”Life isn’t about finding yourself, it’s about creating yourself.”

Before stepping into your elevated self you need to take a moment to cherish and forgive the past version of yourself; the version that does not serve you any longer, the version that you have outgrown.

Maybe there are things in the past that you are not proud of; decisions you wish you had not made and plans not working out the way you hoped for. However, without these experiences you would not be where you are today. Everything you have gone through has taken you to this very moment. So, please forgive yourself for being too hard on yourself, for always judging your actions and whereabouts. You are exactly who you are meant to be right now. All is well in your life.

And now when we have cleared that out… It is time to step into your elevated self.

1. First things first, become clear about the limiting beliefs and blocks that are holding you back from achieving your potential and stepping into your most authentic self. Whether it is ” I am not good enough.” ”I am not lovable.” ”I am a bad person.” – You need to find out what the biggest block is, that is keeping you from moving forward in life. Be honest with yourself. Journal about your emotions and triggers and try to find the root cause; where do these beliefs stem from? Sometimes a limiting belief is something that we picked up along the way, while observing our environment and the people around us, meaning it does not even belong to us in the first place.

2. When you have befriended and fully accepted your limiting beliefs you can start to challenge them; are these beliefs even true? By replacing the beliefs with positive beliefs you will slowly but surely notice that the things that used to trigger you won’t have that kind of power over you any longer.

”I am good enough, and I am worthy of being seen and heard.” ”I am open to receiving love.” ”My needs matter.”

Overcoming and breaking a limiting belief won’t happen overnight; it requires time and dedicated practise to release something you have been holding onto for maybe several years. Show yourself some grace and compassion while doing the work. Below you will find a few steps that will make the process a bit easier and manageable.

Set aside time for the things you love. What did you enjoy as a child? Was it running on the beach chasing butterflies? Painting with water colors? Reading all the books you got your hands on? Singing with your best friend? Dancing with your siblings? Writing short stories? Allow your inner-child to come forth, and listen to what he/she has to say.

Spend time alone. Embrace the solitude, and the expansiveness that comes with being in your own presence. Don’t escape the silence by listening to music, reading, or scrolling on your phone, instead learn to be present with yourself, and become curious about getting to know yourself on a deeper level.

Express yourself to a fellow human. While it is important to spend time alone, it is equally important to share one’s thoughts with a trusted friend or a licensed psychologist. When sharing your thoughts and emotions with another person, you might become aware of just how dysfunctional they are. Being vulnerable by expressing thoughts and emotions may help you feel more clear-headed, light-hearted and detoxified.

Find a spiritual practise that aligns with you. Whether it is meditation, being in nature, eft tapping, praying, the outcome is the same – it will teach you how to learn to listen to your body and your intuition. Becoming more in tune with yourself, meaning not running away from yourself, but inhabiting the feeling of ”I am home.”

The final step is to start showing up as your elevated self. Start acting as your elevated self by visualising your life through the eyes of him/her. Ask yourself daily – ”What would my elevated self do in this situation?” Make decisions as him/her until you become that version of yourself. You change by doing the work, by taking daily action, by staying true to yourself. This change won’t happen overnight, it happens gradually. Yet, what I have noticed is that this change seems to happen all of a sudden, since the realisation suddenly appears – I am already her.