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Small daily habits to improve your life

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”Ask yourself; Does this support my innermost being?”

While being perfect is rather boring, we should instead strive to be a bit more willing to be the best version of ourselves. A version that will change from day to day, from hour to hour even. Some days we learn, some days we win. However, we don’t stop when the mountain gets too high or the sea too rough. Rather, we adjust. We may scream a little (or a lot), we may laugh at our foolishness. But we continue, we adapt. And that’s how we evolve.

”Fragile you are, little seed. Planted in the depths of thick, dark, nourishing soil. Resilient you are, blooming flower. Early spring.”

l.m.v

I strongly believe it’s the small daily habits that encompass the greatest value on our overall wellbeing. Like waking up early dawn, knowing it’s time to make yourself a freshly brewed cup of coffee. The smell and sound of coffee beans grinding. The taste of creamy oat milk, nicely poured on top of a hot, steamy cup of goodness. The day can begin. But first, a moment to enjoy a silence only the tranquil, early hour can provide.

Needless to say, there’s an endless list of habits which to incorporate in order to produce a bit more substance to your day. Ask yourself; What can I do to make my day more meaningful? It can be anything, as long as it invigorates you. Something modest, yet something which holds a great deal of significance, and that you wish to bring about, every day.

Below you’ll find some small daily habits of mine that I’ve become utterly attached to, in that sense that they’ve come to play a crucial part of my day. My morning coffee routine being one of them.

Learning Italian at least 15 minutes a day

I simply adore the Italian language. La lingua italiana é sempre bella. I love to listen to the pronunciation, I love learning new words, and I love the way it challenges my brain. I spoke a little bit of Italian 18 years ago, however, I’ve forgotten plenty since I haven’t been practising. To set aside 15 minutes every day for a language is achievable almost for anyone. And some may say that 15 minutes a day isn’t enough in order to learn – still, during these minutes I’m fully engaged in the language, and 15 minutes a day is 105 minutes a week. A little bit every day is better then everything in one day, at least in my opinion. It has become a highlight of the day; 15 minutes of me travelling to Italy, daily.

Journaling

Ever since I started with this daily practice I’ve felt less anxious and more at peace. You see, my mind is constantly chatting – always seems to be a party up there. However, through journaling I somehow separate and remove all the clutter from the important information, the things that make sense, make me proceed. Usually I start my day by writing my thoughts down in a notebook (yes I prefer it to be handwritten). 10-15 minutes of free writing, and the mind feels lighter – It’s like space has been created for new, more creative thoughts to enter. Highly recommend. And there are days when I do not want to write anything, during those days I instead choose to sit with myself and talk out loud, about everything and nothing. Mostly about nothing. Very refreshing for the mind as well!

Reading a chapter in a book

I usually read two to three books at a time. For me, reading equals meditation. I’ve also started to read books I normally wouldn’t read – I strongly believe in the importance of gaining new insight, and learning new things. And the more I read, the less time I find myself scrolling through social media. I prefer reading a chapter in the afternoon, or before going to bed. A book can take you places you’ve always been afraid to go… Looking forward to the day I can read a book in Italian.

Washing my face

I’ve never been particularly keen on washing my face each morning and each night. Still, it’s something I’ve always done, but without any greater enthusiasm. But ever since I got myself a rose quartz face roller I’ve actually even started to look forward to this insignificant morning and night time routine. By keeping the face roller in the fridge over night it stays cool, and I must say it feels rather heavenly for my tired and puffy morning face. It’s the little things 😉

As you may have noticed, these small daily habits don’t have to be any grand endeavours that will save the humanity from evil. However, in the face of their triviality they might prevent you from falling into a rut. Since you’re the one choosing which habits to incorporate, you will eventually notice that the more rejuvenating habits you choose the better you will feel. And the better you feel, the more positivity you will shine onto the people around you. A win-win!

In alignment

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”How your life feels is more important than how it looks.”

Being in alignment – body, mind and soul – how does that feel? When does one know, one is in alignment with life?

In this moment, here and now, would you say you’re in alignment?

