold to embrace her, you have the opportunity to pause, to reflect. To sit within the stillness, counting your breaths, surrendering, to the flow of life. The heart speaks in silent ways. Listen. 

For me November has always been a month when I feel the need to pause. It’s like my entire soul needs a break. A break from anything draining her. Nevertheless, dark months like these I love the more peaceful hours; it’s usually when I come alive. The more stillness surrounding me, the more harmonious I become. And the more harmonious I become, the easier it is for new thoughts and ideas to enter.

Below you’ll find some of my favorite ways to unwind, and to refill my body, mind & soul with new energy.

How to replenish & unwind



It’s not the minutes that count; it’s what you take with you after you’ve been sitting in silence – patience, alertness and a greater awareness. Meditation is not sitting with no thought – it’s letting the thoughts pass by, no dwelling, simply being aware. It’s the perfect way to practise slow breathing. Going within, and trusting oneself.

”Mindfulness is simply being aware of what is happening right now without wishing it were different; enjoying the pleasant without holding on when it changes (which it will); being with the unpleasant without fearing it will always be this way (which it won’t).”

– James Baraz

Let your creativity flow

Whatever floats your boat – dive right in. When you’re enjoying what you’re doing you easily reach that so called flow state. A state of being when time passes by without you even noticing. A state of being when you’re your most creative self. A state of being when you’re guided by your inner voice. A state of being that can only be described by the words pure bliss. Find your happy, and do it often.

Clean & organize your mind

Cleaning your home, aka your mind & body, is an excellent way of getting rid of limiting beliefs and self-doubt, as well as negative thoughts that might hold you back from reaching your true potential.

Before starting your cleaning you’ll have to become aware of what’s holding you back. Are you always comparing yourself to others? Not thinking you’re worthy of all the abundance that life has to offer? Do you have problems forgiving yourself for past behaviours? Do you have problems forgiving someone else? Or do you simply feed your mind with negative self-talk morning to evening?

Take your time to figure out what it is that you struggle with the most; the things you need to get rid of in order to blossom like an early spring day. This can be done through seeking solitude and writing down the habits/thoughts you want to release from your ”home”. These habits/thoughts are things that do not serve you in any way.

When accepting the present moment for what it is, and detaching from the future, you not only make room for new and fresh possibilities, but for creativity and freedom. It’s very common to seek security and certainty, but when taking a closer look it’s actually an attachment to the known, aka the past. There’s no room for evolution in a mindset like that, only stagnation. So while you’re cleaning your old thought systems you’re expanding and growing your mind, making space for new creative thoughts to enter. And remember, within uncertainty lies freedom, a limitless number of possibilities and imagination.


One of the best ways to become more self-aware is to journal. The more aware you are of your thoughts, and how they affect you, the more you realize just how powerful they are. Thoughts can completely turn a day around. They can turn a life around. Redirecting your thoughts, choosing more positive ones, when facing a negative situation can help you see the situation in new daylight. The understanding that no one can change your thoughts but you, should be enough for you to jump over to the drivers seat. You control your thoughts – don’t let them control you. However, you should never neglect your feelings, your emotions.

Let your thoughts and emotions flow through you by writing them down. Don’t surpress the negativity, don’t let it build a nest within you – let the feels out. Know that you are simply experiencing emotions. They shall pass, as they too are temporarily.

Move your body

Being physically active is important for both the mind & the body. Feeling stuck and unmotivated? Chase those endorphins. A sweaty workout has many health benefits, not only does it affect your body, building up your cardiovascular health and slowing down your ageing, but your headspace will feel much clearer as well. When you’ve crushed out a great workout you’re ready to crush out even more things during the day – to accomplish the tasks you’ve at hand, getting more productive. Soon you’ll notice that your body and mind will start to work with you, rather than against you.

Connect with nature

There’s a special thing being one with nature, whether it’s watching the ocean, smelling the forest, hiking in the autumn mountains, taking a midnight swim or laughing up in the air. Nature has a tendency to teach us plenty; she teaches us how to be still, how to unwind and relax. Stay alert, and witness the beauty she so effortlessly provides us with. Let her guide you home. Escaping the real world for a couple of hours, or even days, might boost your creativity and feed it with new flourishing insights.

Know thy self

As soon as we let go of the need of controlling what happens in life things will unfold as they are meant to unfold. Challenge yourself to control the way you respond to what’s happening. That’s where your power lies. Use the now to truly get to know yourself. Life is not always sunshine and butterflies, and how boring that would be. Setbacks, road bumps and things not happening as fast as you’d imagined is life’s way of presenting us with challenges, not to hurt us, but to guide us in the right direction. Sometimes life has a funny way of teaching us lessons.

