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How to be magnetic

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Life hits different the moment you start embracing your entire self. When you start realising your true worth and capabilities. The moment you start becoming true to yourself, and are clear about the ways in which you have been holding yourself back from expanding, is the moment your light starts shining through.

The power to be magnetic is all yours. That magnetism of yours is sprouted from deep within. It won’t come through a new hair cut or fancy clothing (although, these outer things can be regarded as the cherry on top of the ice cream). But no, true magnetism is created from your deepest core – in a way it can be seen as your soul shining brighter, and therefore blossoming through, boosting your magnetism.

I believe there are certain habits that we can adapt, in order to boost our power and charisma, without having to visit the hair dresser. Below you’ll find 5 ways that may help you step into your power, hence make you more magnetic.

Incorporate life-changing healthy habits

Healthy, daily habits may look different for everyone. The important thing to bare in mind is that you need to choose habits that benefit YOU. Find habits that serve you, and stick to them. For example, if you’re not into meditation, don’t force yourself to sit in silence, if you rather choose to sit with yourself and journal for 15 minutes. Still, at times it might be beneficial to try something new, as to change things up and to keep you from falling into a rut.

The following morning routine is my personal morning routine that I have followed for the past month. This is just to give you an example, that might even spark an inspiration within you.

  • Wake up 5.30 am
  • I make myself one cup of warm lemon water and one cup of bone broth, that I sip on while I do some light stretching/yoga for approx. 30 minutes. As my body is very stiff in the morning, incorporating movement of some sort has made a huge difference.
  • I mediate for approx. 10 minutes. (not every morning)
  • I wash my face, take a quick shower and do my skin care routine and make up (this has become almost a meditative practise as it calms my nervous system)
  • I make myself breakfast, which is usually porridge with almond milk and blueberries, and a cup of coffee. (Before I had coffee first thing in the morning, now I usually wait for 1 hour before I have my cup). This has made a huge difference on my energy levels throughout the day and my stomach is also calmer.
  • I walk 20 minutes to get to work.

Life-changing habits don’t have to be early morning routines. It can be anything from getting your daily steps in, eating your greens and protein, drinking enough water, talking to your friends and making sure you’re having quality time with your kids. You choose your habits. And if you don’t like your current habits, it’s up to you to do something about it. And remember, it’s the small, consistent habits, that have the greatest impact in the long run. Consistency is key, and can’t be pronounced enough.

Align with your authentic self

Why be someone else, when you can be yourself? The qualities that you possess, the unique traits and the ways in which you move, speak and interact with the world around you is something that belongs to you. The more aligned you are with your authentic self, the less you will compare yourself to others. Embrace yourself, if you’re not a public speaker don’t force yourself to become a public speaker. If you’re not ready to start a family yet, don’t do it because it’s expected from you. If you don’t want to travel and see the world, but rather stay at home, don’t convince yourself that you have to do it.

Follow what makes most sense to you.

If you haven’t found your authentic self yet, start to ask yourself questions such as; When do I come alive? What makes me happy? What do I value in life? When am I most at peace? What is important to me? What does my dream day look like? Give yourself time and attention to figure these things out. Don’t force the answers to come to you; let them flow through you. It might take a couple of days before the answers come, but when they do come; you will notice their authenticity in the way they make you feel. Answers that are most aligned with you will make you feel grounded, at peace and a little bit child-like happy go lucky.

Know your worth

To have high self-worth is not the same as being confident and believing in yourself. They are related, however, you can be confident in your capabilities and at the same time carry the belief that you’re not worthy of all the good in your life. Self-worth might take some practise, and for some it’s an everlasting exploration. Self-worth is deeply connected to our childhood, and when we start embarking on the journey of healing our inner wounds and inner child, we will increase our self-worth.

