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10 habits to change your life

‘Consistency is more important than perfection.’

 

Below you’ll find a list of small habits that will make your days more enjoyable, productive and mindful. Keep in mind that it takes approximately 21 days to form a new habit, therefore be consistent. Performing habits like these might not seem like a big deal, but it’s usually the smallest of habits and routines that, at the end of the day, will have an huge impact on our everyday life.

”The future is created in the present moment. Don’t resist the seasons changing, instead, learn to flow with the breath of life.”

  1. Wake up one hour earlier. If you’re not already waking up super early try to set your alarm one hour earlier than usual. Dedicate this extra time to yourself; really take the time to enjoy your coffee, read a chapter in your favorite book, practice yoga, or go outside for a morning walk. Getting ready for the day ahead in a calm and relaxed manner is a crucial step towards a more productive day. At least it will help you feel more in control, since having more time will make your morning less stressful, which in turn, will make your day less stressful. A study conducted by Dr. Joerg Huber of Roehampton University in London found that ”Morning people tend to be healthier and happier as well as having lower body mass indexes.” And remember to try to stay away from your mobile phone during these early morning moments.
  2. Do everything with great passion. Whether it’s brushing your teeth, taking a shower, driving to work, playing with your partner… Whatever it is – do it with passion. Let yourself be totally immersed in the practice – it will immediately take you into a more present kind of experience. It’s about not forgetting the importance of the mundane things, and making them more enjoyable. Life is not about waiting for the big things to occur, it’s about appreciating the everyday activities as well.
  3. Choose positive thoughts. Become mindful of your thoughts and how they actually affect you. ”Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.” – Eckhart Tolle. Do not judge yourself for having negative thoughts – simply notice them, and then let them go. Understand that they are only thoughts, and that you hold the power to change them. Why even engage in negativity when you can choose to be positive? The decision is all yours. You have the power.
  4. Practice gratitude. Focus on all the good you have in your life, rather than focusing on the bad, or the things you don’t have. If you start to focus on all the love and support around you, you’ll attract more love and support. A grateful heart is a magnet for more ❤ Write down 10 things every day that you’re grateful for; it can be anything from clean water, a comfortable bed, a kind heart, to a healthy, strong body.
  5. Spend time in nature. Sunlight, fresh air, adventure, calmness – Mother Nature has a lot to offer. There are high mountains to climb, oceans to get lost in, sandy beaches to marry, forests to make us breathe more deeply, soft snowflakes caressing our cheeks; Nature is limitless, and full of surprises. Let yourself become lost in her creativity.
  6. Perform an act of kindness. Do something nice for someone else, every day. A random act of kindness can totally turn a person’s day around. And while you’re at it – be kind to yourself. Always be kind to yourself. Choose healthy, nutritious foods – your body, mind and soul are worthy of only the best. Give yourself time to exercise – your body will thank you, and you will have more energy to do all the things you wish to do.
  7. Make time for the things you love. Even if it means that you have to get up one hour earlier… Dedicating time for the things you love is crucial for your well-being. The days may be hectic, and life is passing by in high-speed, however, there is always time for the things you love – it’s called prioritizing.
  8. Always carry a water bottle with you. Dehydration is not fun; it makes you feel tired, sluggish and unfocused. Always make sure you bring your water bottle with you. Thirsty? Put down the soda and grab water. Your body is made up of 50-75 % water. You need to keep that water intake going for your body’s production. ”85 percent of your brain tissue is comprised of water, so if you’re dehydrated, your body and mind will both be stressed.”
  9. Learn to just be. Let yourself become one with the present moment. Usually this happens when you do the things you love, hours passing by without you even noticing. I’ve become more aware of my surroundings when I go for a walk without my head phones on – it helps my mind to calm down, and thereby makes room for new creative thoughts to enter.
  10. Be active in your everyday life. While it’s important that you workout regularly, it’s even more crucial that you’re active in your everyday life. Take a short walk during lunch-break, skip the elevator, or why don’t you buy yourself a bicycle. If you have two legs make sure that you’re using them. Be grateful for having two legs.

Linda

Talk about what you love

”Dear life, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”

 

My darlings, let’s talk about the things we love, shall we?

