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A note to the highly sensitive human

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“To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness…”

“Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a ‘hot mess’ or having ‘too many issues’ are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.”

― Anthon St. Maarten, Divine Living: The Essential Guide To Your True Destiny

…. the highly sensitive human often finds it more relaxing to be surrounded by nature, the magic of a full moon, or the ever comforting presence of an animal, than by being surrounded by a group of humans. by all means, the highly sensitive human loves humans. she regards them as highly fascinating creatures, although they rarely recognize it themselves. some days the highly sensitive human prefers one-on-one settings, other days she dreams of standing on a stage. some days the highly sensitive human prefers to read a book, other days she wish to speak up. but, whatever the situation, she needs time alone, to recharge, to create space. she doesn’t do well in crowded, loud environments; she needs peace in order to function. being a highly sensitive human can sometimes be hard in such an extroverted, chaotic world.

however, being a highly sensitive human is not the same as being shy, fragile. to be a highly sensitive human is to have an immense, gigantic inner world. it is to cry at a beautiful flower, simply because the flower is beautiful. it is to look at one’s lover and see all their flaws, imperfections cracked open, and love them even more. it is to experience a thousands of worlds in one kiss. it is to feel the poets anguish while reading the poem. it is to love the moments in-between, simply cause within them lies all the answers. it is to be highly intuitive. highly aware. soft, gentle. passionate. vivid. so, dear highly sensitive human, this sensitivity of yours it is not a weakness. it is one of the greatest powers of all. embrace it.

– l.m.v

“By some strange, unknown, inward urgency they are not really alive unless they are creating.”

“The truly creative mind in any field is no more than this: A human creature born abnormally, inhumanly sensitive. To them… a touch is a blow, a sound is a noise, a misfortune is a tragedy, a joy is an ecstasy, a friend is a lover, a lover is a god, and failure is death. Add to this cruelly delicate organism the overpowering necessity to create, create, create — so that without the creating of music or poetry or books or buildings or something of meaning, their very breath is cut off… They must create, must pour out creation. By some strange, unknown, inward urgency they are not really alive unless they are creating.”

― Pearl Buck, The Good Earth

The law of life

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”You are a limitless being.”

What you send out into the universe – through your thoughts, feelings, words, actions – you attract into your life. Cultivating an abundant and positive mindset, visualization and intention-setting, are great ways in order to start creating the life you want. It’s about shifting your focus, shifting your perspectives. It’s about being able to turn a negative day into a great day, simply because you choose to. Simply because you can.

Nevertheless, it’s not enough to simply think, write or speak about the things you want in life, however, it’s a vital start. You have to believe, in order to receive. If you don’t believe in yourself and all that you’re capable of, nothing much will grow out of it. What is more, you’ll have to begin to take inspired action. It’s not enough to simply sit on the coach, listening to inspirational podcasts or visualizing dreams and goals coming through – we actually need to take that tiny frightening first step as well, not knowing where it will take us.

”Bring your thoughts to a higher level.”

In order for the magic to start flowing into your life you’ll have to take action. It may be scary at first, I know – fear is for sure a sneaky bastard, always visiting without any invitation what so ever. How rude. Often when you find yourself confused, not knowing what direction to take, it’s usually fear that gets in the way.

See it for what it is – fear. A feeling of anxiety, a feeling of being judged by others, a feeling of not being good enough.

Breathe it in, feel it. Don’t run away from it. Confront it. Stand tall and get ready to fight. Fight for your truth. Fight for you. Don’t let fear stop you from chasing your dreams. You know better than that. You’re stronger than that. You’re stronger than fear.

”Your thoughts are powerful.”

Everything has energy; our thoughts have energy, our perspectives have energy, how we interact with the world around us creates energy. You can change your perspectives right in this split second based on your thoughts.

This won’t, however, happen over night (or in some cases it actually might). You’re allowed to have bad days; days when you feel like crap and all you want to do is to feel sorry for yourself. Accept these feelings, but know that you are not your feelings, you simply experience these feelings. Nonetheless, as soon as it gets too intense – the second you feel that you’re not the one in charge – know that you’ve the power to change things around. It’s time to take your power back. You choose if you want a negative situation to impact your entire day, your entire life even. It’s completely up to you.

