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Ten traits of successful humans

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”We rise by lifting others.”

When nothing is certain, anything is possible. My personal opinion when it comes to success is that I believe successful people are those who are living their passion, following their dreams and pursuing their goals in life – even though, at times, the path might be uncertain. Even though the path is dark, their inner light will always guide them. 

It’s rather common to talk about what we want in life; we write about it, and we dream about it. We might even visualize how we achieve our dreams and our goals. But for many of us, it all stops there.

What traits do successful humans have, that the persons who is stuck in their dreams, and keep on being stuck in their dreams, do not have? Below you’ll find ten traits that I strongly believe will have a great impact whether one becomes successful or not.

Nevertheless, success looks different for everyone. Therefore it’s of utmost importance that you define what success means to you. Focus on what you’re looking for. We usually compare ourselves to others when we don’t know what we stand for. Always make choices that are important to you. A great idea is to divide success in different categories, such as mental, spiritual, emotional, financial and physical. Write down how you define success within each of these categories, and you will become much clearer of where you stand. Remember, you’re the creator of your life. Make it beautiful.

Ten traits of successful humans

  1. They take action. They know that in order to achieve and become successful they have to work hard. It’s not enough that you talk about how you wish your life to look like, or how often you dream about that company you would like to build, or all that money you would like to have. ‘Oh if only I had more time.’ ‘I will do it next year when I am ready.’ You. Need. To. Take. Action. And you need to do it now – not tomorrow, not next week, not next year. Now. You have to start somewhere, start small. Just start, because frankly speaking there is no excuse for not trying. You have to prepare yourself. You don’t have to be 100 % ready, since lets face it; this feeling of ”being ready” won’t come knocking on your door with flowers and chocolate in he middle of the night. No, you make time for the things you want. You create opportunities. And you take action. A year from now you will be happy that you started today.
  1. They have confidence. This is a tricky one, because if you don’t have confidence it will most likely be very difficult to create confidence out of the blue. It takes practice, and a strong belief in oneself and what one is capable of. You have to learn about yourself, you have to fall deeply and madly in love with yourself. You have to know that you are worthy of having the things you wish for in life. The more we learn about ourselves, and accept ourselves for who we truly are, our confidence will grow stronger. Core confidence is knowing that although you get fired from your job, or rejected for your work, you know deep down inside, that despite these things you’re worthy of being here, for taking up space and having your voice heard. Everyone makes mistakes; it’s part of human life. You’ll learn from your mistakes, you’ll grow, and eventually you’ll find yourself in the progress.
  1. They have faith. They believe in the things they cannot yet see – simply because they know; they have a strong feeling that things will finally fall into place. They know that the combination of consistent effort and the ability to believe, is the strongest force. While they have a clear vision of the end-goal, they also know that in order to reach that beautiful destination they have to enjoy the journey, the actual process, as well.
  1. They have desire. Successful people have passion; they love what they are doing. Honestly, it’s rather obvious, because if you don’t love what you are doing you will sooner or later give up. Because it will be hard, it will be challenging, and all people will not agree with what you are doing. BUT, you continue because deep down inside you know that this is the right path for you. You don’t give up when things get uncomfortable; you roll up your sleeves and get to work.
  1. They give. They have developed a mindset where they focus on how they can contribute to the world, and to the people around them. They don’t solely think about making money, and how they can improve themselves, but instead how they can improve the lives of others. In order to receive you have to give. You have to share your talents with the rest of the world. How can they benefit from what you are doing? We are in this together, how can we help and serve each other in the most successful way?
  1. They focus on themselves. Don’t compare yourself to others. Focus on your unique talents, your unique traits. What are you good at? Focus on your assets. It’s the strengths you need to polish, and you have to make them even stronger. We all have weaknesses, and it’s important that we become aware of them, but we should not focus on the things we cannot do. Instead focus on the things that make you great – and make them even greater.
  1. They have a willingness to learn. Be open minded, and learn new things – it will help you to become more creative. You can never have too much wisdom. Take every moment to improve yourself – if you stumble upon something that makes you uncomfortable, something that is new to you, then use that opportunity to gather new information and new knowledge.
  1. They ask for help & they are grateful. Successful people know that they are not great at everything. They gather knowledge and advise from others. They learn from others. They build an encouraging team around themselves, because they know that together we become stronger. Furthermore, they practice gratitude, every damn day. They are grateful for every achievements in life, because they know that they would not be the person they are today if it were not for all the things they experienced thus far.
  1. They make time for things that make them feel relaxed. They know the importance of taking time-out and recharging their batteries. They do things that give them energy to proceed, and succeed. Whether it is practicing meditation, travelling, spending time in nature or cooking a meal with their family; they do it because it makes them rejuvenated.
  1. They do not dwell in the past. We learn from both our previous failures and victories, but they happened in the past. They have occurred, we reflect, and we move on. Successful people know that the now is the only thing they have, and from there they move forward. Our future is created in the now.