I love soft hearts, the birth of a new season, watching the sky, at night, brimming with stars. I love a white canvas, painting my life, feeding my soul. I love talking to strangers, deep conversations, I smile, when you smile. I love waking up early dawn, life’s still asleep, my heart wide awake. I love writing, feeding you hope, feeding you joy and laughter. I love the moon, the sun, and the stars. I love summer. In fact, I love all seasons. Autumn, winter, spring. I love the serenity of nature, the richness and wisdom she provides. I love books. Oh, how I adore a great book. I love walking in an empty street, the stillness, the force of life running through my veins. I love a crowded market place, a foreign country, conversations I don’t understand, however, I read faces, I read eyes. I love lips on lips, skin on skin. I love the sunset, the sunrise, thunderstorms and heavy rain. I love gaining wisdom, interacting with people from all walks of life. I love humans. I love animals. I love the space, the air, the feeling of freedom and peace of mind. I love the sun caressing my cheeks, the light, late at night, shining through my window. I love deep connections, emotions wide awake, speaking feelings, speaking truth. I love being in the moment, cherishing every heartbeat. I love kissing in the rain, tears running down my cheeks, butterflies in my tummy. I love watching snow falling, flowers blooming, leaves turning red. I love written words, from deep within, poetry. I love red lips, the feeling of confidence, smiling at strangers. I love dancing, music, doing yoga, the human body. I love black coffee, brown eyes, adventurous souls. I love humor, falling asleep, with a smile on my face, waking up, with peace in my heart. I love being sensitive, a soul packed with emotions, filled with love, hope and passion. I love finding myself, everyday.

I love love.

Tell me what you love.

Linda

How to get through difficult change

”Your eyes talk to me all the time. Totally unaware of your words, speaking their own, unique language.

 

I like that language.”

 

Change is inevitable, growth is optional. Whether or not it’s good change, bad change – change we create ourselves or change that we don’t have control over – both natural, and spontaneous changes will happen throughout your life. Don’t resist the seasons changing, since that only creates sadness and even more struggle, instead learn to flow with the current.

Letting things flow naturally is, however, easier said than done. It requires a great deal of patience and an eagerness to reclaim the power that might have been lost along the way. Last but not least, you should always remember not to be too hard on yourself. You’re only human after all.

”It’s not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.”

– Charles Darwin

With this being said, below you’ll find a few life perspectives that hopefully can assist you when you find yourself stuck in the middle of a life changing situation;

Have faith

Trust the timing of your life. Understand that everything happens for a reason, whether the reason is for you to grow, to be open for new opportunities, or it might simply be a well needed wake up call. Trust that everything is working out for your good. Although it might not seem like it at the moment, a change is usually a start of something even better, a new beginning. Change is both painful and beautiful at the same time; do not fight it, instead use it to your advantage.

Acceptance

Acceptance is key. Even though the change is hard, try to grasp the reason behind it. When you finally get to the other side of change you will understand why it was necessary; why it had to take place. Sometimes we get so stuck at where we are that we completely lose focus and our ability to move forward. Usually, at times like that, change will happen, whether we like it or not. After a while you can see more clearly, and finally understand why it was doomed to happen. Since you weren’t able to make the change happen, it had to happen, with or without your consent.

Find the humor

This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t take life seriously, cause let’s face it; change can be hard, in fact it can be really tough. However, the human experience should be all about balance, meaning when you take a step back and begin to look at things with humor you take a bit of the heaviness off.

By all means, you’re allowed to grief; it’s necessary in order to heal, but you should also remember to find the good in your every day life, as to lighten yourself up.

Focus on solutions

To every problem there’s a solution. Always focus on the solutions, not the problems. If you’re boiling over with deeply strong emotions try using them to create something. In other words, take advantage of your feelings. Channel your emotions through writing, painting, exercising – anything that takes the pressure off, and makes you feel more as yourself again. Most often the most unique creations can come out of sadness, grief, loneliness and pain. Whatever you might be feeling; use those feelings to heal. Take it day by day, step by step – move forward in your own pace, and eventually you’ll blossom again. Oftentimes hard change lead to breakthroughs, and when you choose to stay open you might discover things about yourself you otherwise never would have noticed.

Face your fears

”The fears we don’t face become our limits.”