Low self-worth might be a huge blockage throughout our lives, and it’s vitally important that we address the issues that have been holding us back with compassion, non-judgement and patience. The healing process is not linear, it comes in waves and your job is to ride those waves as smoothly as possible. Some days you will crash, other days you are on the top – it’s part of life, and in a way it’s what makes life beautiful and colourful, since without our emotions we would be rather dull, wouldn’t we..

Release control

There are plenty of things in life that is out of our control; how other people perceive us, outer circumstances taking place, other people’s mood swings etcetera etcetera. The more you try to force an outcome, the more suffering you will encounter. When you learn to surrender and let go, and still carry trust in your heart, the things that are meant for you will flow to you more effortlessly. Sometimes the things we want, aren’t the things we need. The universe has a funny way of showing up and teaching us how to step into our power. There are signs and synchronicities everywhere. When you gift yourself the moment to slow down and listen, you have a bigger chance noticing them.

By all means, this doesn’t imply that you sit on your coach and do nothing. To the contrary; it involves you taking inspired action; steps that are aligned with the highest version of yourself. Moving forward, evolving at your own pace. Life is not a race.

Have clear boundaries

When you are in your true power, you don’t let people walk all over you. You communicate your boundaries in a clear, healthy and consistent manner. And if for some reason you feel that you’re not in alignment with a person, you quietly walk away without the need for drama or tension. You simply accept that we humans have our differences, and that sometimes we just don’t vibe at the same frequency. We are all walking our own paths; and your job is not to convince anyone of your worth. The right people will appreciate you for the person you are, and they will love you for being real and authentic with them.

Don’t be surprised if certain people start to move away from you, when you start stating your boundaries; do know; those where not your people to begin with. Some people will be triggered by your light and authenticity, in a way it’s like they start to see themselves more clearly, not only the positives, but the negatives. Things that they are not ready to deal with; and it’s not your job to fix or heal anyone else. Still, you can act as a supportive system, and if someone asks you for your assistant and guidance you can choose to be there for them.

To summarise, in order for you to be more magnetic and live the life that you desire, you need to start embracing yourself, and not run away from yourself. It doesn’t mean that you won’t face any difficulties in life, however, the ways in which you cope with these challenges are more empowering, and helping you grow and evolve.

True magnetism stems from within. It shines through your personality and all of your actions. It’s your soul coming forth, not apologising for its existence.

Winter Solstice

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blankets keeping us safe
warm and cosy
softly falling snow
flowers resting
meanwhile, heart-focused breathing
slowly

silence

i heard the sun will come back
impatiently killing time

_________________

Winter is a tremendous time for us to slow down, and to plant those seeds we wish to see grow early spring. What do you want to create? Let the stillness anchor you. Use the dark hours with softness, and gift yourself the necessities needed for your growth. You are capable of so much, once you realise your own potential.

With love & snow fall,
l.m.v

What you focus on expands

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”But, what if, you’re actually evolving simply by being. By simply accepting and surrendering to the moment. Don’t resist the moment, whatever it contains. Sit with it, observe it, be aware of it – don’t label it. Be with it. Let go of what you know, and let yourself be open to the fresh, the new.”

Dear 2023, thank you for all the beautiful moments, the stillness, challenges and experiences. Dear 2024, I’m curious – I sense you will be filled with bliss, growth and laughter. Freedom. Love.

What we focus on expand. So, focus on what you want out of life. What do you want to see more of in this world – Then, go about to create it. Nothing good will come out of it if you don’t take action.

It all begins with you.

A healthy, peaceful planet starts with a healthy peaceful mind. There’s no room for quick fixes, but for an honest and consistent commitment. Creating for the highest good of all.

More health. More acceptance. More love. More forgiveness. More expansion. More truth, More we.

Whatever you wish to do, or see more of in 2024, know that it starts with you.

It always starts with you.

Dear January…

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… be brave enough to speak your truth.

”If you want to know love you must lose your fear of life.”