Dear December…

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… you set my soul on fire.

”With the moon and with the stars, how can we say we don’t have enough?”

The silent hour of night, and my heart suddenly arise. Caressing my awaken sight, while awaiting life, with blissful eyes. Watching snowflakes quietly at rest, the moon, shining its light upon us. 50 shades of snow, wherever we choose to go. Darling December, the way you transform the darkness at 4 am. The world still, sky black, mind intense. Emotions wide awake, heart half asleep, in a blissful lullaby sleep.

I hope your dreams are sweet. 

December is for love and laughter. Peace and joy. The bright-pink sky with heart-shaped clouds, peacefully passing by. It’s for warm-hearted gestures, compassion and loving-kindness. Snowflakes dancing outside our window, making every moment irresistible. Gifts wrapped up in affection, kindness and hope. It’s December, you can wish for anything.

What will you wish for?

This December is all about giving more of yourself. Give your time, your attention. Your love and laughter. It’s about awareness, tenderness. Blissfulness. Music filled with heartbeats and pure passion. It’s about our beautiful planet, and the precious time we get to spend amongst her. Be gentle, be kind, don’t ever leave her behind.

December dear, I welcome you. One of a kind, and so perfectly designed. I sense something wonderful is about to unwind.

The present moment experience

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”Honour the season your’re in.”

The leaves dancing in the breath of wind, as the blue bird performing season’s final hymn. Until next year, dear humming creature, next year. The warm breeze caressing fragile skins. Breathing it all in, autumn laughing in the warm-hearted wind – I’ll carry your lyrics, wherever I go. Sing to me, little fella, sing to me. 

This is the door to all that is. Celebrate the moment, and awaken to the magic unfolding. 

The present moment; the only moment there is for us to be alive. Humans are very good at preparing to live, but not very good a living. Habitually dwelling in the past and dreaming of the future, while having difficulties concentrating the mind on the present moment. Wherever you are, you are home. Wherever you find yourself; whether you’re stuck in a rut, anxious, or simply lost in the fast spinning outside world – whatever the present moment contains – accept, then act. Always work with life, not against life.

One way of controlling life is by becoming more present. A sense of peace will unfold the moment you start living in the now; become fully present, and thankful that a new day has arisen. Let go of the outcome, and learn to be content with the moment you’re in.

”There’s nothing wrong in looking forward to the future, but remember to cherish today’s breath.”

Present moment experience

In the book Sacred Powers by Davidji, he explains the six stages of a present moment experience.

According to Davidji every present moment experience contains a six-stage evolution: settling, witnessing, drifting, judging, surrendering, and stillness. When we’re ready to fully accept and understand that this is exactly what the experience is supposed to be we’ve found the key to cultivating a regular and consistent practice of presence in our life. It’s not about perfection; it’s about surrendering to what is, accepting the present moment.

Settling – To begin any practice we’ve to begin to settle in. We find a comfortable space and eliminate as many distractions as possible by closing our eyes. Then we take a long, slow and deep breath in through our nose, and then gently and naturally we breathe out. Creating a peaceful space within.

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Witnessing – We begin to watch our breath as it flows in and as it flows out. Simply observing it, and how it gives us life. Staying in the space of observing, witnessing and watching. Every time you witness, you strengthen your ability to stay in that state longer and more easily.

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Drifting – It’s natural that we start to drift toward thoughts, sounds and physical sensations after holding our attention for an extended period of time on anything. This means that you are alive; your brain is doing what it has been trained to do – processing thoughts.