When you accept your fears, and start facing them, they will lose their power over you. To be amidst of a big life change can be very daunting, at least if you’re the one wanting to have complete control, however, the best thing you can do is surrender, and simply let things unfold naturally. Keep in mind that some things you just can’t control, and the more you try to, the messier it gets. The best thing you can do, is to let go, and go with the flow.

Not knowing what the future will hold can of course be real nerve-wracking, nevertheless, remember that with a little bit of hope, and plenty of faith everything will, eventually, work out for your best. Don’t let the fear of what could happen make nothing happen. Trust that everything will come to you in the right time – do your best to work on yourself, and strive for progression each and every day. And bare in mind, the tiniest progress is better than no progress at all. It’s within the present moment that our futures are created.

Darling, don’t fear change. Let it build you into a more powerful and confident human being.

Linda

The beauty of life

”I looked at you, and I can’t look away.”

Each and every one of us walking on this planet are worthy of a beautiful life. A life filled with joy, excitement, happiness and love. A life filled with abundance. Having said that, each and every one of us are responsible for our own happiness, to some extent. 

However, for some of us it will definitely be a lot more challenging; it’s like the universe demands more from some people than others. Yet, I believe the universe won’t give you anything which you can’t handle. If you’re constantly going through difficult situations; please, take a step back, and pause for a while. What is this trying to teach me? How will this make me grow? In the end, it’s all about our mindset, and how we choose to look at the things happening for us.

And yet I agree, at times it can be very difficult to try to find the positive in every situation. But the more I think about it – the more we choose truth and love, rather than fear and hatred, life will become easier. Eventually, life will flow with more effortless ease. When we choose to fully enjoy life, all aspects of life, that is also the moment when we become to realise the beauty of life.

When I say we all are responsible for our own happiness, I do not mean that we should not care about other peoples’ wellbeing, and solely think about ourselves. I strongly believe we are here to help each other. There will be times when you need to reach out for support, and there will be a time when you might have to help a complete stranger. This is what life is all about – to be able to provide support and guidance in times of need. And at the same time, be able to accept help when needed.

We have no idea what will happen in the future. Of course we can plan and prepare ourselves to the best of our abilities, but still, anything can happen. Every morning when you wake up; be thankful. Be happy you got this opportunity, to be here, right now, 2020. How you choose to show up to life is your decision. It is solely your decision. Now and then you might need to seek guidance from a close friend, someone you know you can trust. Other times you find the guidance inside of yourself; by being still. By quieting down the mental chatter, and outside noise. By listening, and turning within.

What is the purpose then, for all of this? The purpose of life?

The answers might of course vary greatly, depending on who you ask. However, I have come to believe that one main purpose is to make this existence a little more pleasant, for all of us. To choose love instead of fear, truth instead of dishonesty.

The most beautiful thing we can do for another human being, and ourselves, is to serve; to help each other grow, and transform into the humans we are meant to become. We are here to inspire, and to be inspired. The moment we start to see the beauty and potential within another human, that is the moment we start to see the beauty and potential within ourselves. This is how we are connected. We are all individuals, uniquely built, trying to figure out this thing called life; what path that will be the right one for us, things we need to accomplish in order to feel complete, and fulfilled. Nevertheless, at a closer look; aren’t we all so alike, in the way we all strive for happiness, security and love?

How we finally arrive at our destination, reaching that peaceful state of mind, will however differ for all of us. Be that as it may, in the end, we are all humans, and at the depth of our beings, longing for a sense of contentment, love and compassion.

Linda

Slow living

”The only constant thing in life is change, hence adapt to the cycles, and surrender to all that is given to you.”

I am a ”I just want to sit in front of the ocean for a little while” kind of person. Whenever I need to find stillness I go to the ocean. The sense of calmness, and the sound of the waves always brings peace to my soul. I’ve always lived close to the sea; I grew up on the coast, in a small town in Finland, and I’ve always seen myself living close to water. Wherever I move, there needs to be water. Water is life.

One thing I want to bring with me into 2020 is the idea of ”slow living”. Taking into account that I’m a rather sensitive human I believe it’s a concept I’ll greatly benefit from. In fact I believe all of us can benefit from slowing down the pace, even for a tiny bit. More often than not this fast paced society triggers feelings such as worry, anxiety and stress. We feel the pressure to have more, do more, be more. Never being satisfied, and constantly seeking instant gratifications. Forgetting all about how to breathe in-between.

