”I have the power to create my reality.”
What you send out into the universe – through your thoughts, feelings, words, actions – you attract into your life. Cultivating abundant and positive thinking, visualization, and intention-setting, are great ways in order to start creating the life you want. It’s about shifting your focus, shifting your perspectives. It’s about being able to turn a negative day into a great day, simply because you choose to. Simply because you can.
Nevertheless, it’s not enough to simply think, write or speak about the things you want in life, however, it’s a vital start. You have to believe, in order to receive. If you don’t believe in yourself and all that you’re capable of, nothing much will grow out of it. What is more, you’ll have to begin to take inspired action. It’s not enough to simply sit on the coach, listening to inspirational podcasts or visualizing dreams and goals coming through – we actually need to take that first step as well, not knowing where it will take us.
”Bring your thoughts to a higher level.”
In order for the magic to start flowing into your life you’ll have to take action. It may be scary at first, trust me I know – fear is for sure a sneaky bastard, always visiting without any invitation what so ever. How rude. Often when you find yourself confused, not knowing what direction to take, it’s usually fear that gets in the way.
See it for what it is – fear. A feeling of anxiety, a feeling of being judged by others, a feeling of not being good enough.
Breathe it in, feel it. Don’t run away from it. Confront it. Stand tall and get ready to fight. Fight for your truth. Fight for you. Don’t let fear stop you from chasing your dreams. You know better than that. You’re stronger than that. You’re stronger than fear. Don’t you ever forget.
”Your thoughts are powerful.”
Everything has energy; our thoughts have energy, our perspectives have energy, how we interact with the world around us creates energy. You can change your perspectives right in this split second based on your thoughts.
This won’t, however, happen over night (or in some cases it actually might). You’re allowed to have bad days; days when you feel like crap and all you want to do is to feel sorry for yourself. Accept these feelings, but know that you are not your feelings, you simply experience these feelings. Nonetheless, as soon as it gets too intense – the second you feel that you’re not the one in charge – know that you’ve the power to change things around. It’s time to take your power back. You choose if you want a negative situation to impact your entire day, your entire life even. It’s completely up to you.
Sometimes life messes with us in ways we never thought were possible; life can put whatever obstacle right in front of you, nevertheless, it’s how you decide to look at this obstacle that will determine your willpower and success. Life won’t give you anything you aren’t ready for.
With this being said, below you’ll find a few mindsets to embrace, that hopefully will make it a bit easier for you to start flowing with life, instead of fighting against life.
Use positive affirmations to replace negative limiting beliefs.
Whenever you find yourself talking down on yourself – as soon as you become aware – replace the negative thoughts to positive affirmations. I AM is a powerful way to start a sentence. I am whatever I set my mind to.
Make feeling good a priority.
Do things that make you feel content, and at ease with yourself and your life. Take time everyday to listen within, listen to your soul. What does it want? Prioritize your health and your well-being. Make yourself a priority. In order to show affection and compassion to others you’ll have to start showing it to yourself.
Love yourself and know that you are worthy of what you want.
This is easier said than done, but really, try your best to not compare yourself to others. You’re not them, and they are not you. No one is either more or less than you, and you’re not more or less than anyone else. And isn’t that what makes this life so compelling? That we’re a bunch of humans, although somehow so alike, we have our different traits, up-bringings and weird quirks. We have our different struggles, things to heal and to let go of. If we only knew how much there’s to learn from one another, so much wisdom and clarity to gain from each other. Every human you’ve met thus far know that you’ve met them for a reason. Although you’ve let people hurt you in the past, know that it was something you had to go through, in order to find yourself, in order to find your inner strength.
Be still & awaken your intuition.
You’ll have to quiet the mind, in order to hear beyond the mental chatter. Within the silence you’ll find the truth – it’s where you’ll find the presence and the essence of life. To be able to find stillness within a busy world, is to be able to find the meaning of life. The meaning of who you are. Trust your own inner voice, your own knowing. Don’t seek out for other people’s opinion all the time. Think for yourself – what do you want? What do you need? However, at times it might be a very good idea to ask for advice, but don’t make a habit out of it. Rather, learn how to be still, and you might find that the answer is already resting within you – you may don’t want to accept it, or think you’re able to deal with the truth – but trust me; you are more than capable.
Don’t judge the moment.