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Judging – The moment you begin to evaluate and criticize the thoughts flowing into you, or the way you’re breathing the judging perfectionist has arrived. The judging perfectionist that believes that a present moment experience is supposed to be a blissed-out Zen experience filled with peace and light.

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Surrendering – Humans have about 70.000 thoughts a day. When you notice the inner critic judging you for having thoughts, remind yourself to just relax. There’s no right or wrong thoughts; accept them for what they are – thoughts – let go, settle down and go back to witnessing. Once you’ve accepted that drifting and judging are natural aspects of the process, then and only then, you can fully surrender.

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Stillness – As you get more relaxed gently drifting back and forth, you’ll start to spend a little more time witnessing and a little less time judging your thoughts. The more comfortable you become with being the observer the easier it will be to bring presence into your every-day-life. Suddenly you’ll find yourself being fully present when talking to a loved one or the stranger at the cashier, without you really having to do anything else differently in your life.

(Sacred Powers – The Five Secrets to Awakening Transformation. By Davidji, 2017.) 

The utmost freedom

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”Maybe when humans stop running away from themselves, the world will become a kinder, more peaceful place.”

At times freedom has little to do with the outside world, and circumstances. Man becomes free the moment he becomes free of thought. When he does not longer obsess over the constant chatter in his mind, but instead turns towards the heart.

Freedom from compulsive thinking, desire, addiction, outside validation, constant approval.

How does one become free of all that?

One needs to stop. One needs to allow himself to slow down, to listen. When one is constantly bombarding himself with stimuli from outside sources it becomes nearly impossible to hear, or see anything.

How is one able to listen to the whispers of the soul if one is continually caught up in the outside circus? How is it possible to become aware of the song of the heart when the sirens of the external environment is set on full volume?

One does not typically feel comfortable sitting alone with one’s thoughts. To realise just how dysfunctional they have become. How embarrassing to notice all the bitterness, jealousy, self-loathing, judgment caught up inside. To notice how the ego has a tight grip around one’s soul. Trying everything in its power to defend its weaknesses, to numb out its cries for love.

To have oneself rise above one’s thoughts is, however, the challenge. To know that one isn’t at the mercy of one’s thoughts, but actually the witness of the same. To be able to step outside them – observe them for what they are.

Merely thoughts.

This, however, can be very daunting.

One does not want to be the person, filled with all the negativity inside. One does just anything to shut it down. Yet, one does not get rid of the negativity by turning away from it, by numbing out the pain with drugs, alcohol, sex, pornography, shopping or whatever one wishes to turn to.

Rather, one turns towards it. One allows it in, accepts it. And in that moment of acceptance one notices that it actually has no power. But one indeed has the power to release it, to let it go.

We cannot expect the outside world to change if we are not willing to change ourselves. We cannot expect anyone to treat us right if we cannot treat ourselves, or others right. We cannot expect everyone else to do the work if we just sit there and do nothing.

Face you life, darling. Accept your demons, your dysfunctional thoughts and behaviours. Begin to ask yourself why. Why do I allow this into my life? Start taking responsibility for your life, and for your own wellbeing. No one will come and save you. However, this of course doesn’t mean that you can’t ask for help. Allow help to enter, when you need it, and don’t be afraid to ask for help. You’re not weak or broken; you’re human, you’re simply being human. It’s within vulnerability that true strength is found.

Life is not always sunshine and butterflies. It may take you a couple of years to make space, and to clear shit out. But what is a couple of years of painful (all-important) healing compared to a lifetime of misery.

Face your life, darling. Release all the things that do not serve you, and you will become to know utmost freedom.

How to make your days exciting

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”There’s no time to be bored in a world as beautiful as this.”

To seek out adventure doesn’t always equal travelling abroad to a far away country, jumping out of a plane or swimming with sharks. What if you could make every day a little bit more adventurous just by challenging your mindset, and changing up some of those mundane routines of yours?

Below you’ll find a few mindsets and habits that hopefully can assist you in making your every day life a bit more exciting and joyful.

Explore your neighbourhood.

Usually it’s the places we are the most exposed to, that we take for granted or fail to appreciate. Have you, in the past few days, taken the time to literally stop and look around? Next time you take a walk in your neighbourhood – leave your phone at home and gaze at the buildings, the surroundings, the people walking by. You might discover a new coffee shop, an antique shop you haven’t yet visited, or simply enjoy the beautiful architecture.