”You’re right where you need to be in order to get to where you want to go.”

I’ve noticed that the quieter my surroundings, the easier it becomes to hear my inner voice. My mind is one of those who like to constantly chitchat about this and that, and usually about weird, irrelevant topics. To be able to still the mind, and listen to what lies underneath is, however, my main purpose while seeking stillness. When the mind is turbulent it’s difficult to hear or see anything, nevertheless, when the mind is calm, everything becomes clear blue sky. I believe, that, within the stillness you find space. A space called home.

One doesn’t have to meditate in order to find peace of mind, however it might help. Needless to say, it’s not the minutes that count; it’s what you carry with you, after you’ve been sitting in silence – the patience, the alertness and a greater sense of awareness. Meditation is not sitting with no thought –  it’s letting the thoughts pass by, not dwelling, but simply being aware. It’s a perfect way to practise slow breathing, going within, and trusting oneself.

When seeking stillness you allow your brain to go beyond thought. You might for example struggle with a challenging task, and seek more intelligent ideas on how to proceed – when you allow your brain to unwind, and ”turn off”, hence getting rid of all the pressure, you allow your creativity to come alive, which in turn may lead to more creative solutions to your problem.

”Trust the seasons changing, trust your inner voice. It knows.”

There’s a special thing being one with nature, whether it’s watching the ocean, smelling the forest, hiking in the autumn mountains, taking a midnight swim or laughing up in the air. Nature has a tendency to teach us plenty; she teaches us how to be still, how to unwind and relax. When in nature, start practicing being more present – stay alert and witness the beauty she so effortlessly provides us with. Let her guide you home.

Another perfect opportunity to practice slow living is while eating. Taste your food, smell it, feel it. With every bite, be there. When you eat, you eat, you don’t scroll through social media, watch TV, sit infront of your computer, or talk with your friends on the phone. You eat, and with every delicious bite, you’re there. It’s the same when you’re preparing food; cooking can actually be the most perfect way to unwind. Chill music in the background, a glass of red wine, good company – and you just created the most perfect recipe for ultimate relaxation.

Exactly why is slow living good for you?

The main reason – you actually start enjoying life, and not just living life. You become more aware of the things happening around you, as well as within you. I don’t believe life is meant to be rushed, cause to where are you rushing? Your death bed? 

Sit with yourself, discover what makes your heart sing.

Take every chance you get to do the things that make you come alive. It doesn’t have to be anything huge; if you like to play the piano – play the piano, if you like to feed the poor – feed the poor, if you like to write – write. Don’t complicate things. And remember to smile. To laugh. Life should be enjoyed with pure bliss.

When you’re enjoying what you’re doing you easily reach that so called flow state. A state of being when time passes by without you even noticing. A state of being when you’re your most creative self. A state of being when you’re guided by your inner voice. A state of being that can only be described by the words pure bliss. Learn to look at life with the curiosity of a child. Embrace who you are – all of it, both the shadow and the light. Accept your darker sides, your shortcomings. It is with acceptance and awareness that we can start to begin to change.

The study of self

By taking time to slow down you allow yourself to fully appreciate all that is happening within you. In other words, it can be seen as the study of self.

Become curious. Curious enough to want to know more about yourself, and the ways in which you can expand. There’s so much to discover, and learn about life, about yourself and the people around you. When you spend precious, slow time alone you gain a better understanding of who you are, and what you desire in life. You may also come to appreciate other peoples’ company more, after spending hours by yourself.

When it comes to relationships you have the opportunity to be both the teacher, and the student. Therefore, start practising slow living when interacting with other people. What can you teach each other? In what way can you serve one another? How can you both benefit from the interaction? Start by listening without judgment. Listen to understand, not simply to respond.

Keep in mind that everything is positive as long as we learn from it. Learn to forgive yourself, and others. Relationships are our biggest teachers. Humans are social creatures, we’re not meant to sit in solitude day in and day out. We’re meant to interact with each other. We’re meant to evolve and change with the help from one another. You truly get to know yourself while communicating and spending time with a wide range of people. It’s a tremendous richness to get to spend time with humans that are different from ourselves – people that have a different outlook on life, speak a different language, as well as people with different life experiences.