”Let yourself feel the sun on your skin, the crisp wind through your hair, let your feet touch the grass. And your words, let them flow, gently, so kindly, within, as well as without. Let them be, who they are. Let go, create space, move forward. Here, be here. Just as you are. Smile, and breathe. Dance a little. Still, here you are.”

l.m.v

I believe being in alignment has a lot to do with if one’s words align with one’s actions. Oftentimes we say one thing, and then end up doing the opposite. Not fulfilling our potential. Listening to and believing in the voice ”You can’t do it”, rather than to the voice ”Of course you can, go for it!” A rather common human trait. Why? I don’t, however, have an answer to that. Are we too lazy? Too scared? Too concerned with what others might think of us if we actually started believing in ourselves? Who do you think you are.

The thing is, when you’re doing what you’re supposed to do, you won’t be afraid. Yes you might feel butterflies in your stomach, you might sense a nervousness floating back and forth. However, you won’t be afraid. Simply, knowing you’re doing what you came here to do. Peaceful, aligned. Fear doesn’t have the power to stop you from doing what you’re supposed to do – the will to be you is more determined. Bold and compassionate.

And that my dear, is when you know you’re on the right path. The path towards alignment.

How to release emotions in a healthy way

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”Feel the feeling, but don’t become the emotion.
Allow & release.”

Ever experienced a deep need or desire to scream out loud? However, considering your surroundings, you never do. From where does this impulse stem from?

Suppose this craving sneaks up during days when you feel frustrated, a bit anxious and stressed out.

Pent up emotions eventually need to be released.

It’s rather common to bottle up ones emotions; we might not want to face them, hence run away from them, seeking out instant pleasures from our external environment. Nevertheless, in due course they will catch up on us.

With this being said, in what ways can these emotions be released from our bodies? You see, you don’t want them to build a nest within you, keeping you depressed, anxious or sick.

But first things first – never ever apologize for feeling a certain way. Your feelings are valid – each and every one of them. Feelings come up for a reason, and choosing to hold on to the negative ones might make you sick.

Liberate yourself – there’s no greater feeling than the sense of freedom arising within, after pent up emotions have been released.

Healthy ways to release emotions

Create

Whether it’s through painting, writing, singing or dancing – choose an art form that speaks to your soul. Know that it’s okay to release stuck emotions slowly, to prevent them from overwhelming you. You might have been holding on to anger or resentment for several years, and therefore it could become overbearing to release everything at once; thus take it at your own pace. Releasing emotions shouldn’t be something that is impossible for you to do. Take it step by step, and let your favourite art form guide you on your way.

Yin yoga

Repressed and suppressed emotions have a tendency to be stored in our bodies, making our joints and muscles tense and sore, especially in the hip area. Yin yoga is a perfect way to release these pent up emotions from your body. It’s like meditation for the entire soul. In yin yoga you hold each pose for a longer period of time; anything from 2 minutes up to several minutes depending on your level.

Sitting in a somewhat uncomfortable pose that you’re not normally used to might make you feel frustrated, angry or sad. Know that it’s totally normal, and your body’s way of releasing that which no longer serves you. Surrender to the practise, and notice how, little by little, your body lets go.

Talk it out

What better way to release emotions by talking to your best friend, your mentor, your therapist or even your dog. Speaking up, and being honest with how you feel is oh so important for your mental wellbeing. However, don’t use it as an opportunity to simply nag and find faults in everything and yourself. Instead, try to come up with new solutions and answers to your problems. Keep an open-mind, and remember that you might not always find the perfect resolution – accept it and let it go.

Write a letter

Are there things unsaid? Things you wish you would have expresssed. With an honest heart write clearly about what’s bothering you. While turning your feelings into words you make them more concrete, and more manageable. Getting those feelings, thoughts and whispers out-there is a perfect way to release them from in-there. Let. Them. Go.

Exercise

Do you feel that your head is filled up with thoughts, ideas, questions and worries? Or maybe you feel stuck, and don’t know how to proceed? Go for a run. Take a swim, a hike in the mountains or a sweaty boxing session. Whatever you’re deliberating or reflecting upon will eventually become clearer the moment you loose your tight grip around it.

While exercising you release dopamine, serotonin and enorphins. These chemicals will make you feel calmer as they help relieve pain and stress, and therefore trigger a positive feeling in the body.

Having said that, what are your favourite ways to release suppressed or repressed emotions?

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The sacred intuitive mind

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”Creativity thrives in stillness, arises from the no-thingness.”

When you allow yourself to simply sit, with yourself, and let the thoughts wander freely – no holding on, no grasping, simply observing; insights, and new solutions to your challenges might arise.