January is for awakening to the authenticity within the soul. While nature’s half asleep – breathe, darling, breathe. Evolve, one precious step at a time. Trust yourself, never neglect your true worth. Your true light. Strive for progression, growth and compassion. There’s always something to be grateful for. Life. Dear human, be grateful for life. 

January is for taking that delicate, and crucial first step. A beautiful opportunity to begin anew arises, sunrise after sunrise. Breath after breath. Souls awakening from the darkest of night. From the deep, deep slumber we all return to light. Guided by the strength within, shining bright.

Brave being, believe in your Self. Now. Appreciate the journey, for it moulds you into the human being you are. Now. Into the human you are becoming. Now. The human you’ve always been. Now.

Know that it’s ok to be scared, to not have all the answers. Be ambitious anyway. Be curious, be brave. It’s about listening, having faith. Allowing things to unfold naturally, with effortless ease. It’s about dancing with life, moving with the flow, surrendering to the magic floating around. Within and without. 

Be still, and trust the inner wisdom, while it’s guiding you to where you belong, to the steps you need to take. Darling, it’s time for you to awake, to everything your heart can shake. Being passionately involved in what you believe in. Doing it as thoroughly and honestly and fearlessly as you can. 

It’s all about sustainable, slow living, spreading loving kindness to all living beings.Focusing on the important, taking inspired action. Creating a graceful planet, a peaceful world within. It all begins with you. 

January dear, I welcome you. Let’s awaken to the delicacy of this newborn day. Every moment, learning to flow with the breath of life. Surrendering to the truth, with everything that resonates with the core. Building a little garden in the heart.

Darling, be brave enough to speak your truth.

How to set healthy boundaries

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In order to build your own personal and emotional space you need to know how to set and communicate healthy boundaries. It’s essential to establish and communicate personal boundaries for our mental and emotional wellbeing, and sometimes even our safety. But why can communicating boundaries be so darn difficult at times? And how do we set compassionate boundaries within our relationships?

I believe it’s rather common to fall into a victim mindset once you realise you’ve put other people’s needs above your own. You start blaming yourself for not knowing better. However, this attitude won’t help you evolve. In other words, it can in fact be detrimental for your growth. Therefore, although easier said than done, try not to fall into a negative, victim mindset. Instead, recognize it as an opportunity to take your power back. The focus should be on learning and growing.

Healthy boundaries – Compassion towards self.

Why can setting and communicating boundaries be so challenging at times?

There may be various reasons for this, and it depends of course on the person, or the situation per se. One can argue that it stems from us not wanting to upset people; we don’t want to be regarded as too selfish, or unfriendly. Nonetheless, setting clear and honest boundaries is not selfish, and it’s not about you being unkind and unfair to someone. Having people taking advantage of you is not kindness; that is people pleasing. Neglecting your own needs, and putting other people’s wants and needs above your own is detrimental to your self-esteem and self-confidence.

With this in mind, it can be hard to see things as they are when you’re caught up in the midst of it all. You may regard yourself as a kind and compassionate human, one who’s always wanting what’s best for others. And don’t get me wrong, these are remarkable traits, however, the moment you start disrespecting yourself, and putting others on a pedestal, is the moment the relationship becomes unhealthy and toxic.

If you never been taught how to set healthy boundaries it may feel awkward and unfamiliar at first. It’s possible that you feel like you’re demanding too much, and simply being too much. Nevertheless, know that you have the right to speak up about the things important to you. You have the right to show yourself  both respect and self-care, without being regarded as someone that is demanding too much.

Stating your needs is crucial for your well-being, and the base for a healthy relationship. If you lose people by communicating your wants and needs, maybe they weren’t your people to begin with? We are not here to people please, and to satisfy everyone else’s needs while neglecting our own wants and wishes. We’re here to show each other respect and care. However, you don’t have to spend time with another human being, although you respect him or her. You’re allowed to take a step back, and to say no. You’re allowed to do what feels good to you.