Take a course. Challenge yourself – Try something new.

Is there a craft or a subject you would like to learn or know more about? Exploring your hidden talents might take you places you’ve never been before. A short while ago I decided to try out an art form that I’ve never been particularly good at – drawing. And I must say – my drawings are quite bad. Anyways, it forces me to step out of my comfort zone and to exercise a part of the brain I haven’t visited in 20 years. One positive aspect with this practice is that it takes my mind off thinking and analyzing. It happens to be very relaxing, and helps me rewind and let go of the day.

Read.

To enjoy a great story is a little bit like travelling, taking on a different role or persona and exploring another person’s world. I’m one of those who easily get caught up in the storyline, and after one hour of reading I forget all about my own life (a recipe for a good book that can capture the reader in that way). Choose a book that excites you, or maybe scares you even a little bit (in a good way). Or why not read a biography of a historical profile which you admire?

Talk to a stranger.

Next time you find yourself in a coffee shop, on the bus or on the train, why not start chatting with the person next to you – if he/she doesn’t mind of course. Talking to a stranger is a perfect way to make the day more exciting or rewarding. Or why not simply smile more often when you encounter another human being on the street. It might turn someone’s day around. In fact, you never know how much a smile can change someone’s life.

With this being said, do you have some personal favourites when it comes to making your day more joyful? Please, share your thoughts in the comment section!

Create your reality

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”Ask yourself if what you do today is moving you closer to where you want to be tomorrow.”

Your future is created by being present in the moment. Your future is not created then, somewhere in the unforeseen tomorrow, it’s created now. It’s highly determined by your daily actions, thoughts and habits. By being present with yourself you allow yourself to expand and transform into the highest version of yourself. You accept that where you are right now is exactly where you need to be, right now.

It doesn’t have to take 3, 5 or 10 years for you to become the highest version of yourself. However, what it does take is for you to put in consistent effort. Dreams usually do not happen over night, but the decision to change can happen in a blink of an eye. Don’t postpone your future just because you’re being lazy or afraid in the moment. See the fear for what it is; fear of the unknown, fear of what’s to come, fear of not being good enough, to not have what it takes. Embrace the fear, cause it’s trying to tell you something. If you don’t know what it is that is holding you back from moving forward, it will become very difficult for you to detach from it. Hence, the importance of getting to know thyself.

Dig deep, and you will start realising that the answers are closer than you think. You don’t have to look far, you just have to look within.

How to transform your dream to reality

  • Consistent action; There’s a fine balance between taking action and having things flow to you. No action in the world will do, if you’re not open to receiving. Are you allowing good things to show up in your life? Are you making space for good to come to you? Do you believe you’re worthy of receiving? Start with the basics, start from the inside. Start with your why. Why do you want certain things? To make you look good, to prove yourself to others, or because you genuinely want them? Action that is aligned with your most authentic self have a tendency to bear fruit.
  • Take responsibility; There’s no escaping this, but you’re responsible for your own life. You’re responsible for what words you choose to use, what actions you choose to take, and what you put out into the world. On the other side, you’re not responsible for how others perceive you. You’re not responsible for what others think of you. You’re responsible for your words, not for the words that is used to describe you. Therefore, focus on what you can do, focus on what you wish and want to do. As long as you don’t harm yourself or others, you’re allowed to do what you came here to do. What is more, don’t wait for someone to give you permission to start. Do it for you, and keep on doing it for you. The moment you make the decision to start speaking your truth, the people that are meant to find you will find you.
  • Don’t be afraid of making mistakes – learn from them; Mistakes are not mistakes if we learn from them. Neglecting yourself and your passions, however, is a mighty mistake. I’ve learned that the biggest mistakes I have done in life is not to believe in myself. To not think that I have the right to have or do things. THAT is a mistake. But you trying new things and sometimes ”failing”, that will never be a mistake – instead it’s something that makes your resilience grow stronger, and you becoming braver.
  • Meditate; It’s when we start quieting our minds that our soul’s true calling has an opportunity to come forth. While meditating we allow ourselves to stop for a while, and we allow ourselves to listen to the things that are meant to come to us. Meditation, however, is not sitting with no thought; it’s sitting without judgement, letting the thoughts come and go. Giving that quiet voice a possibility to shine though.
  • Get to know thyself; If you don’t know what is holding you back, you will stumble upon tremendous difficulties with moving forward. Talk to a counsellor, a psychologist or a really good friend. Sometimes talking with someone, will help you see the challenge in a different light, and you’ll start seeing it from another perspective, which in turn might give you new ideas on how to proceed. Carve out time each day for journaling. Putting your thoughts on paper might help you realise those spiteful limiting beliefs of yours. Start questioning them – understand that they are not facts, they are simply beliefs. Beliefs that can be changed, by you.