There are times when life messes with us in ways we never thought were possible; life can put whatever obstacle right in front of you, nevertheless, it’s how you decide to look at this obstacle that will determine your willpower and success. Life won’t give you anything you aren’t ready for.

With this being said, below you’ll find a few mindsets to embrace, that hopefully will make it a bit easier for you to start flowing with life, instead of fighting against life.

Use positive affirmations to replace negative limiting beliefs.

Whenever you find yourself talking down on yourself – as soon as you become aware – replace the negative thoughts to positive affirmations. I AM is a powerful way to start a sentence. I am whatever I set my mind to.

Make feeling good a priority.

Do things that make you feel content, and at ease with yourself and your life. Take time everyday to listen within, listen to your soul. What does it want? Prioritize your health and your well-being. Make yourself a priority. In order to show affection and compassion to others you’ll have to start showing it to yourself.

Love yourself and know that you are worthy of what you want.

This is easier said than done, but really, try your best to not compare yourself to others. You’re not them, and they are not you. No one is either more or less than you, and you’re not more or less than anyone else. And isn’t that what makes this life so compelling? That we’re a bunch of humans, although somehow so alike, we have our different traits, up-bringing and weird quirks. We have our different struggles, things to heal and to let go of. If we only knew how much there’s to learn from one another, so much wisdom and clarity to gain from each other. Every human you’ve met thus far, know that you’ve met them for a reason. Although you’ve let people hurt you in the past, know that it was something you had to go through, in order to find yourself, in order to find your inner strength.

Be still & awaken your intuition.

You’ll have to quiet the mind, in order to hear beyond the mental chatter. Within the silence you’ll find the truth – it’s where you’ll find the presence and the essence of life. To be able to find stillness within a busy world, is to be able to find the meaning of life. The meaning of who you are. Trust your own inner voice, your own knowing. Don’t seek out for other people’s opinion all the time. Think for yourself – what do you want? What do you need? However, at times it might be a very good idea to ask for advice, but don’t make a habit out of it. Rather, learn how to be still, and you might find that the answer is already resting within you – you may don’t want to accept it, or think you’re able to deal with the truth – but trust me; you are more than capable.

Don’t judge the moment.

This is the door to all that is. Celebrate the moment, and awaken to the flashes unfolding.

The present – the only moment there is for us to be alive. Humans are very good at preparing to live, but not very good a living. Habitually dwelling in the past and dreaming of the future, while having difficulties concentrating the mind on the present moment. Wherever you are – know that you are home. Wherever you find yourself; whether you’re stuck in a rut, anxious, or simply lost in the fast spinning outside world – whatever the present moment contains – accept, then act. Always work with life, not against life. Don’t feel like life is controlling you, you are controlling life. And yes, life will hit you (it might even hit you hard), but know that you’ll never grow with the perfect life.

The moment you begin to evaluate and criticize the situation you’re in, the thoughts flowing within your mind, or even the way you’re breathing, the judging perfectionist has arrived. The judging perfectionist that believes that a present moment experience is supposed to be a blissed-out Zen experience filled with peace and light. And let’s face it, it’s very seldom like that.

Isn’t it our job to find peace amidst of it all?

”Sometimes, the universe does not allow us to move forward, until we have honored where we are right know.”

But how is it even possible to stay patient and calm in a world that’s constantly changing? To stay satisfied with what is, when the mind is obsessed with living in the past or worrying about the future? It’s like it does anything just to escape the now.

”I don’t want to be here, I need to get to there.” ”When I find the perfect partner, that perfect job, earn loads of money and become successful, then I’ll be happy.” ”I’m not satisfied with where I am, I need to have more, be more; then my life will be fulfilled.”

The ego will never be fulfilled; no matter how much recognition, admiration, power or success it receives the ego will always crave more.