One of our biggest dilemmas, I believe, is that we think about life more than we are actually living life. And isn’t it precisely because of that, that we need to remember to appreciate the moments in between. Life is to be found in the smallest of details; the morning sun gently caressing the ground, the taste of ocean air, your lovers facial expression when she’s talking about something important to her, a strangers helping hand, the sound of your sleeping child.

Lately, I’ve given myself the time to sit down and write. Writing has often been the thing that has provided me with the most comfort; to acknowledge the calmness, and just let whatever that wants to arise, arise. You see, the words, more often than not, surface out of the stillness. They don’t come when we’re busy chasing after goals and habitually moving through life. The answers you’re seeking come when you allow yourself to slow down. When you create space, and are open to receiving.

Why, then, is it, time and again, so difficult to sit with one’s thoughts? You don’t want to experience the quiet moments in between, simply cause you’re always running towards the next moment. And the next. Something greater, more grandeur might be awaiting around the corner. Or so you were taught to believe. What can this still moment actually provide me with, when I haven’t yet achieved all my desires. I need to move forward. I need to be doing something. I need to accomplish, I need to prove that I’m worthy of my existence. If I’m not doing something, I’m not existing.

But, what if, you’re actually evolving simply by being. By simply accepting and surrendering to the moment. Don’t resist the moment, whatever it contains. Sit with it, observe it, be aware of it – don’t label it. Be with it. Learn to see without the eyes, learn to know without the mind. Learn to be without becoming. Let go of what you know, and let yourself be open to the fresh, the new.

”Notice the things that are blocking peace from coming into your life.”

Give yourself time, daily, to sit with yourself. In absolute stillness. Within that quiet space you allow the sacred intuitive mind an opportunity to come forth.

❤

Dear November…

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… let’s get lost, shall we?

”Get lost, on the path less traveled, and return, a little bit more well-lived.”

Embrace the thought – Never fully completed – and your existence might become a little less intimidating. More light-hearted, less heavy. You do not have to have all the answers. All the lovers. All the glimmery, shiny things. As long as you have an intense yearning to listen, understand, and respond accordingly. As long as you carry within a deep desire to experience all that’s making you grow, bold and flow. Compassionate.

Get lost, on the path less traveled, and return,
a little bit more well-lived.
With bruises and scars, but a heart so filled.

Smell the roses, taste your tears,
unlock your laugh. Whenever your voice can’t carry you
– in an honest manner – speak, however soft, and weak.

It’s a spinning wheel, or a tranquil deal. Your choice.
Off-track, on-track, in-between, love and laughter,
fear and disaster. It is you life, be that as it may,
always say thank you, for this new day.
You do not know what it has in store for you,
this particular today.

November dear, I welcome you. You’re one of a kind,
and so perfectly designed. I sense something wonderful
is about to unwind.

Ways to be more mindful

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”Be aware; make a move, take a stand, take a chance. Embrace and work with what is.”

Every moment, peacefully passing by. What happens now, in this moment, guides us into the next. Pay attention to your surroundings, as well as your inner state, as it nourishes greater awareness, clarity and acceptance of what is. Don’t miss out on life, don’t miss out on what is of greatest value. Growth and transformation happen the moment you realize the richness and the depth of your potentialities. As every moment peacefully evolves, so are you. 

How to become more mindful? How to become more acceptant of what is? There are several methods helping us to cultivate a more intimate relationship with the present moment, ways for us to achieve serenity. Peace of mind. Below you’ll find some of my favourites.

Tranquility speaks

”Listen to the whispers of your soul.”

4.30 am. I forgot how peaceful it is to wake up at dawn. Complete darkness surrounding me, however, the light within keeping me safe. The early hours present a tremendous opportunity for self-reflection. Looking within, and realising that everything is exactly as it should be. Morning stretch to wake up the body, meditation to wake up the mind. Within the stillness lies the answer. The answers to all of our questions. It’s our task to listen. To be still, to be alert. To trust.

Become one with nature

”Watch her let go, watch her become.”

Let nature be your biggest teacher. How she unfolds; growing, letting go and becoming. Effortlessly, and calmly providing us with all her treasures. She’s delicate, yet powerful, the way she’s giving all of her. Supporting us with her beauty. Her kindness. Celebrate her. Treat her with respect. Treat all of it with respect. We are all one.

Choose your happy

”Do you, and flow with it.” 