How to focus on your own timeline

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”You don’t need someone else’s permission to live your own life.”

It’s rather common for us humans to seek other peoples’ approval before we feel we are ready to do something. We might be doubting ourselves, and our capabilities, and therefore seek to be validated by others. Instead of living our lives according to our own timelines, we focus on what other people are doing, and what they might think about us. Leaving us feeling that we’re somehow behind in life.

With that being said, if you feel that this is how you operate most of the time then it’s time that you start to use your energy to focus on yourself. Live your life according to your own timeline, and focus on what you can do today. This, however, does not mean that you shouldn’t allow yourself to be inspired by others; by all means, let people inspire you, surround yourself with like-minded, positive people who brings out the best in you. It’s by showing up as your most authentic self, that you will eventually find your tribe.

So, how to focus more on your own timeline?

For example, when learning a new skill; start by doing it for you, and not for anyone else. Don’t wait for permission from others in order for you to start – seek it from within. Give yourself permission.

If you want to do something, if there’s something you genuinely feel the need to share with the world; then go on and do it. If it’s important to you, then it’s vitally important that you proceed, with or without other peoples’ consent. And don’t think you’ll have to wait until you’re perfect at it, cause then you’ll probably have to wait forever. With time, consistency and effort you’ll cultivate the knowledge and expertise needed.

”You compete with no one but yourself.”

And secondly, if you want to grow within a specific field, or enhance a particular skill, you’ll have to stop comparing yourself to the ones that already master that skill, to someone that already has practised it for years. And this of course doesn’t mean that you can’t use them as a source of inspiration, but to compare their set of skills to your own could become detrimental to your own development. Remember, you compete with no one but yourself.

You see, you don’t have to have all the answers to all the questions in order to begin, you will learn along the way. You’re allowed to do life at your own speed, at a pace that is comfortable for your growth.

You won’t be able to excel in your field if you’re constantly directing your focus on other peoples’ talents and whereabouts, and comparing that to where you are yourself in life. Rather, your focus should be on you, in this moment. Where are your areas of improvements? And how do you proceed from there? Cultivate your own skill sets and learn about yourself daily. You are a work of art – Embrace the bits and pieces that make you unique. What do your have to offer? How can you best serve? What do you have that the rest of the world needs a slice of?

The world needs you, it doesn’t need you being a copy of someone else.

With this being said, maybe there’s this thing you wish to do; something you have been wanting to do for a long time, but you haven’t had the nerve to start. What if today, is the perfect day to begin?

Intentions for 2024

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”But, what if, you’re actually evolving simply by being. By simply accepting and surrendering to the moment. Don’t resist the moment, whatever it contains. Sit with it, observe it, be aware of it – don’t label it. Be with it. Let go of what you know, and let yourself be open to the fresh, the new.”

Dear 2023, thank you for all the beautiful moments, the stillness, challenges and experiences. Dear 2024, I’m curious – I sense you will be filled with bliss, growth and laughter. Freedom.

What we focus on expand. So, focus on what you want out of life. What do you want to see more of in this world – Then, go about to create it. Nothing good will come out of it if you don’t take action.

It all begins with you.

A healthy, peaceful planet starts with a healthy peaceful mind. There’s no room for quick fixes, but for an honest and consistent commitment. Creating for the highest good of all.

More health. More acceptance. More love. More forgiveness. More expansion. More truth, More we.

Whatever you wish to do, or see more of in 2024, know that it starts with you. It always starts with you.