As long as we keep an honest communication with one another, already from the beginning, and being clear and to the point with what we seek in a relationship, I think we can eliminate unnecessary pain and suffering.

How to set healthy boundaries?

To begin with we need to understand that setting boundaries doesn’t mean that we disrespect another human. Rather it means that we’re being honest and authentic towards both ourselves and others.

You’re stating what’s important to you, meaning you respect yourself, and therefore show others how to treat you.

If you like someone it’s easy to fall into a  ”I want to please you” mindset. Trust me, I’ve definitely been guilty of that. I also believe a relationship is about give & take, as well as compromising. But as soon as you start compromising your own well-being, and your own self-worth, it can easily turn into a spiral that once spinning, will be difficult to turn off and quit.

Be honest & clear in your communication.

In order to communicate your boundaries you first need to know what your boundaries are. Therefore, take time to figure out what it is that you want and need from a relationship, whether it’s a relationship with your partner, parent, child or boss/colleague. Boundaries look a bit different depending on the relationship, so be clear about what’s important to you in regards to each relationship. Take the time you need to really examine your current relationships; are there improvements to be made? Are there things you feel the need to communicate, and to change?

When you’re clear about your boundaries, be as honest and open as possible in your communication. There’s no one that can read your mind, and therefore, you can’t assume that others will know what’s important to you, especially if you never communicated it. Thus, speak with honesty and integrity about the things close to your heart.

Be vulnerable.

Dare to show people the real you; demonstrate your deepest wants and needs. And bare in mind, there will be times when people can’t give you what you need. You can’t force anyone to treat you the way you’re worthy of being treated – that is something that should come naturally to people. If they don’t respect you, then I believe the only thing you can do is to let them go. It may sound harsh, but why even beg someone for their love and appreciation? You find that love and appreciation within yourself, and trust me, there are plenty of humans out there who will know how to treat you. Don’t put energy onto those who will never see your true worth. You know your worth, and that is more than enough.

Show compassion & respect one another. 

When someone can’t meet your standards it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person. Sometimes we don’t see eye to eye, and that’s completely fine. The only thing left to do is to respect our diversities. We need to learn to respect each other’s personal and emotional spaces, and in order to do so we need to be able to speak up about our own needs – hence give others the space to do the same. Actually, it’s when we’re true to ourselves, and honest about what’s important to us that we give the right people the opportunity to show up in our lives.

This being said, there’s no way you can please everyone, so don’t even attempt to. Trying to make everyone else but you happy and satisfied will only drive you towards pain and suffering. Focus on pleasing yourself, and start with being true and honest towards yourself. Don’t be afraid to speak up about the things important to you. This is how the people who are meant to be in your life will come to you. They will see you for who you really are, and they will appreciate and respect you, and love you for your honesty. Your job is to show them who, and what you are ❤

Discomfort – an opportunity for growth

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”You’re being presented with two choices; evolve or repeat.”

In any given moment we have two options: to step forward into growth or to step back into safety. Each time we’re faced with a challenge it’s very easy to become caught up in thoughts about everything that could go wrong, instead of being excited about everything that could go right. This mindset is to a certain extent completely natural, and our bodies and minds way of keeping us from danger, hence keeping us from stepping into the unknown.

To fully embrace oneself, and to accept oneself exactly as one is, is a lifelong journey in and of itself. To some of us it might come naturally, without us even thinking about it. However, to others it takes a deeper kind of practice – something that needs to be nurtured daily.

It’s difficult to not become caught up in the demands of the outside world; constantly comparing ourselves to others, or simply never being satisfied with who we are.

As a highly sensitive empath I fell into the people pleasing mentality rather early in life. I always wanted others to like me, and usually I was afraid to speak up because I never wanted to upset anyone, or then I thought – ”Who am I to even speak up?” Whenever I found myself in a relationship I always put the other person’s needs above my own, completely forgetting about what I really wanted out of the relationship. I seriously thought that it made me into a kinder, more compassionate human. And while it’s necessery to care for others and their needs, it never calls for us to forget about our own needs.