The ego doesn’t thrive by being in the present. However, the present moment is all there ever is and ever will be; when something happens, it always happens now. Nothing ever happens in the future, it happens in the moment.

It’s nothing wrong with wanting to achieve goals, or visualizing a life filled with abundance, prosperity, love and happiness. Most likely these wonderful, external things will bring a great deal of joy and happiness into your life, but for the most part it’s a short-lived kind of happiness. After a while the ego eventually gets bored, unsatisfied, and starts craving more of that external success.

In other words, achieving external success isn’t the root to your happiness. Constantly pleasing others, and thereby forgetting about your own wants and needs, isn’t a life well lived. Defining your worth according to how others treat you, isn’t going to make you feel more desirable. People may adore you, or they may dislike you, either way it shouldn’t affect you, since, in the end what you think about yourself is the only thing that matter. Of course it will hurt if you get abandoned, rejected or replaced. Despite the amount of pain you’re feeling, know that none of these circumstances will make you less worthy. Whether you didn’t get that promotion or you were replaced by another lover, you should never let it affect your inner happiness. That is giving your power away to other people or circumstances – letting it dictate your state of being.

It’s easy, and very human, to fall into negative self-talk whenever something bad happens in life. Self-pity parties might feel okay at first, but in the end, feeling sorry for yourself won’t make you feel any better. Adopting a more positive way of thinking is a first step towards a more solid kind of happiness;

”When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

– Wayne Dyer

Maybe you didn’t get that promotion simply because there’s a much better option waiting for you? Why not trust the unfolding of your life? Why not accept and embrace this moment?

But how does one discover an inner, true form of happiness?

By being present.

And by not judging everything as good or bad all the time. Let things be, just as they are. Accept them, just as they are.

What is more, the present moment experience is the most healing state there is. Old emotions stored deep down in the body; whether it’s grief, anger, sadness or pain, need to be released out of our systems. Unprocessed emotions can show up in different forms, such as a disease, judgement towards people we don’t know, or as an addiction. They might even hold us back from evolving, hence keeping us stuck.

You can choose to work with The Law of Life in many different ways, however, I believe it’s important that you find the way best suitable for you. Really take the time to figure out what you want out of life; put time aside to reflect on how you want to feel, rather than focusing on what you want.

Stay optimistic, yet realistic; there’s a fine balance between living above the clouds and staying grounded on earth. Both is needed –  of course you can tell yourself I’m a limitless human being, but let’s face it, you’ll have to become conscious of what is possible for you. Self-awareness is everything – learn about yourself; what are your specific strengths and weaknesses, and go from there. Be passionate about evolving, and about constantly learning about all things new. Those that are curious, as well as adaptable to change, usually seem to flow through life with a little more effortless ease.

With love,

Linda

Write your future

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You are the creator of your reality.”

Scripting, or journaling, is a powerful tool to create the life you want. It’s a way of visualizing your future and how you wish it to unfold; in other words you get to design your entire life. How do you wish to live?

”We chase likes instead of dreams. We surf the web instead of the world. We build profiles instead of connections. We let computers fill our hearts, and then we wonder why we feel so empty.”

– Mark Groves

Whether you choose to use scripting every day, once a week, once a month or once a year, remember it can be a powerful tool to create your desired outcome.

  • Write everything in detail, the way your desired life are. Write everything as it already happened, in the present tense, the way that you desire it.
  • The key ingredient when writing your script is emotion. How do you want to feel? How does your future life make you feel?
  • Implementing gratitude is an important part when scripting. In between sentences write down how thankful you are for the life you have.
  • Last but not least – make it fun. Scripting is supposed to be light-hearted. Your focus should be on having fun while doing it so you don’t have doubts about whether it will happen or not. Creating your life should be excitement & passion combined with an effortless flow, making insecurities and fears disappear.

”The most effective way to do it, is to do it.”

– Amelia Earhart

1. Imagination

Don’t be afraid to dream big. Use your imagination freely. Allow Walt Disney’s famous quote to sink in –”If you can dream it, you can do it. As children we dream so effortlessly, without judging ourselves or thinking we can’t do it. For a child anything is possible; the world is grand and filled with opportunities. Anything is possible for the one who is stupid enough to believe so. Let yourself become childlike. Not naive, but, an imaginative, excited child.