With this being said, I strongly believe we all can benefit from introducing the concept of  ”slow living” into our hectic lives. Not only for the sake of our own wellbeing, but in the interest of gaining a deeper connection within our relationships.

Linda

Dear January…

… it’s about time we take our power back.

”I want to see what the Universe unfolds for me.”

January is for authentic beings awakening to their souls. While nature’s half asleep – bloom, darling, bloom. Evolve – one precious step at a time. Believe in yourself, never neglect your true worth. Your true light. Strive for progression, growth and compassion. There’s always something to be grateful for. Life. Dear human, be grateful for life. Kiss your worries away. Dance with every loving breath. 

January is for taking that delicate, crucial first step. A beautiful opportunity to begin anew arises, sunrise after sunrise. Breath after breath. Souls awakening from the darkest of night. From the deep, deep slumber we all return to light. Guided by the strength within, shining bright.

Brave being, believe in your dreams. Appreciate your journey, for it molds you into the human you are. Into the human you are becoming.

This January is all about understanding one’s uniqueness. Knowing that it’s ok to be scared, to not have all the answers. Be ambitious anyway. Be curious, be you. It’s about listening, having faith. Allowing things to unfold naturally, with effortless ease. It’s about dancing with life, going with the flow, and surrendering to the magic it has to offer.

Trust your inner wisdom, while it’s guiding you to where you belong, to the steps you need to take. Darling, it’s time for you to awake, to everything your heart can shake.

It’s about sustainable living, showing loving kindness to all living beings; humans, animals and plants. Mother nature. Working hard and taking action. Creating a graceful planet, a peaceful world within. It all begins with you. 

January dear, I welcome you. It’s time to allow high vibes to fill our lives. It’s time to let love open our hearts. To let it sneak in. Uninvited. To let it refurnish, making itself comfortable. It’s time to let it stay.

Darling,
be brave enough
to speak
your truth.

Linda

What 2019 taught me

”Embrace the unknown, for that is what will help you grow.”

 

With 2020 just around the corner it’s the most perfect time to put an afternoon aside, to brew yourself a big warm mug of coffee, and reflect over the past year, and the most important lessons you’ve learned. 

I’m a firm believer in writing my intentions, goals and dreams down, preferably on a piece of paper. I guess I am more of a dreamer/planner than a doer. However, my intentions for 2019 was all about taking action and believing in myself and my abilities. Setting intentions not only makes it easier to stay focused, but it helps to keep the motivation up, as well as staying more grounded and closer to one’s core self.

And while I strongly recommend all of you to start writing down your intentions, I also think it’s of great advantage to reflect over the past year, and therefore gain better clarity of the things you’ve learned thus far. As I was reading through my intentions for 2019 I noticed that they go hand in hand with what I’ve learned, and hence I decided to review them as well.

Below you’ll find some of the most important things that 2019 taught me (including the intentions I set for myself in the beginning of the year).

 

What 2019 taught me

”There’s an abundance flowing within and without; everything I need, seek and long for is already resting within.”

Spreading kindness & compassion – I’ll strive my best to show loving kindness to all living beings; animals, humans and the planet. I’m inspired by random acts of kindness and compassionate people with big hearts filled with wisdom. There’s something special about humans who are caring and warmhearted to everyone; it seems like they are carrying a sense of calmness within, despite with whoever they interact.

I’ve learned not to be too hard on myself – to not judge myself for past mistakes, but rather, to redirect my focus towards the possibilities that might arise instead. Setbacks and road bumps actually teach us a lot about life and ourselves. As we move through challenges we get to know the depth about being human. Things not always going as planned can be a great chance to start all over, to create new opportunities in life.

And while I’ve learned not to judge myself, I’ve also become less judgmental towards other people as well. Try not to take anything another person says or does personally. We humans are rather occupied by our own defects and shortcomings, and they might surely come forth when using our tongue. And do keep in mind, happy and peaceful people don’t walk around destroying other people’s lives. Therefore, be kind to the unkind. You have no idea what shoes they’re walking in.