In a way this people pleasing mentality can be seen as something rather natural, since at the end of the day we humans want to feel connected to one another. However, personally I needed to learn that I can still connect with another human being without me having to lose myself in the process. It’s when I’m deeply connected with myself that I connect with the people I’m meant to connect with.

”I know what I bring to the table. So trust me when I say I am not afraid to eat alone.”

– Unknown

Learning how to set healthy boundaries was very discomforting to me. In the beginning I felt completely lost, since it didn’t come naturally to me. I really needed to learn how to incorporate new, healthy habits into my life. The habit of speaking up for myself, and for seeing my own worth.

And we all know that creating and forming new habits do not usually happen over night. It requires attention and dedication, each and every day.

However, now I know that I don’t have to please anyone but myself. I’m allowed to be exactly who I am, as long as I don’t harm myself or any other sentient being. I’m allowed to speak up about things important to me. I’m allowed to say no. I’m allowed to just be. And you are too. You’re allowed to be your most authentic self. You’re not obligated to explain yourself to anyone, you’re allowed to simply exist.

It’s when you fully embrace all of you that the people who are meant to be in your life will come to you. You don’t need to force a connection, it just flows, cause you’re vibrating at the same frequency.

Learning how to accept myself, and to love myself for exactly the person I am has been one of my biggest lessons so far. It has forced me to grow, and to step into the unknown. It has thought me how to respect and honour myself. And last but not least, it has thought me how to cherish my own light.

What does levelling up mean to you? How does it make you feel? And who does it make you wanna be?

An open mind

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”The eyes are useless when the mind is blind.”

How to master the art of observing life with an open mind? Where others see either black or white, to learn to see the rainbow?

Life is a spectrum of moments, occurring one after the other. Anything can happen. And it’s impossible for us to know what might be hiding behind the corner.

We’re allowed to change – in fact we should; change, and grow. In line with each and everyone of your breaths you are allowed to be. Exactly the one you were meant to be.

Open your mind

Don’t care to be right, care to understand. Don’t expect people to agree with everything you say, expect them to have their own view on things. Don’t impose your beliefs on others. Accept all of life’s perspectives and realities, in peace, without judgment.

”It’s the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it.”

– Aristotle

What it means is, you should learn to look at life with a bird’s eye view – there are more to this life than the thoughts in your mind.

There are more to this life than your way of seeing things. There is something to be learned from everyone. Even from the fools.

The most sincere form of respect is to listen to what another person has to say. And if you don’t understand – don’t be afraid to ask questions. The worst distance between two human beings is misunderstanding.

When two people stop communicating with each other, or worse – when they stop listening to each other – that is when the problems start arising. We start to assume things, or we believe we think we know what the other person is trying to say. Instead of asking we assume.

We humans are very good at putting our own expectations on people. Why? Maybe we’re afraid of the answer. Maybe we’re just trying to create a false sense of control. Maybe we’re afraid that we thought we knew someone when we actually have no idea. But remember this, if you do not ask, and try to understand, you will never fully get to know life. And you will never fully get to know yourself or the loved ones around you.

Open your eyes. Open your mind.

5 ways to be more present

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”Watch the seasons unfolding.”

Introducing more presence to your day-today life has many benefits to your overall wellbeing, however, you don’t have to turn into a meditation guru in order to become more mindful. There are several ways by which you can invite stillness, and thereby welcome a more conscious awareness to your daily life.

James Baraz puts it very nicely:

”Mindfulness is simply being aware of what is happening right now without wishing it were different; enjoying the pleasant without holding on when it changes (which it will); being with the unpleasant without fearing it will always be this way (which it won’t).”

Below you’ll find five ways that might help you breathe a bit slower.

– walk in nature –

”trust the seasons changing, trust your inner voice; it knows.”

