”The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.”
Part of being humble means realizing that you don’t have all the answers. Humble people are curious and eager to learn more, in order to become better versions of themselves. Furthermore, they’re self-reliant and competent in themselves, and therefore seek to self-actualize by helping others. I read somewhere that being humble is not to think less of oneself, but to think of oneself less.
Consequently, humility is not about being too passive and insecure, rather it’s about being confident in one’s own skin, knowing we’re all different, yet at the same time, somehow quite the same.
”Be humble enough to know that you’re not better than anyone else, but wise enough to know you’re different.”
Below you’ll find some of the most common traits that might help you become a little more humble.
Humble people usually have an inquiring mind, meaning they know there’s always something to learn, there’s always new insight and knowledge to gain. Learning is an ongoing process, and I strongly believe one can’t have too much wisdom. A humble person also isn’t afraid to ask questions, or to ask for help. In other words, they understand that we humans have a lot to learn from one another, and that different mind-sets, cultures, experiences and up-bringings are a richness that we all can take advantage from. Choose to walk through life with an open mind. Know that you’ll never be fully completed; everyday is an opportunity to learn something new.
”That’s why I like you so much. Your heart isn’t dead.”
– Albert Camus
To listen, to actually listen, to what people say, is a skill mastered by a few. When we’re engaged in a conversation we usually think about what we’re going to say next, without really listening to the person talking to us. We’re so caught up in our own thoughts that we simply forget to give our attention to the other individual. Learn to shift your focus away from your thinking mind to the person in front of you; what is he/she actually saying? Respond to their words, not to the thoughts in your head. Pay attention to the person’s body language, as well as nuances within his/hers words and voice.
Have plenty of self-love and healthy ambitions, and always work hard for the things you believe in, nonetheless, count your blessings. Be grateful for all the opportunities, big or small, this life presents you with. You’ll never be fully satisfied if you’re constantly seeking for more, without pausing to reflect on all the wonderful things you already have in your life. There’s plenty to be grateful for; the small things (which in fact aren’t small at all, but we’re so used to them, and therefore easily take them for granted) such as the bed you sleep in, the water you drink, the food on your table, the job you have, the people around you, the house you live in. Be appreciative, and don’t forget yourself – show appreciation and compassion towards yourself as well. Everything starts with you. While you can’t change another person, you can always change yourself.
Learn to take responsibility for your actions. No one will come and save you, life is fully your responsibility. If you’re not satisfied with where you are at the moment, don’t start by blaming outer circumstances, or the people around you, instead look within; what is it you can do in order to change things around? Don’t blame other people for your misfortunes; if someone chooses to treat you poorly – speak up for yourself, and start changing the way you look at things. You have the power to choose how you react to other people’s behaviour. Don’t take anything another person does personally. Take responsibility for your behaviour, for your actions. You’re the one in control of your life. You can’t control the things happening for you, nevertheless, you can control how you react to the things happening for you.
Speak your mind.
Don’t be afraid to speak with honesty. Be real, be raw, be you. Don’t let anyone dim your light. If you wish to create something, change something, or simply put your mark on this world in one way or the other – just go for it. Don’t be afraid to fail, be happy you tried. Be confident within your abilities, within yourself. We all have the right to speak our minds. As long as you don’t disrespect anyone, do what sets your soul on fire. And while you’re busy working on your passions, you encourage others to do so as well. These things spread like wildfire.
Embrace an abundance mentality.
If you walk through life with a lack mindset, you most probably will have difficulties achieving anything. Another person’s success doesn’t mean that now there’s less for you, quite the contrary; it simply means that also you have the possibility to succeed. Learn to embrace an abundance mentality.
And if you’re one of those that have difficulties being happy for other peoples’ happiness – change it, and change it now. You being jealous of other peoples’ successes, won’t get you anywhere. Start to be happy for other people, and you’ll see that more will come to you. Be open-minded, don’t be afraid to try new things and step outside that comfort zone of yours – when you start to open your eyes to the world around you, you’ll see there’s plenty you can do. Plenty of different ways to succeed. Do your thing. Do you.