”Destruction breeds creation.”
Life is a series of natural, and spontaneous changes. In order for us humans to obtain peace and happiness it’s vital that we become comfortable with everything that’s unfolding; circumstances taking place, feelings and emotions running through our bodies, as well as people dancing in and out of our lives. Change is the nature of life. It’s the nature of your being.
I believe the only rational thing for us to do is to embrace every aspect of life – the good and the bad, the highs and the lows, the love and the fear – whatever life may present us with, shouldn’t we just dive right in, and at least try our best in line with the moment we’re in. But what if there is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so, as William Shakespeare so neatly put it.
According to the Vedas (the primary texts of Hinduism) there is no such thing as good or bad, right or wrong. There are only creation -> maintenance -> destruction. Then back to creation. Flowing like a beautiful cycle. Some time ago I listened to a podcast episode with Emily Fletcher where she talked about destruction as coming through to clean house. To not see destruction as something inherently bad, or something to avoid, but as something that is cleaning house, getting rid of the old, so that the new can enter (creation). Fletcher goes on explaining how the quality of our lives is determined by the quality of our questions. What can I innovate? What creation is coming through? How can I become more kind, more compassionate, not only to myself, but to others as well as the environment?
Asking more powerful questions is the beginning of a creative practise to envision a new world. As species we’re evolving, moving forward, and there’s no turning back. Now is the time to wake up as creators, and as innovators. And in what way will you choose to do that?
Michael A. Singer writes:
”You’re sitting on a planet spinning around in the middle of absolutely nowhere. Go ahead, take a look at reality. You’re are floating in empty space in a universe that goes on forever. If you have to be here, at least be happy and enjoy the experience. You’re going to die anyway. Things are going to happen anyway. Why shouldn’t you be happy? You gain nothing by being bothered by life’s events. It doesn’t change the world; you just suffer. There’s always going to be something that can bother you, if you let it.” (Michael A. Singer, the untethered soul)
Learning to let go of past experiences, situations, limiting beliefs and toxic emotions is a process, and sometimes it takes a great deal of patience to get rid of stuff that you know, deep down inside, doesn’t serve you. However, there are a couple of mindsets that can make the process flow more effortlessly. Let me present a few of my favorites.
Allow things to unfold
”I embrace life.”
I like to think that everything in life happens for a reason; whether the reason is for you to learn more about yourself, find your true nature, and therefore evolve as a human being. You have to learn to accept and embrace all aspects of life. I believe this becomes easier the moment you stop defining yourself in relationship to the events that happen, to the struggles, to the mental chatter going on in your mind. You’re not your thoughts, you’re simply being aware of your thoughts. You’re not your emotions; you experience and feel your emotions. You’re not the events happening in your life; you experience these events – and how you choose to do that is up to you.
Relax & release
”I let go of the situation that no longer serves me.”
The more you learn to let go of the past, and the less you worry about the future, the more mindful and relaxed you become. Try not to over-think or obsess about the things out of your control. Instead change your mindset, learn to take in the moment, and always strive to do your best with what you’ve got. Aim for paradise, while flowing with the creation of the now.
I try to allow myself to not always be on top of things. You don’t have to resist feelings of pain, sadness, shame and failure – feelings of not being good enough. It’s totally human to feel downright sad and pessimistic from time to time. However, whatever you do, don’t inhabit this kind of negativity; be the observer, and make a conscious decision to release that which no longer serves you. Don’t let these emotions control you – you’re the one in power over your feelings.
The decision lies within
”I am fearless. I follow my heart.”
It’s up to you to decide if you want to be happy or not. Your happiness is not found within someone else’s hands, or some anticipated situation in the near future. Make the choice to be happy now, and you’ll notice that your path through life will become more fulfilling. How beautiful isn’t it that you have the power and ability to create the life you desire; the power lies within you. Don’t settle for average, when you have the opportunity to experience the extraordinary.
Take action, each and every day, towards your dreams. It’s your decision. Fall in love with the process of creating your life.
Gratitude is the attitude
”Love, abundance and happiness flow to me.”
A grateful mind is a loving mind. Always choose the grateful mind; a mind that can take you places beyond your wildest dreams. It’s easy to forget about all the beautiful things in our lives when we’re caught up in the midst of it all. Take time, every day, and stop for a while. Just stop, and breathe it all in – today won’t come again. Show appreciation to your comfy bed, the roof over your head, your job, the sun caressing your cheeks (or the rain pouring down) your family, and loved ones. There are always something to be grateful for. Life can be hard, but focusing on the bad stuff won’t make them go away. And if you choose to focus on them, focus on finding solutions to your problems. Simply nagging about things won’t bring any happiness to the situation.
With this being said, know that you possess a great deal of power over your life. For sure there are situations, and life changes that you simply don’t have control over. However, how you choose to react to these changes are completely up to you.