If you’re going through a rough time right now, just know that it will be alright. Even if the clouds are heavy the sun is still there, underneath, it just took a nap. Eventually the sun will shine again. It always does. Just like life’s always working with you, not against you.

There’re plenty of things to do in order to become more present, more alive and replenished. You just have to find what works for you. Take a deep breath, give yourself a hug and have trust, deep within, that everything will be alright.


How to be humble

”The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.”

– Socrates

Part of being humble means realizing that you don’t have all the answers. Humble people are curious and eager to learn more, in order to become better versions of themselves. Furthermore, they’re self-reliant and competent in themselves, and therefore seek to self-actualize by helping others. I read somewhere that being humble is not to think less of oneself, but to think of oneself less.

Consequently, humility is not about being too passive and insecure, rather it’s about being confident in one’s own skin, knowing we’re all different, yet at the same time, somehow quite the same.

”Be humble enough to know that you’re not better than anyone else, but wise enough to know you’re different.”

Below you’ll find some of the most common traits that might help you become a little more humble.

Be curious.

Humble people usually have an inquiring mind, meaning they know there’s always something to learn, there’s always new insight and knowledge to gain. Learning is an ongoing process, and I strongly believe one can’t have too much wisdom. A humble person also isn’t afraid to ask questions, or to ask for help. In other words, they understand that we humans have a lot to learn from one another, and that different mind-sets, cultures, experiences and up-bringings are a richness that we all can take advantage from. Choose to walk through life with an open mind. Know that you’ll never be fully completed; everyday is an opportunity to learn something new.


”That’s why I like you so much. Your heart isn’t dead.”
– Albert Camus

To listen, to actually listen, to what people say, is a skill mastered by a few. When we’re engaged in a conversation we usually think about what we’re going to say next, without really listening to the person talking to us. We’re so caught up in our own thoughts that we simply forget to give our attention to the other individual. Learn to shift your focus away from your thinking mind to the person in front of you; what is he/she actually saying? Respond to their words, not to the thoughts in your head. Pay attention to the person’s body language, as well as nuances within his/hers words and voice.

Be appreciative.

Have plenty of self-love and healthy ambitions, and always work hard for the things you believe in, nonetheless, count your blessings. Be grateful for all the opportunities, big or small, this life presents you with. You’ll never be fully satisfied if you’re constantly seeking for more, without pausing to reflect on all the wonderful things you already have in your life. There’s plenty to be grateful for; the small things (which in fact aren’t small at all, but we’re so used to them, and therefore easily take them for granted) such as the bed you sleep in, the water you drink, the food on your table, the job you have, the people around you, the house you live in. Be appreciative, and don’t forget yourself – show appreciation and compassion towards yourself as well. Everything starts with you. While you can’t change another person, you can always change yourself.

Take responsibility.

Learn to take responsibility for your actions. No one will come and save you, life is fully your responsibility. If you’re not satisfied with where you are at the moment, don’t start by blaming outer circumstances, or the people around you, instead look within; what is it you can do in order to change things around? Don’t blame other people for your misfortunes; if someone chooses to treat you poorly – speak up for yourself, and start changing the way you look at things. You have the power to choose how you react to other people’s behaviour. Don’t take anything another person does personally. Take responsibility for your behaviour, for your actions. You’re the one in control of your life. You can’t control the things happening for you, nevertheless, you can control how you react to the things happening for you.

Speak your mind.

Don’t be afraid to speak with honesty. Be real, be raw, be you. Don’t let anyone dim your light. If you wish to create something, change something, or simply put your mark on this world in one way or the other – just go for it. Don’t be afraid to fail, be happy you tried. Be confident within your abilities, within yourself. We all have the right to speak our minds. As long as you don’t disrespect anyone, do what sets your soul on fire. And while you’re busy working on your passions, you encourage others to do so as well. These things spread like wildfire.

Embrace an abundance mentality.

If you walk through life with a lack mindset, you most probably will have difficulties achieving anything. Another person’s success doesn’t mean that now there’s less for you, quite the contrary; it simply means that also you have the possibility to succeed. Learn to embrace an abundance mentality.

And if you’re one of those that have difficulties being happy for other peoples’ happiness – change it, and change it now. You being jealous of other peoples’ successes, won’t get you anywhere. Start to be happy for other people, and you’ll see that more will come to you. Be open-minded, don’t be afraid to try new things and step outside that comfort zone of yours – when you start to open your eyes to the world around you, you’ll see there’s plenty you can do. Plenty of different ways to succeed. Do your thing. Do you.