There’s a special thing being one with nature, whether it’s watching the ocean, smelling the forest, hiking in the autumn mountains, taking a midnight swim or laughing up in the air. Nature has a tendency to teach us plenty; she teaches us how to be still, how to unwind and relax. Stay alert, and witness the beauty she so effortlessly provides us with. Let her guide you home.

– be kind to your mind –

Have you ever stopped to notice that voice within? What does it tell you? Does it feed you fear? Love? Anxiety? Since you have around 60.000-80.000 thoughts a day it might be a good idea to pay attention to how you talk to yourself. If you notice you don’t like the way you communicate to yourself – change your thoughts. The power is all yours. You don’t have to listen to that bullshit. Speak with confidence, love and compassion. However, the idea is not to obsess about it – thoughts will come, and thoughts will go. The thing is, you don’t have to pay too much attention to them. Don’t judge every thought running through your head. Cause in the end, they are simply thoughts.

– don’t hate, meditate –

It’s not the minutes that count; it’s what you take with you after you’ve been sitting in silence – patience, alertness and a greater awareness. Meditation is not sitting with no thought – it’s letting the thoughts pass by, no dwelling, simply being aware. It’s the perfect way to practise slow breathing. Going within, and trusting oneself.

– eat mindfully –

Taste your food. Smell it. With every bite, be there. When you eat, you eat. You don’t scroll through social media, watch television, sit in front of your computer or talk with your friends on the phone. You eat, and with every delicious bite, you’re there. It’s the same when you’re preparing food – cooking is actually a perfect way to unwind. Some chill music in the background, a glass of red wine, good company – and you just created the most perfect recipe for ultimate relaxation.

– find your happy –

Whatever floats your boat – dive right in. When you’re enjoying what you’re doing you easily reach that so called flow state. A state of being when time passes by without you even noticing. A state of being when you’re your most creative self. A state of being when you’re guided by your inner voice. A state of being that can only be described by the words pure bliss. Find your happy, and then, gift yourself the time to do it as often as possible.

5 habits to improve your life

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”Now is the perfect time to start imagining all that you can do.”

It’s never too late to implement fresh, new habits to your day-to-day routine. If you’re looking for a mini life-makeover, then, first things first, you need to start from within. In other words, start with your mental state, since most often it’s the root to all problems. If you don’t change what’s going on inside your mind – with your thoughts, and the way you view yourself and the world around you – then it’s going to be difficult to find a new sense of happiness, contentment and inspiration.

Below you’ll find 5 positive habits to implement in 2024:

Patience

”Allow things to unfold naturally.”

I believe the main difference between successful and unsuccessful people is not the way they vary in their competencies, but the way they vary in their ambition, and desires to reach their potential. Persistence and patience is key, since good things usually take time.

Embrace life. Everything in life happens for a reason; whether the reason is for you to learn more about yourself, find your true nature or grow as a human being. If you learn to accept and embrace all aspects of life; the good and the bad, life will start to flow more effortlessly. Stop defining yourself in relationship to the events that happen in the moment, to the struggles, to the mental chatter going on in your mind. You’re not the events happening in your life; you experience these events, and how you choose to do that is up to you.

Questions to ask yourself regularly – Why am I doing the things I am doing? What is the purpose behind my dreams and goals?

It’s a great idea to reconnect to your why when you’re feeling frustrated and inpatient. Remember – it’s never too late to readjust your goals.

Re-establish your why and the reasons you’re doing what you’re doing. Connect with your purpose – write down why you like to do the things you’re doing, what would you like to accomplish and why would you like to accomplish it? If you end up realising that you hate what you’re doing, then look at it as a tremendous opportunity to tap into yourself, to find your why again.

One book a month

”Read me slowly. My words will sing to you.”

Reading is a great way to unwind. It’s also a superb way to gain new knowledge and become more open-minded. I’ve always preferred reading to watching television since it’s a great way to boost the imagination. A great goal is to read one book a month – I think that’s rather an attainable goal. If I have time I like to read a few chapters in the morning; fiction or nonfiction, depending on the mood I’m in. When do you prefer to read?