2. Focus & Attention

Wherever you choose to put your focus will eventually grow and become part of your world. Visualize what you want. Stay focused on your desires. Don’t let other people’s negativity and lack of self-worth drag you down. It’s easy to be affected by another person’s bad mood or negative outlook on life; however, do bear in mind – a big fat smile can turn another person’s bad day around 😉

3. Feel it

You have power over your feelings. If you don’t feel good; begin with accepting the state you are in, because then and only the can you begin to change it. Change your focus and you will change your world. Becoming aware of how your negative thoughts affect you is the first step. Don’t be too hard on yourself. There will be days when you can’t bother putting a smile on that beautiful face of yours. But then, all of a sudden, you read a part in your favourite book, you go for a walk, or have an uplifting conversation with a good friend – and just like that your mood has changed from negative to positive. It’s usually the little things in life that will cheer you up. However, you decide.

4. Movement & Action

Action is the making of imagination. Start saying yes to things, although they might scare you. Start making decisions that will take you one step closer to your goals. Every baby step counts. Dreaming alone will take you nowhere, you have to take action in order to move forward.

”Grow from the past. Prepare for the future. The present is here; live it.”

Art in focus

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There is a thought, a vision, behind everything you do. Let’s make it a good one.”

I was talking to a very good friend of mine the other day about how I can’t seem to re-create any of my paintings. They always come alive in those moments when I’m the most still, and alert. Listening and open to receiving. It’s like I’m just a tool, holding the brush, doing what I’m supposed to do.

When do you feel most alive?

Art in focus

mornings in june

[ mornings in june ]

– the most tranquil hours, when the world is still a sleep, and yet all dreams are possible.

… and my heart melted

[ … and my heart melted ]

– those precious moments in between.

i never promised you my rose garden

[ i never promised you my rose garden ]

– you are yours, before you are anyone elses.

I wish you all a beautiful weekend.

5 mindsets to be the best version of yourself

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”Be the sort of person you would admire.”

You are a different person to different people. Annoying to some. Kind to another. Talented to a few. Unknown to a lot. But who are you, to you? What does the best version of yourself look like? Being the best version of yourself needs to start with you, it needs to start from within. Other people will always have expectations from you, however, you know who you are, and what’s capable for you.

When striving to be the best version of yourself, remember, that version will vary from day to day. Always ask yourself how do I feel today? What would I like to accomplish? What is my intention?

Below you’ll find five mindsets on how to be the best version of yourself.

1. Take your power back

To change your life, you have to change yourself. To change yourself, you have to change your mindset. It all begins, and ends in your mind. What you give power to, has power over you – if you allow it. Trust that you have what it takes. You won’t become powerful through another person, getting a promotion or having excess money in your account. These things might make you feel powerful. But they won’t make you powerful. Having a confidence that stems from within, a deep trust in yourself and a positive mindset, that my dear, will make you powerful.

2. Strive for progression

Get comfortable with feeling challenged, it simply means you’re growing. Humans need to be challenged in order to not become stagnant. We’ve all been beginners, but if you choose to constantly advance, and move forward you’ll after some time notice remarkable improvements. It won’t happen over night, but giving up is not an option. When I decided to start writing my blog in english, it made me a bit hesitant at first. However, after several months of writing I’ve noticed big improvements in my writing skills. Of course there’re still advancements to be made, but I’m making progress each and every day.

Is there an area where you would like to expand your knowledge and expertise? Start with the smallest of steps, and notice how, little by little, a development occurs.

3. Spread kindness

As humans we can choose to be a lot of different things. Nonetheless, the more I think about it I feel that one of the traits I consider as one of the most valuable is being kind. Other people will unquestionably remember if you’ve treated them well or not. How we choose to treat others says a lot about ourselves. Be someone people look up to. Give to others, and provide space for them to be the best version of themselves too. At times it might be clever to be a bit selfish, and to set clear boundaries (don’t let yourself be manipulated by fools), however, you don’t have to be obnoxious to be successful. Be kind, always.