2024 intentions

  • Cultivate a growth mindset – ”There’s an abundance flowing within and without; everything I need, seek and long for is already within me.” ”I am more than capable.” ”From the comfort zone nothing grows.” This is a mindset I encourage myself to adopt in every area of my life, whether it’s love, career, health, money or opportunities. There’s enough for everyone to go around. The more authentic and honest we are towards ourselves, the more we show others how to be authentic and honest.
  • Spread kindness & compassion – I’m inspired by random acts of kindness and compassionate people with big hearts filled with wisdom. There’s something special about humans who are caring and warm-hearted to everyone; it seems like they are carrying a sense of calmness within, despite with whoever they interact. It’s like there is nothing to prove, nothing to brag about, just a simple act of humanness.
  • Embrace freedom – ”When humans stop running away from themselves, the world will become a kinder, more peaceful place.”
    At times freedom has little to do with the outside world, and circumstances. Man becomes free the moment he becomes free of thought. When he does not longer obsess over the constant chatter in his mind, but instead turns towards the heart. Freedom from compulsive thinking, desire, addiction, outside validation, constant approval. To have oneself rise above one’s thoughts is, however, the challenge. To know that one isn’t at the mercy of one’s thoughts, but actually the witness of the same. To be able to step outside them – observe them for what they are; thoughts. We cannot expect the outside world to change if we are not willing to change ourselves. We cannot expect anyone to treat us right if we cannot treat ourselves, or others right. We cannot expect everyone else to do the work if we just sit there and do nothing.
  • Breathe mindfulness – Bringing mindfulness into everything I do – whether it’s writing, working, being in nature, exercising, interacting with loved ones – I can always choose to be a bit more here and a little less somewhere else. My mind has a tendency to drift away, but being aware of its tendency to do so, I’m allowing myself to be more present.
  • Nurture my intuition – I’ve always had a strong intuition, and every year I’m tapping into it even more. I’ve noticed that the more I allow the stillness to enter, taking the time to listen to my body’s needs, the more connected I feel to my inner being. We possess a great deal of power the moment we know we can trust our intuition. The answers you’re seeking is not found on the outside – They are found within. I challenge you to pay attention to your intuition. Trust your innate wisdom, it’s there to guide you and it wants what’s best for you.
  • Travel to Italy and improve my Italian – Italy is my soul country. The past three months I’ve been listening to Italian almost every day for 15 minutes. I’ve been very passive (listening) in my learning and 2024 is definitely going to be a more active (speaking) year of learning.
  • More writing – Writing has always been a big passion of mine, however, during 2023 I did not give myself the time to sit down and write. It’s only the past two-three months that I’ve started to take up writing again. And it’s something that I want to take with me into 2024.

Have you set any intentions for the year ahead?

You attract what you are

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”I attract what I am, what I do, what I feel and what I think I deserve.”

When it comes to attracting the life you want and desire there’s no shortcut – you’ll have to do the work. You’ll have to put in the actions needed for it to become a part of your future reality.

But first things first. If you’re not happy with where and who you are in this moment it will become slightly more difficult to move forward. As you might notice, this is kind of a paradox – being fully content with where one is right now, and still wanting to evolve.

However, I do believe it’s completely natural for us humans to expand and constantly want to develop. It’s part of the human life – it’s how we survive. We need to be able to adapt to the changes happening in the world, and we need to be aware of when and how we’re holding ourselves back.

Embrace the moment

But how does one become content with the present moment? How does one stay satisfied with what is, when the mind is obsessed with living in the past or worrying about the future? It’s like it does anything to escape the now.

”I don’t want to be here, I need to get to there. To be there will be much more fulfilling. I’m not satisfied with where I am – I need to have more, do more, be more, then my life will be complete.”

Your life is already complete. If you exist, if you breathe – then you are complete.

The ego, however, will never be fulfilled. No matter how much recognition, admiration, power or success it receives the ego will always crave more. ”More, more, more. Give me more. I’m nothing, no one, without all this.”

The ego doesn’t strive by being in the present. Nevertheless, the present moment is all there ever is, and ever will be. When something happens, it always happens now. Nothing ever happens in the future, it happens in the moment.

Embrace the moment. Learn how to be kinder to your mind. Take your power back, and lean towards love and curiosity. Fear will most likely show up along the way – don’t repress it, instead invite it in. Let it know that you don’t need it anymore. Let it know that you will survive without it. It’s completely fine to feel afraid, it’s human. But don’t let that fear stop you from moving forward. Don’t let it stop you from taking baby steps towards your dreams.