Journaling

”The journey to self-awareness.”

One of the best ways to become more self-aware is to write. The more aware you are of your thoughts and how they affect you, the more you realize just how powerful they are. Thoughts can completely turn a day around. Thoughts can turn a life around. Redirecting your thoughts, choosing more positive ones, when facing a negative situation can help you see the situation in new daylight. The understanding that no one can change your thoughts but you, should be enough for you to jump over to the driver’s seat. You control your thoughts – don’t let them control you.

Let your thoughts and emotions flow through you by writing them down. Don’t surpress the negativity, don’t let it built a nest within you – let the feels out. Know that you are simply experiencing emotions. They shall pass, as they too are temporarily.

Life is an ongoing learning process

”Self-awareness = power.”

Mistakes shouldn’t be regarded as merely mistakes. Instead they should be considered as obstacles making us become better, enhancing as human beings. They’re barriers, helping us grow and improve ourselves. Without mistakes you wouldn’t grow. Needless to say, this means you need to become self-aware. You need to be self-conscious, and realize when you’ve made a mistake; otherwise you’ll never grow. You’ll keep on making the same mistake, over and over again, until you grasp the meaning behind it.

Kindness

”Be kind. Always.”

As humans we can choose to be a lot of different things. Nonetheless, the more I think about it I feel that one of the traits I consider as one of the most valuable is being kind. Other people will unquestionably remember if you’ve treated them well or not. How we choose to treat others says a lot about ourselves. Be someone people look up to. Give to others and help them be the best version of themselves too. At times it might be clever to be a bit selfish (don’t let yourself be manipulated by fools), however, you don’t have to be obnoxious to be successful. However, kindness to others, starts with kindness towards the self.

What are your favourite healthy habits? Please share with me. 

8 ways to get into a creative flow

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It’s easy to lose sight of creativity when things don’t happen as quickly as hoped for. You might not see any results, something negative happen, or maybe you wake up one morning feeling unmotivated for no particular reason. In these situations it’s even more important that you hold on to trust, and try to see the moment for what it is – a moment to reflect, and recharge. Getting back into your groove again.

One crucial thing to bear in mind when going through times feeling uninspired and unmotivated is to accept your feelings. Don’t take them too seriously, since they are temporarily, and you don’t need to invite them in for tea – keep the door open and let them pass.

Don’t push yourself to feel a certain way, to be something you’re not. The lack of motivation is only a phase, and sometimes the only thing you can do is to breathe a little deeper, and take a step back. Even nature slows down during winter.

And yes, this might make you feel frustrated, trying everything to get your creativity and motivation back. This might work for some, or in some situations, however, for others it can slow down the process. Making it even harder to bounce back.

It can seem as a slow process, nevertheless, quitting won’t speed it up. Taking a step back is not quitting – to get out of your own head can actually free up space for new creative ideas to enter. Don’t fight your current state of mind, accept things for what they are – face them, and embrace them.

Below you’ll find 8 ways that hopefully can be seen as approaches, in order to help you get into your creative flow again.

Clean.

I find cleaning to be extremely therapeutic.

Whenever I feel unmotivated and uninspired it usually helps a lot to either rearrange things in the apartment, or to get rid of junk I don’t need. When things are neat and tidy around me I feel refreshed, and ready to get on with my day. It’s like my mind feel anew as soon as my apartment is fresh and clean. When there are no distractions laying around I can concentrate more easily.

Connect with nature.

Take time to cherish nature.

There is nothing more relaxing and rejuvenating than observing nature. Finding stillness while hiking in the forest, being in the mountains or watching the ocean, will do wonders for your entire being. Escaping the real world for a couple of hours, or even days, might boost your creativity, and feed it with new flourishing insights. I find nature to be one of my biggest teachers; the way she’s always exactly where she should be. I love the serenity, the richness and wisdom she provides. I love watching snow falling, flowers blooming, leaves turning red. Simply allowing myself to flow with the breath of life.