– I’ve learned that healing is far from linear, rather it’s an ongoing process. Some days you feel on-top-of-the-world, and the next day it feels like you’re back on square one. Nevertheless, don’t let it drag you down. Know that this too is part of the process – stay patient with yourself. Evolving and transforming sometimes requires a great deal of work; and you need to actively be putting in the effort.

Planting confidence – being confident without being cocky is very attractive. We’re capable of achieving way more than we give ourselves permission to pursue. Persistence is key here, and a willingness to work hard for what you want in life.

I’ve learned to be more patient with myself. Nothing good comes out of stressing about the things over which we have no control. By being more mindful and present in what I do I’ve learned to flow with it – whether it’s writing, studying, working, being in nature, meditating or speaking with friends and family.  I can always choose to be a bit more here and a little less somewhere else.

I’ve learned to not listen to everything I tell myself. We’re feeding ourselves with thousands of thoughts each and every day, therefore, choose them thoughts wisely. The first step in order to change negative thought patterns, or limiting beliefs is to become aware of them. Start listening to the voice inside your head. What does it tell you? Once you learn to recognize and identify these thought patterns you can start to have a choice about how to react, and with time consciously make a choice to let them go.

If something bad happened to you in the past it’s very easy to keep the negative emotion connected to that particular event alive by compulsive thinking. You start to see yourself as the victim. However, dwelling on the past won’t do you any good; it will only contaminate your present and affect your current state of being in a negative way. Most importantly, it will take you further away from appreciating the beauty and aliveness of the present moment.

I’ve learned that when I accept my fears, and start facing them, they will, slowly but surely, lose their power over me. To be in the middle of a big life change can be very daunting, at least if you’re a control freak (like me), however, the best thing you can do is surrender, and simply let things unfold naturally. Keep in mind that some things you just can’t control, and the more you try to, the messier it gets. The best thing you can do, is to let go, and go with the flow.


Embracing my sensitivity
– as a highly sensitive person I’m very sensitive to the people around me and their energies. I also feel a whole range of emotions, and it’s nothing wrong with that – as a matter of fact it’s completely normal and healthy to be able to tap into one’s feelings. Nonetheless, I’ve also become to realize the importance of not holding on to emotions for too long; I simply let them pass through me, and then peacefully let them go when they have done their job. Feelings like fear, worry and doubt don’t serve us in any way, and it’s about time we let go of them once and for all. While embracing my emotions I’ve become more self-aware, and more in tune with my inner state of being.

I’ve become to understand that within vulnerable lies strength. To be able to speak your truth is the most powerful way of self-expression;  I believe there’s a sense of freedom in being honest and raw; Start by being true to yourself, and not being afraid to show your most authentic self. We help others, by first helping ourselves.

I’ve learned that strong emotions can be used in order to create something beautiful. In other words, take advantage of your feelings. Channel your emotions through writing, painting, exercising – anything that takes the pressure off, and makes you feel more as yourself again. Most often the most unique creations can come out of sadness, grief, loneliness and pain. Whatever you might be feeling; use those feelings to heal. Take it day by day, step by step – move forward in your own pace, and eventually you’ll blossom again. Oftentimes hard change lead to breakthroughs, and when you choose to stay open you might discover things about yourself you otherwise never would have noticed.


Nurturing my intuition
– I’ve always had a strong intuition, and I would like to cultivate it even more. I’ve noticed that the more I meditate, taking time to really listen to my body and the stillness within, the more I feel connected to my inner voice; my inner guidance system so to speak. It gives a sense of power when you notice you can trust your intuition. I think all people have an inner voice waiting for them to listen carefully, however not everyone is ready to listen to what it has to say. I challenge you to pay attention to your intuition. Trust that you have all the answers within; you possess more power than you think, darling.

I’ve learned that the more I slow down, and take time to unwind, the better I can hear my inner voice. Slow living is the new living in 2020, simply cause some things are not meant to be rushed.

Light a candle and just sit for a while. Let the stillness speak. Be aware of the silence, of what’s happening within you. Relax, and let go of your worries; yesterday’s sorrows and tomorrow’s to-do’s. Count your breaths. Count your blessings. Learn to appreciate the moments when you’re doing absolutely nothing. If you listen carefully you’ll hear those whispers from deep within. Don’t ignore them. Pay attention, and take it all in.