The more I listen within, the less I compare myself with others. And the less I observe what others are doing, the happier I become. However, it’s extremely easy to get caught up in comparison mode. To start judging oneself for not being enough, not doing enough. It’s not about the doing, it’s about the being. It’s about surrendering to the moment and making the best out of it. The only way for us to get out of this negative mindset of comparison is to start accepting ourselves the way we are. Knowing that we are exactly who we need to be right now. Letting go of outside pressure, the need to compete with others; we are only competing with ourselves. Your only comparison should be who you were yesterday. In this moment you have the power to choose. Choose happiness. Choose love. Choose yourself, and flow with it.

Self-awareness

”It’s not the situation that makes us unhappy; it’s our thoughts about the situation that makes us unhappy.”

The more aware we are of our thoughts and how they affect us, the more we realize just how powerful they are. Thoughts can completely turn a day around. They can turn a life around. Redirecting your thoughts, choosing more positive ones, when facing a negative situation can help you see the situation in new daylight. The understanding that no one can change your thoughts but you, should be enough for you to jump over to the drivers seat. You control your mind – don’t let it control you. However, you should never neglect your feelings, your emotions. Don’t ever suppress the negativity, don’t let it built a nest within you – let it out, let it pass through you. Know that you are simply experiencing these emotions. They shall pass, as they too are temporarily.

”Out of stillness grows mastery. There’s no place like within.”

l.m.v

The cure for loneliness

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”By helping each other we’re helping ourselves.”

It seems like humans are feeling more lonely and isolated than ever before. And whereas there are varying root causes to this I wish to adress one possible explanation.

Self-empowerment, self-help, self-actualization, self-care,

self, self, self

Self-absorbtion.

While I believe the self-help industry has many positive side effects, I also believe that the moment we become too self-absorbed the negative effects outweigh the positive ones. In other words, if you’re overly concerned with yourself, your own feelings and thoughts you might easily turn into a self-absorbed human being.

Don’t get me wrong, I still believe in self-empowerment, self-actualization and self-growth. I believe in self-love. Compassion towards others begins with compassion towards the self. It’s nothing wrong in wanting to improve and evolve as a human being, in fact, it’s a necessity for us in order to evolve as a spieces.

You’re not special.

I think it was the Dalai lama who said that whenever he is having a talk in front of thousands of people he always reminds himself that he’s just like everyone else. He doesn’t think of himself as someone special. To believe that he would be any different would only exclude him from the others, hence, make him feel lonely and secluded.

You’re not special, however, that doesn’t mean that you’re not essential. You’re needed, just like everyone else. We were all born the same way, and we will eventually die one day.

It’s by helping others that we’re really helping ourselves. To be the best we can be, not only for our own selfish benefits, but for the highest good of all. Not neglecting ourselves, but using our skillsets creating and living for the highest good of humanity. In other words, how can you use your competences and experiences in order to serve another human being?

Personally, I’ve noticed that whenever I find myself in a difficult and challenging situation it usually helps to look at it from a bird’s eye view. A great way to do this is to take a step back and help another person in need, in order to get some perspectives on your own situation.

Usually these difficult situations aren’t unique in any way, in fact, they are experienced by a great deal of humans. Nevertheless, this doesn’t mean that you’re not allowed to feel sad about your situation. Of course you are; your feelings are valid. However, I believe that having a wider perspective at life will in fact make us feel less lonely. Life comes with pain and suffering, love and laughter. But to be fully absorbed by our own problems and difficulties day in and day out will eventually only create more suffering.

With this being said, I don’t propose that we should stop working on ourselves. We should in deed better ourselves, and be curious enough to explore all aspects of ourselves, nonetheless, not purely for our own egoistical needs, but for the sake of all living beings.

What do you think?

A note to the highly sensitive human

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“To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness…”

“Highly sensitive people are too often perceived as weaklings or damaged goods. To feel intensely is not a symptom of weakness, it is the trademark of the truly alive and compassionate. It is not the empath who is broken, it is society that has become dysfunctional and emotionally disabled. There is no shame in expressing your authentic feelings. Those who are at times described as being a ‘hot mess’ or having ‘too many issues’ are the very fabric of what keeps the dream alive for a more caring, humane world. Never be ashamed to let your tears shine a light in this world.”