Listen to music.

Music – medicine for the soul.

Whenever I need a creativity boost I listen to my favorite playlist, and more often that not it puts me in the right mood. Feel tired & moody? Play your absolute favorite song and dance like no one is watching. I promise you, it will help you reconnect with yourself, and in no time you’ll feel 100 % yourself again. Dancing is actually a great way to get rid of deeply stored emotions – let the music guide you home.

Free yourself from distractions

You don’t have to look far, you just have to look within.

It’s easy to fall into the belief that we grow strength by being around encouraging people, not to mention receive love by getting it from other people. And while it’s truly important for us humans to feel connected, loved and encouraged, you need to bear in mind that you know yourself best – you know what you need, and what you seek. Never expect anything from anyone. Love, confidence and trust is something that is built within. You can’t control what other people think or say about you, and you can’t control every circumstance in your life. However, you can control how you respond to other people, and to the situations brought to you in your life.

And while it’s important to be inspired by fellow humans, you have to remember that within yourself there’s a limitless creativity, and it’s available any time you need. By being still, and taking time to listen, you’ll find that all the answers you seek is closer than you think.

Travel.

A foreign country – a change of scenery at its best.

I love a crowded market place, a foreign country, conversations I don’t understand, however, I read faces, I read eyes. I would actually love to be able to travel more, since travelling is easily one of the best ways to spark the creativity. Being in a new country, meeting people you haven’t met before, listening to words you don’t know the meaning of. New places always spark something within my soul. Even though I’m an introvert and appreciate my own time, I’ve always been excited by foreign countries and languages, as they help me come even more alive.

Listen to podcasts & read books.

I love reading, while it calms both my mind and soul, however, when I’m out and about I usually listen to an inspiring podcast.

My main creative outlet is writing, and at whatever time I need to find some new inspiration I read a few chapters from one of my most favoured books. I strongly believe in the importance of finding my own voice, however, at times it might be good to read something completely different from what you’re used to, as to spice things up, and let new ideas flourish.

Free writing.

Write about everything, and nothing.

If you’re one of those who suffers from writers block, and writing is your job, then I would advise you to just write. Put down all of your thoughts on a piece of paper. It doesn’t have to be great – get rid of the pressure of having to constantly deliver something awesome all the time. However, many times when we get rid of stress, and stop being so hard on ourselves, things start to work with us, rather than against us. Move with it, flow with your feelings, with the words coming out, and embrace the state you’re in. Taste the words, read them out loud, let them speak to your soul.

Try something new.

Spice up your life by making small adjustments.

Wake up one hour earlier every morning, try out a new hobby, meet up with a friend you haven’t seen in a while, read a book instead of watching a movie, try out new foods, or take a different route to school or work. These tiny things might not end up having the greatest impact in your life, but changing up your habits can keep you from getting into a rut. Make time in your schedule to try something new, life easily gets boring if we keep on doing the same things.

With this being said, what if the problem sometimes is that we try too hard? Wanting everything to be perfect all the time. What if, we just took the pressure off our shoulders, and instead started to flow with life? Personally, I get off track when I start thinking what everyone else is doing. As soon as I become aware where my thoughts are heading, I try to redirect my focus inwards. What do I want? What do I need? What are my greatest inspirations?

I think it’s of utmost importance that we don’t become afraid of the silence. Of not always having the answers, and being ok with that. Life can take any direction, and as a result, we have no idea what tomorrow will bring. We can plan ahead, just to make ourselves feel comfortable, however, forcing something to come to us won’t make it come to us any sooner, rather, it moves us further away.

Sometimes the only thing we can do is to let go, and go with the flow. Creativity will most likely hit you when you least expect it. Stay open ❤