Tapping into my spiritual side 
– I’m an open-minded person and I love to explore different parts of myself. After cultivating my spiritual side a bit more I’ve become to understand how calm and peaceful it makes me feel. I’ve become more content and hopeful. I truly believe we’re spiritual beings having a human experience. I also believe that there’s so much more to life than the things we can experience through our five senses. Understanding that we’re all in this together, however, experiencing life in our own unique way, makes me feel at peace.

I’ve learned that deep soul connections are gems that should be nurtured and taken care of. There are people with whom we form an instant connection; whether it’s a co-worker, a stranger at the bar, the person at the library, the gym or the internet. We meet new people everyday, yet there are certain gems we simply cannot forget. These are the people we need to hold on to; people that understands us, speaks the same soul language as us, that challenges us and helps us evolve.

Linda

How to become the best version of yourself

I went through some old blog posts from 2019, and found this one – one which the readers clicked on the most.

”Be the sort of person you would admire.”

You are a different person to different people. Annoying to some. Talented to another. Kind to a few. Unknown to a lot. But who are you, to you? What does the best version of yourself look like? Being the best version of yourself needs to start with you, it needs to come from within. Other people will always have expectations from you, however, only you decide who you truly are. 

1. Take your power back

 

To change your life, you have to change yourself. To change yourself, you have to change your mindset. It all begins and ends in your mind. What you give power to, has power over you – if you allow it. Trust that you have what it takes, the power is found within you.

You won’t become powerful through another person, getting a promotion or having excess money in your bank account. While these things might make you feel powerful, they won’t make you powerful. Cultivating self-confidence, as well as a deep trust within yourself while embracing a positive mindset, that my dear, will make you powerful. And don’t forget to sprinkle plenty of kindness and compassion on top of it all, and you’re good to go.

 

2. Strive for progression

 

Get comfortable with feeling challenged, cause it means you’re growing. Humans need to be challenged in order to not become stagnant. We’ve all been beginners at some point in our lives, but if you choose to constantly advance and move forward you’ll, after some time, notice remarkable improvements. It won’t happen over night, but giving up is not an option. I remember when I decided to start writing my blog in English, it made me feel a bit hesitant at first. However, after several months of writing I’ve noticed big improvements in my writing skills. Of course there’re still advancements to be made, but I’m making progress each and every day.

As humans we are never fully completed. I think if we come to terms with that statement life will become less intimidating. Less heavy, and more lighthearted. We don’t have to have all the answers, as long as we have that intense yearning to know more about ourselves, others and life. In plain English – a deep desire to experience life. You’re an evolving human being; constantly travelling through phases, through seasons, just so you can rise in full bloom.

 

3. Show kindness

”Be kind. It feels better.”

As humans we can choose to be a lot of different things. Nonetheless, the more I think about it I feel that one of the traits I consider as one of the most valuable is being kind. Other people will unquestionably remember if you’ve treated them well or not. How we choose to treat others says a lot about ourselves. Be someone people look up to. Give to others and help them be the best version of themselves too. At times it might be clever to be a bit selfish (don’t let yourself be manipulated by fools), however, you don’t have to be obnoxious to be successful. Be kind, always.

 

4. Follow your intuition

 

Listen to your inner voice. Quiet down the mental chatter, and start to observe. Your life needs to be your vision and no one else’s. It’s easy to get caught up in other people’s lives, and comparing oneself to other people’s success. You might listen too much to what your parents, friends and loved ones think you should do, or can do. This is usually detrimental to your own progression. Start focusing on what you have to offer to the world; what are your unique talents? How do you wish to live your life?

Don’t let the outside noise distract you – take time to pause, and to reflect. Trust yourself, and know, that the answers you’re seeking is found within. You’re more powerful than you might think. You have a powerful inner voice; learn to listen to it. Embrace your intuition, your heart. That inner wisdom of yours is forceful; learn to use it to your advantage.

 

5. Learn from your mistakes

 

Mistakes shouldn’t be regarded as merely mistakes. Instead they should be considered as obstacles making us become better, enhancing as human beings. They’re barriers, helping us grow and improve ourselves. Without mistakes you wouldn’t grow. Nevertheless, this means you need to become self-aware. You need to be self-conscious, and realize when you’ve made a mistake; otherwise you’ll never grow. You’ll keep on making the same mistake, over and over again, until you grasp the meaning behind it. Self-awareness = power.