― Anthon St. Maarten, Divine Living: The Essential Guide To Your True Destiny

…. the highly sensitive human often finds it more relaxing to be surrounded by nature, the magic of a full moon, or the ever comforting presence of an animal, than by being surrounded by a group of humans. by all means, the highly sensitive human loves humans. she regards them as highly fascinating creatures, although they rarely recognize it themselves. some days the highly sensitive human prefers one-on-one settings, other days she dreams of standing on a stage. some days the highly sensitive human prefers to read a book, other days she wish to speak up. but, whatever the situation, she needs time alone, to recharge, to create space. she doesn’t do well in crowded, loud environments; she needs peace in order to function. being a highly sensitive human can sometimes be hard in such an extroverted, chaotic world.

however, being a highly sensitive human is not the same as being shy, fragile. to be a highly sensitive human is to have an immense, gigantic inner world. it is to cry at a beautiful flower, simply because the flower is beautiful. it is to look at one’s lover and see all their flaws, imperfections cracked open, and love them even more. it is to experience a thousands of worlds in one kiss. it is to feel the poets anguish while reading the poem. it is to love the moments in-between, simply cause within them lies all the answers. it is to be highly intuitive. highly aware. soft, gentle. passionate. vivid. so, dear highly sensitive human, this sensitivity of yours it is not a weakness. it is one of the greatest powers of all. embrace it.

– l.m.v

“By some strange, unknown, inward urgency they are not really alive unless they are creating.”

“The truly creative mind in any field is no more than this: A human creature born abnormally, inhumanly sensitive. To them… a touch is a blow, a sound is a noise, a misfortune is a tragedy, a joy is an ecstasy, a friend is a lover, a lover is a god, and failure is death. Add to this cruelly delicate organism the overpowering necessity to create, create, create — so that without the creating of music or poetry or books or buildings or something of meaning, their very breath is cut off… They must create, must pour out creation. By some strange, unknown, inward urgency they are not really alive unless they are creating.”

― Pearl Buck, The Good Earth

The law of life

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”You are a limitless being.”

What you send out into the universe – through your thoughts, feelings, words, actions – you attract into your life. Cultivating an abundant and positive mindset, visualization and intention-setting, are great ways in order to start creating the life you want. It’s about shifting your focus, shifting your perspectives. It’s about being able to turn a negative day into a great day, simply because you choose to. Simply because you can.

Nevertheless, it’s not enough to simply think, write or speak about the things you want in life, however, it’s a vital start. You have to believe, in order to receive. If you don’t believe in yourself and all that you’re capable of, nothing much will grow out of it. What is more, you’ll have to begin to take inspired action. It’s not enough to simply sit on the coach, listening to inspirational podcasts or visualizing dreams and goals coming through – we actually need to take that tiny frightening first step as well, not knowing where it will take us.

”Bring your thoughts to a higher level.”

In order for the magic to start flowing into your life you’ll have to take action. It may be scary at first, I know – fear is for sure a sneaky bastard, always visiting without any invitation what so ever. How rude. Often when you find yourself confused, not knowing what direction to take, it’s usually fear that gets in the way.

See it for what it is – fear. A feeling of anxiety, a feeling of being judged by others, a feeling of not being good enough.

Breathe it in, feel it. Don’t run away from it. Confront it. Stand tall and get ready to fight. Fight for your truth. Fight for you. Don’t let fear stop you from chasing your dreams. You know better than that. You’re stronger than that. You’re stronger than fear.

”Your thoughts are powerful.”

Everything has energy; our thoughts have energy, our perspectives have energy, how we interact with the world around us creates energy. You can change your perspectives right in this split second based on your thoughts.

This won’t, however, happen over night (or in some cases it actually might). You’re allowed to have bad days; days when you feel like crap and all you want to do is to feel sorry for yourself. Accept these feelings, but know that you are not your feelings, you simply experience these feelings. Nonetheless, as soon as it gets too intense – the second you feel that you’re not the one in charge – know that you’ve the power to change things around. It’s time to take your power back. You choose if you want a negative situation to impact your entire day, your entire life even. It’s completely up to you.

There are times when life messes with us in ways we never thought were possible; life can put whatever obstacle right in front of you, nevertheless, it’s how you decide to look at this obstacle that will determine your willpower and success. Life won’t give you anything you aren’t ready for.

With this being said, below you’ll find a few mindsets to embrace, that hopefully will make it a bit easier for you to start flowing with life, instead of fighting against life.

Use positive affirmations to replace negative limiting beliefs.