4. Let your intuition guide you

Listen to your inner voice. What does it tell you? Quiet down the mental chatter, and start to observe. Your life needs to be your vision and no one else’s. It’s easy to get caught up in other people’s lives, comparing oneself to other people’s success. You might listen too much to what your parents, friends and loved ones think you should do, or can do. This is usually detrimental to your own progression. Start focusing on what you have to offer to the world; what are your unique talents? How do you wish to live your life? With this being said, it’s nothing wrong in seeking advice or inspiration from others that has already succeeded within your field of interest. Nevertheless, the main focus should be on yourself, and what you can do.

5. Learn from your mistakes

Mistakes shouldn’t be regarded as merely mistakes. Instead they should be considered as obstacles making us become better, enhancing as human beings. They’re barriers, helping us grow and improve ourselves. Without mistakes you wouldn’t grow. Nevertheless, this means you need to become self-aware. You need to be self-consious, and realise when you’ve made a mistake; otherwise you’ll never grow. Instead, you’ll keep on making the same mistake, over and over again, until you grasp the meaning behind it.

All things considered, when it comes to choosing the best mindsets for growth, you need to adapt those most suitable to you. Get to know yourself, and be honest where improvements need to be made. In what areas are you struggling? And where are you flourishing? Self-awareness = power.

A bird’s eye view

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”The eyes are useless when the mind is blind.”

How to master the art of observing life with an open mind? Where others see either black or white, to learn to see the rainbow? Life is a spectrum of moments, occurring one after the other. Anything can happen. And it’s impossible for us to know what might be hiding behind the corner. We’re allowed to change – in fact we should, change, and grow. In line with each and everyone of your breaths you are allowed to be. Exactly the one you were meant to be.

For the most part of my life I’ve tried to live with an open-mind. I’m very curious, and I’ve always thought that there can’t be one answer to all of this. Of course not. My opinions do not have to align with yours. However, I will always respect you, for being you. For your actions, and thoughts, even those I don’t agree with. ”Oh, you think like that, interesting.” I think if we humans would strive to become better at letting people live their own lives, without judging those who are different from ourselves, I truly believe this world would become a more peaceful place. Who am I to tell anyone how to live their life? Instead, we should focus on living the life we want, without being afraid to be judged.

Open your mind.

Open-minded people don’t care to be right, they care to understand. There’s never a right or wrong answer. Everything is about understanding. They don’t expect people to agree with everything they say, however, they expect them to know that they have their own view on things. What is more, open-minded people don’t impose their beliefs on others. They just accept all of life’s perspectives and realities, doing their own thing in peace without judgment.

”It’s the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”

– Aristotle

The true mark of maturity is when somebody hurts you, and you try to understand their situation instead of trying to hurt them back. And this of course doesn’t mean that you should just accept when someone is hurting you – not at all. What it means is, you should learn to look at life with a bird’s eye view – there are more to this life than the thoughts in your mind. There are more to this life than your way of seeing things. There is something to be learned from everyone. Even from the fools.

I do think it’s important that we learn how to be open-minded to peoples’ opinions, even when we don’t agree. As long as we don’t harm anyone with our actions or words we are fully authorized to live our life on our own terms. I truly believe one of the most sincere forms of respect is to actually listen to what another person has to say. And if you don’t understand – don’t be afraid to ask questions. The worst distance between two human beings is misunderstanding.

When two people stop communicating with each other, or worse, when they stop listening to each other, that is when the problems start arising. We start to assume things, or we believe we think we know what the other person is trying to say. Instead of asking we assume. We humans are very good at putting our own expectations on people. Why? Maybe we’re afraid of the answer. Maybe we’re just trying to create a false sense of control. Maybe we’re afraid that we thought we knew someone when we actually have no idea. But remember this, if you do not ask, and try to understand, you will never fully get to know life. And you will never fully get to know yourself.

Open your eyes, darling. Open your mind. There’s magic, everywhere.