 

Linda

Self-care December

”We can never run out of love. It’s in the air we are breathing.”

For most of us Christmas is a time of fellowship, joy and happiness. It’s a time when family get-togethers are more frequent, gifts and laughter are shared among loved ones, and eating a bit too much is part of the festivity. However, for a growing number of people the situation is completely different. 

”It’s Christmas time, there’s no need to be afraid. At Christmas time we let in light and we banish shade.”

– Do they know it’s Christmas, Band Aid -84

The number of people, who live in poverty, suffer from addiction or loneliness, are increasing world-wide. A problem we simply cannot ignore, since its transparency in our society is getting more and more evident. The question remains – what can we do about it? How should, and can we address these problems? The answers might vary, of course, but I believe that each and every one of us have a responsibility – and that first tiny step you need to take is to start with yourself. Is there anything you can do, right now, to make another person’s life a little more pleasant? And what can you do to make your own life a little more liveable?

I read somewhere (can’t remember where) that besides every country having their own flag, human beings should have a combined earth flag, since, we’re all in this together.

If you have the means to help people less fortunate, use them. Use them, to their advantage. How small of a task it might seem to you, it might end up being a tremendous support for a person in need.

Self-love

”By giving others a helping hand, you’re helping yourself. And by healing yourself, you’re healing others.”

Everything in life is connected. You, me, the trees, the stars, our thoughts, our actions, life-death-life; the circle of life wouldn’t be complete without any of it. We need the darkness, in order to experience the light. We need the hardships, to truly be thankful for the security. Yin and yang. The Sun, and the Moon. The summer, and the winter. We need all of it.

One way to begin is to start by giving more than what you expect in return. Give, without expecting anything in return. Just give, out of pure sincerity, out of pure love.

It all starts with you. You start by giving to yourself – you take care of yourself, you take care of your ”home”, your inner sanctuary. You feed and nurture yourself, daily, with love and care. You know that you’re worthy of being here, of having a voice. When you start to see your own beauty, when you stop judging yourself, that is when you start to see the beauty within others, without judging them.

It might feel difficult at first, but still – face your shit. Face your demons, face your pain. If I’ve ever said something hurtful to another person (yet, I don’t think of myself as a person walking around spreading pain, but still I’m human, we all have our days…) it has usually stemmed from me not facing my own share of discomfort, and therefore, lashing out at an innocent human. This is normal, this is part of being human. However, being in pain doesn’t give you the right to treat others in a dreadful manner. Thus, the importance of always glancing within.

Choose love over fear

”The outside distress is a reflection of the distress happening within.”

This vast universe is our playground. How do you wish to perform, to show up? Do you wish to live with fear and doubt, or with love and openness? Your choice. There are plenty of misery in this world, you just have to put on the news or take a few steps down your street, depending on where you live on this planet, to recognize that it’s not all sunshine and butterflies. Nevertheless, there are also plenty of hopefulness, plenty of love, but somehow those things don’t attract the news producers that often.

We need to aim at these difficulties from the right angle.

You can’t fight the fear, by being fearful. You can’t fight the darkness, by feeding it more darkness. You can’t fight ignorance, by being more ignorant. You can’t fight the wars of this planet, by producing more wars. You just can’t.

As I already mentioned, we need to start with ourselves. Don’t you dare blame anyone else if you haven’t taken a good look at yourself in the mirror. Just don’t. And by this I don’t mean that you need to be so hard on yourself; just embrace who you are – the good and the bad. None of us is perfect, and none of us will ever be perfect.

But, when we begin to open ourselves up to the different ways of experiencing life – by being more humble, receiving new insights and by being less judgmental – I truly believe we can start to create a little more peaceful home, for all of us. The outside distress is a reflection of the distress happening within, and vice versa. Remember, it’s all connected.

However, slowly but surely we can try to change the outside world. It all stems from within. You fight the fear by being more loving. You fight the darkness, by being the light. You fight the ignorance, by practising your inner wisdom. You fight the wars, by being at peace. Within.

Self-care December might start with you, but wait and see, it might have a forceful impact on the world around you as well.

Let it spread like wildfire.

Linda