Whenever you find yourself talking down on yourself – as soon as you become aware – replace the negative thoughts to positive affirmations. I AM is a powerful way to start a sentence. I am whatever I set my mind to.

Make feeling good a priority.

Do things that make you feel content, and at ease with yourself and your life. Take time everyday to listen within, listen to your soul. What does it want? Prioritize your health and your well-being. Make yourself a priority. In order to show affection and compassion to others you’ll have to start showing it to yourself.

Love yourself and know that you are worthy of what you want.

This is easier said than done, but really, try your best to not compare yourself to others. You’re not them, and they are not you. No one is either more or less than you, and you’re not more or less than anyone else. And isn’t that what makes this life so compelling? That we’re a bunch of humans, although somehow so alike, we have our different traits, up-bringing and weird quirks. We have our different struggles, things to heal and to let go of. If we only knew how much there’s to learn from one another, so much wisdom and clarity to gain from each other. Every human you’ve met thus far, know that you’ve met them for a reason. Although you’ve let people hurt you in the past, know that it was something you had to go through, in order to find yourself, in order to find your inner strength.

Be still & awaken your intuition.

You’ll have to quiet the mind, in order to hear beyond the mental chatter. Within the silence you’ll find the truth – it’s where you’ll find the presence and the essence of life. To be able to find stillness within a busy world, is to be able to find the meaning of life. The meaning of who you are. Trust your own inner voice, your own knowing. Don’t seek out for other people’s opinion all the time. Think for yourself – what do you want? What do you need? However, at times it might be a very good idea to ask for advice, but don’t make a habit out of it. Rather, learn how to be still, and you might find that the answer is already resting within you – you may don’t want to accept it, or think you’re able to deal with the truth – but trust me; you are more than capable.

Don’t judge the moment.

This is the door to all that is. Celebrate the moment, and awaken to the flashes unfolding.

The present – the only moment there is for us to be alive. Humans are very good at preparing to live, but not very good a living. Habitually dwelling in the past and dreaming of the future, while having difficulties concentrating the mind on the present moment. Wherever you are – know that you are home. Wherever you find yourself; whether you’re stuck in a rut, anxious, or simply lost in the fast spinning outside world – whatever the present moment contains – accept, then act. Always work with life, not against life. Don’t feel like life is controlling you, you are controlling life. And yes, life will hit you (it might even hit you hard), but know that you’ll never grow with the perfect life.

The moment you begin to evaluate and criticize the situation you’re in, the thoughts flowing within your mind, or even the way you’re breathing, the judging perfectionist has arrived. The judging perfectionist that believes that a present moment experience is supposed to be a blissed-out Zen experience filled with peace and light. And let’s face it, it’s very seldom like that.

Isn’t it our job to find peace amidst of it all?

”Sometimes, the universe does not allow us to move forward, until we have honored where we are right know.”

But how is it even possible to stay patient and calm in a world that’s constantly changing? To stay satisfied with what is, when the mind is obsessed with living in the past or worrying about the future? It’s like it does anything just to escape the now.

”I don’t want to be here, I need to get to there.” ”When I find the perfect partner, that perfect job, earn loads of money and become successful, then I’ll be happy.” ”I’m not satisfied with where I am, I need to have more, be more; then my life will be fulfilled.”

The ego will never be fulfilled; no matter how much recognition, admiration, power or success it receives the ego will always crave more.

The ego doesn’t thrive by being in the present. However, the present moment is all there ever is and ever will be; when something happens, it always happens now. Nothing ever happens in the future, it happens in the moment.

It’s nothing wrong with wanting to achieve goals, or visualizing a life filled with abundance, prosperity, love and happiness. Most likely these wonderful, external things will bring a great deal of joy and happiness into your life, but for the most part it’s a short-lived kind of happiness. After a while the ego eventually gets bored, unsatisfied, and starts craving more of that external success.

In other words, achieving external success isn’t the root to your happiness. Constantly pleasing others, and thereby forgetting about your own wants and needs, isn’t a life well lived. Defining your worth according to how others treat you, isn’t going to make you feel more desirable. People may adore you, or they may dislike you, either way it shouldn’t affect you, since, in the end what you think about yourself is the only thing that matter. Of course it will hurt if you get abandoned, rejected or replaced. Despite the amount of pain you’re feeling, know that none of these circumstances will make you less worthy. Whether you didn’t get that promotion or you were replaced by another lover, you should never let it affect your inner happiness. That is giving your power away to other people or circumstances – letting it dictate your state of being.