All is well

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”Give yourself space to be.”

At times the most heartfelt and firm self-help tip you can give yourself is to allow yourself to simply do nothing. There is nothing to achieve, nothing to become, nothing to chase or create – merely the notion that everything is exactly the way it is.

This constant need to be the best version of oneself; to aim for higher, better, more accomplished, the best, and to never take the time out of ones hectic day to acknowledge where one is, what one has. What one already is.

To be at peace with not having it all, no doing it all – in a world that tells us to – Work harder, achieve more. You are not enough. You will never be enough.

And of course, it’s good, and even necessary, to grow and evolve, and to want to become better. But there needs to be a healthy balance. Yin and yang. Being and doing. Moon and sun. Silence and discipline. Listening and speaking. Feeling and thinking. Slow and fast. Internal and external. Night and day. Earth and sky. Spirituality and science. Calm and expressive. Feminine and masculine. Heart and mind.

Being one with life.

You don’t have to do or be anything else than what you are, right now. You are exactly, exactly, who and where, you need to be right now.

All is well.

Discomfort is an opportunity to grow

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”You’re being presented with two choices; evolve or repeat.”

In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety. Each time we’re faced with a challenge it’s very easy to become caught up in thoughts about everything that could go wrong, instead of being excited about everything that could go right. This mindset is to a certain extent completely natural, and our bodies and minds way of keeping us from danger, hence keeping us from stepping into the unknown.

To fully embrace oneself, and to accept oneself exactly as one is, is a lifelong journey in and of itself. To some of us it might come naturally, without us even thinking about it. However, to others it takes a deeper kind of practice – something that needs to be nurtured daily.

It’s difficult to not become caught up in the demands of the outside world; constantly comparing ourselves to others, or simply never being satisfied with who we are.

As a highly sensitive empath I fell into the people pleasing mentality rather early in life. I always wanted others to like me, and usually I was afraid to speak up because I never wanted to upset anyone, or then I thought – ”Who am I to even speak up?” Whenever I found myself in a relationship I always put the other person’s needs above my own, completely forgetting about what I really wanted out of the relationship. I seriously thought that it made me into a kinder, more compassionate human. And while it’s necessery to care for others and their needs, it never calls for us to forget about our own needs.

In a way this people pleasing mentality can be seen as something rather natural, since at the end of the day we humans want to feel connected to one another. However, personally I needed to learn that I can still connect with another human being without me having to lose myself in the process. It’s when I’m deeply connected with myself that I connect with the people I’m meant to connect with.

”I know what I bring to the table. So trust me when I say I am not afraid to eat alone.”

– Unknown

Learning how to set healthy boundaries was very discomforting to me. In the beginning I felt completely lost, since it didn’t come naturally to me. I really needed to learn how to incorporate new, healthy habits into my life. The habit of speaking up for myself, and for seeing my own worth.

And we all know that creating and forming new habits do not usually happen over night. It requires attention and dedication, each and every day.

This is an ongoing journey that needs my fullest attentiveness, however, I’ve already come so far. Now I know that I don’t have to please anyone, but myself. I’m allowed to be exactly who I am, as long as I don’t harm myself or any other sentient being. I’m allowed to speak up about things important to me. I’m allowed to say no. I’m allowed to just be. And you are too. You’re allowed to be your most authentic self. You’re not obligated to explain yourself to anyone, you’re allowed to just be.

It’s when you fully embrace all of you that the people who are meant to be in your life will come to you. You don’t need to force a connection, it just flows, cause you’re vibrating at the same frequency.

What does leveling up mean to you? How does it make you feel? And who does it make you wanna be?

10 habits to improve your life

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”Consistency is more important than perfection.”

Below you’ll find a list of small habits that will make your days more enjoyable, productive and mindful. Keep in mind that it takes approximately 21 days to form a new habit, therefore be consistent. Performing habits like these might not seem like a big deal, but it’s usually the smallest of habits and routines that, at the end of the day, will have an huge impact on our everyday life.

”The future is created in the present moment. Don’t resist the seasons changing, instead, learn to flow with the breath of life.”