This is the door to all that is. Celebrate the moment, and awaken to the flashes unfolding.
The present – the only moment there is for us to be alive. Humans are very good at preparing to live, but not very good a living. Habitually dwelling in the past and dreaming of the future, while having difficulties concentrating the mind on the present moment. Wherever you are – know that you are home. Wherever you find yourself; whether you’re stuck in a rut, anxious, or simply lost in the fast spinning outside world – whatever the present moment contains – accept, then act. Always work with life, not against life. Don’t feel like life is controlling you, you are controlling life. And yes, life will hit you (it might even hit you hard), but know that you’ll never grow with the perfect life.
The moment you begin to evaluate and criticize the situation you’re in, the thoughts flowing within your mind, or even the way you’re breathing, the judging perfectionist has arrived. The judging perfectionist that believes that a present moment experience is supposed to be a blissed-out Zen experience filled with peace and light. And let’s face it, it’s very seldom like that.
Isn’t it our job to find peace amidst of it all?
”Sometimes, the universe does not allow us to move forward, until we have honored where we are right know.”
But how is it even possible to stay patient and calm in a world that’s constantly changing? To stay satisfied with what is, when the mind is obsessed with living in the past or worrying about the future? It’s like it does anything just to escape the now.
”I don’t want to be here, I need to get to there.” ”When I find the perfect partner, that perfect job, earn loads of money and become successful, then I’ll be happy.” ”I’m not satisfied with where I am, I need to have more, be more; then my life will be fulfilled.”
The ego will never be fulfilled; no matter how much recognition, admiration, power or success it receives the ego will always crave more.
The ego doesn’t thrive by being in the present. However, the present moment is all there ever is and ever will be; when something happens, it always happens now. Nothing ever happens in the future, it happens in the moment.
It’s nothing wrong with wanting to achieve goals, or visualizing a life filled with abundance, prosperity, love and happiness. Most likely these wonderful, external things will bring a great deal of joy and happiness into your life, but for the most part it’s a short-lived kind of happiness. After a while the ego eventually gets bored, unsatisfied, and starts craving more of that external success.
In other words, achieving external success isn’t the root to your happiness. Constantly pleasing others, and thereby forgetting about your own wants and needs, isn’t a life well lived. Defining your worth according to how others treat you, isn’t going to make you feel more desirable. People may adore you, or they may dislike you, either way it shouldn’t affect you, since, in the end what you think about yourself is the only thing that matter. Of course it will hurt if you get abandoned, rejected or replaced. Despite the amount of pain you’re feeling, know that none of these circumstances will make you less worthy. Whether you didn’t get that promotion or you were replaced by another lover, you should never let it affect your inner happiness. That is giving your power away to other people or circumstances – letting it dictate your state of being.
It’s easy, and very human, to fall into negative self-talk whenever something bad happens in life. Self-pity parties might feel okay at first, but in the end, feeling sorry for yourself won’t make you feel any better. Adopting a more positive way of thinking is a first step towards a more solid kind of happiness;
”When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
– Wayne Dyer
Maybe you didn’t get that promotion simply because there’s a much better option waiting for you? Why not trust the unfolding of your life? Why not accept and embrace this moment?
But how does one discover an inner, true form of happiness?
By being present.
And by not judging everything as good or bad all the time. Let things be, just as they are. Accept them, just as they are.
What is more, the present moment experience is the most healing state there is. Old emotions stored deep down in the body; whether it’s grief, anger, sadness or pain, need to be released out of our systems. Unprocessed emotions can show up in different forms, such as a disease, judgement towards people we don’t know, or as an addiction. They might even hold us back from evolving, hence keeping us stuck.
You can choose to work with The Law of Life in many different ways, however, I believe it’s important that you find the way best suitable for you. Really take the time to figure out what you want out of life; put time aside to reflect on how you want to feel, rather than focusing on what you want.
Stay optimistic, yet realistic; there’s a fine balance between living above the clouds and staying grounded on earth. Both is needed – of course you can tell yourself I’m a limitless human being, but let’s face it, you’ll have to become conscious of what is possible for you. Self-awareness is everything – learn about yourself; what are your specific strengths and weaknesses, and go from there. Be passionate about evolving, and about constantly learning about all things new. Those that are curious, as well as adaptable to change, usually seem to flow through life with a little more effortless ease.