It’s easy, and very human, to fall into negative self-talk whenever something bad happens in life. Self-pity parties might feel okay at first, but in the end, feeling sorry for yourself won’t make you feel any better. Adopting a more positive way of thinking is a first step towards a more solid kind of happiness;

”When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

– Wayne Dyer

Maybe you didn’t get that promotion simply because there’s a much better option waiting for you? Why not trust the unfolding of your life? Why not accept and embrace this moment?

But how does one discover an inner, true form of happiness?

By being present.

And by not judging everything as good or bad all the time. Let things be, just as they are. Accept them, just as they are.

What is more, the present moment experience is the most healing state there is. Old emotions stored deep down in the body; whether it’s grief, anger, sadness or pain, need to be released out of our systems. Unprocessed emotions can show up in different forms, such as a disease, judgement towards people we don’t know, or as an addiction. They might even hold us back from evolving, hence keeping us stuck.

You can choose to work with The Law of Life in many different ways, however, I believe it’s important that you find the way best suitable for you. Really take the time to figure out what you want out of life; put time aside to reflect on how you want to feel, rather than focusing on what you want.

Stay optimistic, yet realistic; there’s a fine balance between living above the clouds and staying grounded on earth. Both is needed –  of course you can tell yourself I’m a limitless human being, but let’s face it, you’ll have to become conscious of what is possible for you. Self-awareness is everything – learn about yourself; what are your specific strengths and weaknesses, and go from there. Be passionate about evolving, and about constantly learning about all things new. Those that are curious, as well as adaptable to change, usually seem to flow through life with a little more effortless ease.

With love,

Linda

Write your future

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You are the creator of your reality.”

Scripting, or journaling, is a powerful tool to create the life you want. It’s a way of visualizing your future and how you wish it to unfold; in other words you get to design your entire life. How do you wish to live?

”We chase likes instead of dreams. We surf the web instead of the world. We build profiles instead of connections. We let computers fill our hearts, and then we wonder why we feel so empty.”

– Mark Groves

Whether you choose to use scripting every day, once a week, once a month or once a year, remember it can be a powerful tool to create your desired outcome.

  • Write everything in detail, the way your desired life are. Write everything as it already happened, in the present tense, the way that you desire it.
  • The key ingredient when writing your script is emotion. How do you want to feel? How does your future life make you feel?
  • Implementing gratitude is an important part when scripting. In between sentences write down how thankful you are for the life you have.
  • Last but not least – make it fun. Scripting is supposed to be light-hearted. Your focus should be on having fun while doing it so you don’t have doubts about whether it will happen or not. Creating your life should be excitement & passion combined with an effortless flow, making insecurities and fears disappear.

”The most effective way to do it, is to do it.”

– Amelia Earhart

1. Imagination

Don’t be afraid to dream big. Use your imagination freely. Allow Walt Disney’s famous quote to sink in –”If you can dream it, you can do it. As children we dream so effortlessly, without judging ourselves or thinking we can’t do it. For a child anything is possible; the world is grand and filled with opportunities. Anything is possible for the one who is stupid enough to believe so. Let yourself become childlike. Not naive, but, an imaginative, excited child.

2. Focus & Attention

Wherever you choose to put your focus will eventually grow and become part of your world. Visualize what you want. Stay focused on your desires. Don’t let other people’s negativity and lack of self-worth drag you down. It’s easy to be affected by another person’s bad mood or negative outlook on life; however, do bear in mind – a big fat smile can turn another person’s bad day around 😉

3. Feel it

You have power over your feelings. If you don’t feel good; begin with accepting the state you are in, because then and only the can you begin to change it. Change your focus and you will change your world. Becoming aware of how your negative thoughts affect you is the first step. Don’t be too hard on yourself. There will be days when you can’t bother putting a smile on that beautiful face of yours. But then, all of a sudden, you read a part in your favourite book, you go for a walk, or have an uplifting conversation with a good friend – and just like that your mood has changed from negative to positive. It’s usually the little things in life that will cheer you up. However, you decide.

4. Movement & Action

Action is the making of imagination. Start saying yes to things, although they might scare you. Start making decisions that will take you one step closer to your goals. Every baby step counts. Dreaming alone will take you nowhere, you have to take action in order to move forward.

”Grow from the past. Prepare for the future. The present is here; live it.”