  1. Wake up one hour earlier. If you’re not already waking up super early try to set your alarm one hour earlier than usual. Dedicate this extra time to yourself; really take the time to enjoy your coffee, read a chapter in your favorite book, practice yoga, or go outside for a morning walk. Getting ready for the day ahead in a calm and relaxed manner is a crucial step towards a more productive day. At least it will help you feel more in control, since having more time will make your morning less stressful, which in turn, will make your day less stressful. A study conducted by Dr. Joerg Huber of Roehampton University in London found that ”Morning people tend to be healthier and happier as well as having lower body mass indexes.” And remember, try to stay away from your mobile phone during these early morning moments.
  2. Do everything with great passion. Whether it’s brushing your teeth, cooking, taking a shower, driving to work, having sex with your partner. Whatever it is – do it with passion. Let yourself be totally immersed in the practice – it will immediately take you into a more present kind of experience. It’s about not forgetting the importance of the mundane things, and making them more enjoyable. Life is not about waiting for the big things to occur, it’s about appreciating the everyday activities as well.
  3. Choose positive thoughts. Become mindful of your thoughts and how they actually affect you. ”Rather than being your thoughts and emotions, be the awareness behind them.” – Eckhart Tolle. Do not judge yourself for having negative thoughts – simply notice them, and then, watch them peacefully pass through you. Understand that they are only thoughts, and that you hold the power to change them. Why even engage in negativity when you can choose to be positive? The decision is all yours. And this, however, doesn’t mean that you should ignore the bad stuff. Of course not, since bad stuff happen all the time. Nevertheless, it’s how you choose to look at the things happening in your life that will determine your overall wellbeing.
  4. Practice gratitude. Focus on all things wonderful you have in your life, rather than focusing on the bad, or the things you don’t yet have. If you start to focus on all the love and support around you, you’ll attract more love and support. A grateful heart is a magnet for more ❤ Every day before going to bed write down 10 things that you’re genuinely grateful for; it can be anything from clean water, a comfortable bed, a kind heart, to a healthy, strong body. And while you’re at it, spend some time reflecting on things you could have done differently – did your words match your actions? Did you show compassion towards yourself and others? Did you have a good day? And if not – what can you do tomorrow that might change things around for the better.
  5. Spend time in nature. Sunlight, fresh air, adventure, calmness – Mother Nature has a lot to offer. There are high mountains to climb, oceans to get lost in, sandy beaches to marry, forests to make us breathe more deeply, soft snowflakes caressing our cheeks; Nature is limitless, and full of surprises. Let yourself become lost in her creativity.
  6. Perform an act of kindness. Do something nice for someone else, every day. A random act of kindness can totally turn a person’s day around. And while you’re at it – be kind to yourself. Always be kind to yourself. Choose healthy, nutritious foods – your body, mind and soul are worthy of only the best. Give yourself time to exercise – your body will thank you, and you will have more energy for all the things you wish to do.
  7. Make time for the things you love. Even if it means that you have to get up one hour earlier… Dedicating time for the things you love is crucial for your well-being. The days may be hectic, and life is passing by in high-speed, however, there is always time for the things you love – it’s called prioritizing.
  8. Always carry a water bottle with you. Dehydration is not fun; it makes you feel tired, sluggish and unfocused. Always make sure you bring your water bottle with you. Thirsty? Put down the soda and grab water. Your body is made up of 50-75 % water. You need to keep that water intake going for your body’s production. ”85 percent of your brain tissue is comprised of water, so if you’re dehydrated, your body and mind will both be stressed.”
  9. Learn to just be. Let yourself become one with the present moment. Usually this happens when you do the things you love, hours passing by without you even noticing. I’ve become more aware of my surroundings when I go for a walk without my head phones on – it helps my mind to calm down, and thereby makes room for new, creative thoughts to enter.
  10. Be active in your everyday life. While it’s important that you workout regularly, it’s even more crucial that you’re active in your everyday life. Take a short walk during lunch-break, skip the elevator, or why don’t you buy yourself a bicycle… If you have two legs make sure that you’re using them. Be grateful for having two legs.