Take inspired action

Let’s say you want a killer body; a strong, healthy physique. You writing down on a piece of paper about your strong, healthy, killer body won’t magically attract it to you. Repeating affirmations day in and day out ”I have a strong, healthy body” won’t make your body change just like that. Visualizing and writing things down is, however, one piece of the puzzle, but you’ll have to put in the effort as well. You have to schedule time for your workouts, you have to choose nutritious, healthy foods, and last but not least, you have to know that you’re worthy of having a strong, healthy body. You have to be patient with yourself, and you have to know that if you want something you’ll have to be consistent.

Things just don’t magically appear in our lives. We actually need to put in the work. You want to run a successful business? – Start planning what you’ll have to do, in order for that to be your reality. Baby steps is better than no steps. You want to find the love of your life? – Become the love of your life.

In order to have something; you have to be and do. You attract what you are, what you do, what you feel and what you think you deserve.

How to grow through change

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”As long as you’re breathing it’s never too late to change your story.”

Change is inevitable, growth is optional. Whether or not it’s good change, bad change – change we create ourselves or change that we don’t have control over – both natural and spontaneous changes will happen throughout life. The aim is to not resist change, since that only creates sadness and struggle, rather, learn to flow with the current. 

Letting things flow naturally is, however, easier said than done. It requires a great deal of patience and an eagerness to reclaim the power that might have been lost along the way. Last but not least, you should always remember not to be too hard on yourself. You’re only human after all.

”It’s not the strongest of the species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.”

– Charles Darwin

With this being said, below you’ll find a few life perspectives that hopefully can assist you when you find yourself stuck in the middle of a life changing situation.

Have faith

Trust the timing of your life. I like to believe that everything happens for a reason, whether the reason is for us to grow, and to be open for new opportunities…

… or maybe the change is simply a well needed wake-up-call.

Trust that everything is working out for your good. Although it might not seem like it at the moment, a change is usually a start of something even better – a new beginning. It’s something bittersweet about change, how it’s utterly painful and beautiful at the same time. Do not fight it, instead use it to your advantage.

Acceptance

Even though the change is hard, try to grasp the reason behind it. When you finally get to the other side of change you will understand why it was so necessary, and why it had to take place. Sometimes we get so stuck at where we are that we completely lose focus, and our ability to move forward. Usually, at times like that, change will happen, whether we like it or not. After a while you can see more clearly, and finally understand why it was doomed to happen. Since you weren’t able to make the change happen, it had to happen with or without your consent.

Find the humour

This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t take your life and feelings seriously; change can be extremely hard, and your emotions are valid. However, the human experience should be all about balance, meaning when you take a step back and begin to look at things with humour you take a bit of the heaviness off.

By all means, you’re allowed to grief; it’s necessary in order to heal, but you should also remember to find humour in every day life, as to lighten yourself up.

Focus on solutions

There’s a solution to every problem, therefore, always focus on the solutions, not the problems. If you’re boiling over with deeply strong emotions try using them to create something. In other words, take advantage of your feelings. Channel your emotions through writing, painting, exercising – anything that takes the pressure off, and makes you feel more as yourself again. Most often the most unique creations can come out of sadness, grief, loneliness and pain.

Whatever you might be feeling, use those feelings to heal. Take it day by day and move forward in your own pace. Eventually you’ll blossom again. Oftentimes hard change lead to breakthroughs, and when you choose to stay open you might discover things about yourself you otherwise never would have noticed.

Face your fears

”The fears we don’t face become our limits.”

When you accept your fears, and start facing them, they will lose their power over you. To be in the middle of a big life change can be very daunting, at least if you’re a little bit of a control freak, however, the best thing you can do is surrender, and simply let things unfold naturally. Keep in mind that some things you just can’t control, and the more you try to, the messier it gets. The best thing you can do, is to let go, and go with the flow.

Not knowing what the future will hold can of course be real nerve-wracking, nevertheless, remember that with a little bit of faith, plenty of curiosity and an excess amount of resilience everything will, eventually, work out for your best. Don’t let the fear of what could happen make nothing happen. Trust that everything will come to you in the right time – do your best to work on yourself, strive for progression each and every day. The tiniest progress is better than no progress at all.

Darling, don’t fear change, rather, let it build you into a more powerful, resilient and confident human being.