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”Know your worth. Don’t ask for it – state it.”

In the end, it all comes down to self-worth. If you don’t believe that you’re worthy of neither success, love, abundance, compassion nor enjoying beautiful experiences it will be very difficult for you to attract any of these things into your life.

”Because of the continuous negative programing that we face in society, we focus on the bad and unpleasant things and project this negativity onto ourselves so often without even realizing it……… There is never a day that you are not worthy. Self-worth is not determined by anything; you don’t have to do anything to be worth it. You just are. (Mutiwasekwa, 2019)

To start with – Never, ever apologise for being your most authentic self.

When I was younger (and sometimes even today) certain kind of people often describe me as being sensitive. Like being sensitive would be something bad. Now I usually laugh if I get a comment like that. ”Yes, I’m a sensitive human being. And I embrace it, I embrace my vulnerability. And by the way you should try it; it might benefit you, helping you being more attuned with your feelings and emotions.” This is not meant to be a post about sensitivity and vulnerability, I just want to use it as an example as to demonstrate the importance of staying true to yourself – cause you’re worth it.

This sensitivity of mine enables me to tap into other peoples’ feelings, and makes it easier for me to put myself in another person’s shoes. It allows me to be more empathetic with others, as well as with myself. It allows me to be less judgmental towards others, as well as towards myself. In other words, this sensitivity of mine allows me to be more human. And I wouldn’t want to change it for the world.

Ok, with that being said, let’s go back to self-worth.

The day you decided that you’re not worthy was the day you chose to abandon yourself. You decided that your self-worth is something that is in the hands of other people – if someone rejected you, you thought that it has to do with you not being worthy, you not being good enough for that person. You chose to give your power to someone that is not meant to play with it – it’s an innate strength and force that no one else but you have power over. You possess that power, so don’t you ever give that away. Don’t you ever adandon yourself.

When you realise that you’re as worthy as anyone else on this planet, and that you too have the possibility to live life as you wish you start to grow better confidence – Suddenly you don’t feel the need to constantly compare yourself to others, and you don’t feel the urge to please others all the time.

How can you overcome feelings of low self-worth? And are there any particular habits to improve your self-worth?

Your biggest critic is usually yourself. Start noticing the way you talk to yourself on a daily basis. What kind of words are you using to describe yourself? Are they uplifting? Or do they make you feel even more miserable? Let the thoughts arise from your subconscious mind. Oftentimes we’re not even aware of how negatively we talk to and about ourselves. It’s like we’re operating on autopilot.

Keep a journal – write down all the negative thoughts you’re having at the moment, and start rewriting them. Transform the negatives into positives. For each negative thought you have about yourself come up with three positive ones. Write down what you’re thankful for, what you love about yourself and the things you’re good at. Accept the parts of you that you’re not proud of. Is there anything you can do to become better than the person you were yesterday? Focus on what you can do. Focus on what you already have, and how you can evolve and grow.

Keep on learning and dare to try new things. I’m a firm believer in learning something new on a daily basis. I genuinely have a love for learning, and I strongly believe it has assisted me towards becoming a more confident woman. Now don’t get me wrong. I don’t say that we have to learn in order to gain recognition or validation from others, but to learn simply beacuse we want to learn. If you’re interested in a certain topic – do your research and allow yourself to dive right in.

Learn to speak up for yourself. While it’s very easy to go with the flow and play cool in order to not upset anyone, it’s very important that you learn how to speak up for yourself. If you don’t believe that you’re worthy of having an opinion, or being treated nicely and with respect, then unfortunately there will be those who will take advantage of that. You have to learn how to take care of yourself. Just because you have a different opinion or a different outlook on something doesn’t mean that you’re being rude – It’s just you being you, and owning it.

Learn to think for yourself, believe in your own ideas and values, and you will expand as a person.

References:

Mutiwasekwa, S. (2019). Self-Love. You cannot love someone else until you learn to love yourself. Accessed from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-upside-things/201911/self-love